Preventing Flirting

[jaydawg888]

Hi,
I've been thinking as of late and wanted a few extra thoughts on the matter.
I know how to stop girls from flirting with me, how to easily tell them that I'm in a relationship and I'm in no way interested. But I was wondering if anyone had any wild and crazy, or just plain logical ways to prevent them from even approaching me in the first place without tacking a sign to my back that says "taken".

I know it's a fool's dream to be able to not even deal with this, but even so.. I'm always up for others opinions on the matter.
How would YOU prevent girl's of every shape, size, race, and age from flirting with you when you really don't want to have to deal with it in the first place? Without making myself unattractive that is, cause that feels unfair to the woman I'm in a courtship with.

And yeah.... I'm that jerk everyone complains about who gets hit on.. It's not even funny either, especially when I'm trying to stay focused on God and keep my mind free of all the stupid egotistical thoughts that come along when people flirt with you.

 

[evelina]

I know it's a fool's dream to be able to not even deal with this, but even so.. I'm always up for others opinions on the matter.
How would YOU prevent BOYS of every shape, size, race, and age from flirting with you when you really don't want to have to deal with it in the first place? Without making myself unattractive that is, cause that feels unfair to the MAN I'm in a courtship with.

And yeah.... I'm that jerk everyone complains about who gets hit on.. It's not even funny either, especially when I'm trying to stay focused on God and keep my mind free of all the stupid egotistical thoughts that come along when people flirt with you.

Well i just have some lil changes

 

[Rissa77]

I posted this in another thread when a girl asked how to act around guys cuz she doesn't want to be ice cold, and doesn't want to be flirty either, but doesn't know the balance:

I can tell you what I do based on my preferences. See, I wouldn't consider dating a stranger. I want to be friends first. And have some of the same friends. So when it comes to strange guys, I don't make eye contact, I barely look at them at all, and I keep all body language to nothing or to a negative standpoint. Body language is a big thing. Eye contact is too. When it comes to guy friends, I guess I'm like one of the guys. We enjoy each other's company. There's no flirting or awkwardness. I tend to make more guy friends than girl friends anyways because I don't have flirty tendencies and I dislike drama queens... I'm myself around them. And by doing that, I've acquired some really great guy friends.

And then I point it out when ppl flirt and make sure to tell them I don't like it. I'm a blunt person. It works with some people, but not with Mister up there. He

 

[Jullianna]

That does get old, which is why I spend a lot more time at home now than I once did. When I do go out, I try to avoid places and situations where that's likely to happen because, like Rissa, I only date guys I've gotten to know as friends first. And it seems like if you go with a group of friends it's less likely to happen, especially if some of your friends are guys because other guys will usually assume that you're with one of them.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I dont have this problem

 

[KnightdeKhristos]

I wonder how interested girls are of you if you tell them that you're broke...

 

[NukePooch]

How about passing out some business cards?

 

[christiancollegegirl]

I wear a fake engagement ring. The ones that flirt anyway aren't worth getting in a relationship with. No real man worth his salt would flirt with another mans woman. But if they ask about the ring and ask if I'm really engaged, I tell the truth and say no.

 

[persecuted]

Wow, Jaydawg. This is indeed your lucky day because you have found THE go to guy on getting rid of women. Of course we know the most tried and true technique to get rid of them is to tell them that you love them. Don't know why this one works exactly, we just know it does. Being in a relationship, you might not want to try this one. In your case I think you might just want to view approaching women as an OPPORTUNITY. Yes, there is nothing women like more than hearing about other women... and you have lots to tell. Talk about your girlfriend non-stop. Maybe bring up some past flames too. DON'T be deliberate about it, you don't want them to catch on that you're doing this to just get rid of them. But tell dragged out stories with no point to them. Feel free to drift off in multiple directions with incoherent mumbled finishes to sentences. Stop mid-sentence and point out another girl walking by. Say "wow! she looks nice in those pants! Don't you think?" Like as if she actually is one of the guys. Then go for the killer, tell stories about how you hate things that 90% of all women like. Tell a joke about how other guys are dragged around the mall by their girlfriends... then laugh really hard at your own joke when she hasn't. As she starts to look bored by you, start leaning in standing closer to her. Laugh again inappropriately. A good slobbering face spray might help but then she might think its romantic you're sharing bodily fluids with her.

I'm hoping some of this will work for you but I mean we're dealing with the logic of women here so it could all backfire on you. The woman I think I had most troubles ever getting rid of nothing at all seemed to work with.

 

[buckeyegirl700]

Hi,
I've been thinking as of late and wanted a few extra thoughts on the matter.
I know how to stop girls from flirting with me, how to easily tell them that I'm in a relationship and I'm in no way interested. But I was wondering if anyone had any wild and crazy, or just plain logical ways to prevent them from even approaching me in the first place without tacking a sign to my back that says "taken".

I know it's a fool's dream to be able to not even deal with this, but even so.. I'm always up for others opinions on the matter.
How would YOU prevent girl's of every shape, size, race, and age from flirting with you when you really don't want to have to deal with it in the first place? Without making myself unattractive that is, cause that feels unfair to the woman I'm in a courtship with.

And yeah.... I'm that jerk everyone complains about who gets hit on.. It's not even funny either, especially when I'm trying to stay focused on God and keep my mind free of all the stupid egotistical thoughts that come along when people flirt with you.

It is impossible. There are men and women who can have wedding rings on showing their married and still have people flirt with them. The only thing you can do is tell them your not interested.

