The Institutional Church and Denominations--please share your experience

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Mission21

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House church is usually kinda "iffy" at best...it usually starts with the best of intentions but degenerates into watching the pregame NFL highlights pretty quickly or gets cancelled due to lack of participation. But as well there can be anything from snake handling to chandelier swinging (or even holy wife swapping) at some of the house churches...I've seen/heard of any number of wacky things going on.

However...
Panera Bread is still full on any given day absolutely full of small group bible studies.

For whatever reason bread, donuts, and bakeries are the international locations that small group bible studies tend to meet. Been this way around the world.... from Brazil to Pakistan and even Russia...the various bakeries are where Christians go to meet.

And I really wouldn't be able to explain why. I just know what is...

Then the independent coffee shops (anywhere but Starbucks) also seem to be gaining popularity for small group bible studies.

And I get it...
It is very difficult to find a church. There are so many various beliefs and how they live out their faith in worship it's mind boggling.
And so few are having Sunday School classes anymore...but Sunday School is my reason for going to any church...

I've missed Sunday School a LOT because of coronavirus...and when the wives of the various pastors are in your class... you gotta wait till the entire pandemic is over.... several of them are either getting over or getting re-infected now. *Sigh*

I get it...it's been so lonely in a way. I miss the guys and I know that my wife misses the ladies. Just another year and maybe we can get on the other side of this thing.

I'm a very gregarious person...where I'm not going to whine or cry (ok...so maybe a little bit in the corner by myself away from everyone else) I know that it's temporary and things will get better eventuallyDifficult/
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"Panera Bread is.."
"..the independent coffee shop also seems to be.."
In those places, sometimes you can have/find genuine 'Christian fellowship'.
- Sharing/discussing spiritual issues,etc..
- Studying the Bible.
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Nowadays, many people are searching for..
- 'Genuine & spiritual' Christian fellowship.
- Difficult to find it..in churches.
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Some people might remember..
- Coffee house.
- & Christian coffee house..
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*I am saying this..
- From experience..for many years.
 

Mission21

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Post #61
My perspective/comment is on..
- North America/United States.
 

JohnDB

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Post #61
My perspective/comment is on..
- North America/United States.
When having small group bible study...it's a group conversation... ALL input into the subject matter under study is welcomed and good. So later, because we have developed friendships, we are sharing meals and evenings together we talk more freely