 

[buckeyegirl700]

It all depends on what type of woman is flirting with you i the first place. If you are being flirted with in a public place and do not know the woman I would assume it would be easier to deal with. I knew a guy once that had a female co-worker flirt with him non stop. He told her he was engaged and was not interested. She still flirted with him until she became interested in someone else.

 

[needmesomejesus]

isn't it nice that girls are flirting with you? doesn't that mean they like you? I mean I don't think there's a way to stop it. Just be nice, but don't lead them on make it clear you're in a relationship.

 

[zeroturbulence]

He's a real simple way to stop any woman who tries to flirt with you:

 

[Jullianna]

How about passing out some business cards?

those are awesome

 

[djness]

those are awesome

I'm so overcome with disappointment that Julianna didn't start this thread that I may never be able to flirt again.

May as well just hang up my hat and guns.....

 

[Jullianna]

Forgive me. I've been too busy building the perfect man, djness. I'm gonna watch Green Hornet in the morning to learn how I can outfit him with some of Kato's gadgets. Once that's done and I can upload all of the data from these threads...

 

[Liamson]

Wow, Jaydawg. This is indeed your lucky day because you have found THE go to guy on getting rid of women. Of course we know the most tried and true technique to get rid of them is to tell them that you love them. Don't know why this one works exactly, we just know it does. Being in a relationship, you might not want to try this one. In your case I think you might just want to view approaching women as an OPPORTUNITY. Yes, there is nothing women like more than hearing about other women... and you have lots to tell. Talk about your girlfriend non-stop. Maybe bring up some past flames too. DON'T be deliberate about it, you don't want them to catch on that you're doing this to just get rid of them. But tell dragged out stories with no point to them. Feel free to drift off in multiple directions with incoherent mumbled finishes to sentences. Stop mid-sentence and point out another girl walking by. Say "wow! she looks nice in those pants! Don't you think?" Like as if she actually is one of the guys. Then go for the killer, tell stories about how you hate things that 90% of all women like. Tell a joke about how other guys are dragged around the mall by their girlfriends... then laugh really hard at your own joke when she hasn't. As she starts to look bored by you, start leaning in standing closer to her. Laugh again inappropriately. A good slobbering face spray might help but then she might think its romantic you're sharing bodily fluids with her.

I'm hoping some of this will work for you but I mean we're dealing with the logic of women here so it could all backfire on you. The woman I think I had most troubles ever getting rid of nothing at all seemed to work with.

(takes notes) I like this approach.

 

[Forlorn-Hope]

*Takes out a razor blade* I charge $50 for my disfiguring services.

 

[persecuted]

(takes notes) I like this approach.

Good, good, sharpen that pencil, I've got some more here.

If you have one part stand up comedian in you, you'll know nothing quite beats some good old fashioned self-deprecating humour. This stuff is classic. Unfortunately, or fortunately in your case, women absolutely hate it in a one on one conversation. So just go wild telling those best self put downs that you actually do find funny. If you want to get nasty and hit women below the belt, make jokes about cell phones. This is truly the female equivalent to getting kicked in the groin as women are so enthralled with hand held technology it seems to have filled certain voids Freud spoke of women as having regarding certain "envies" from birth. As this is a christian chat site I will refrain from using the actual word. Proceed to make comments like "I had to get dump my last girlfriend because she insisted on keeping me on a digital leash. She must have been texting/calling me like FOUR times a day!" Watch her face start to shade red and her eyes to look embarrassed. As you know women nowadays want to incessantly tweet, text, call, and status update constantly while expecting you to be there for each and every one. Suggesting dislike of this is the modern day equivalent of telling a woman 50 years ago you don't want to have kids. She no doubt kept her last guy on a digital leash and expects to do the same with the next one.

Now, please, don't come back to me and say "Well, Persecuted, I tried your strategy and it has all gone bad and this girl I can't get rid of now." What I mean to say is, I have given some specific examples to use, and while I am hopeful you can be creative and use other ones, be very aware that there are many things that women SAY they hate that if you try will get the opposite reaction.

Okay, finally, I will admit I have somewhat held out on you. I have in fact been using a very specific one for some time that has given me splendid success. Start talking about cheerleaders. Women are geared to absolutely hate them as in "I'm not one of those barbie or cheerleader types!" Once they figure out that that is what you actually want you can pretty much see the steam coming off of their pretty little dyed but not dyed blond hair. This is brillant because on the occasion one actually says "Oh, I'm a cheerleader!" or "My best friend is one." you've just made a good connection with something you might just want and can start thinking "trade up."

I hope this has helped and you may need to use it immediately because I think your thread has gotten you the affection of all of the girls on this chat site already as in "Who IS this guy? All the other losers are whining about how to get a girl and here HE is trying to get rid of them! Must be a good catch!"

 

[Jullianna]

I wear a fake engagement ring. The ones that flirt anyway aren't worth getting in a relationship with. No real man worth his salt would flirt with another mans woman. But if they ask about the ring and ask if I'm really engaged, I tell the truth and say no.

As I've said before, there have been times when friends have talked me into going places where I KNOW this will be an issue, so I've occasionally gotten my wedding ring out of the jewelry box and put it back on. MOST of the time it works..and when it doesn't, you're fully justified in saying...REALLY???!!!!

Other things that might be helpful:

- suddenly appear to notice a pungent odor, reach down, remove your shoe, sniff it and say, "Oh no...not this again.."
- tell them how great it is that they came over to talk and you'll be right back because you forgot to wear your Depends.
- say that you need to check in with the babysitter because, while she's really a good one, 8 kids can be a bit much for folks who aren't accustomed to it.
- randomly spit every 10 seconds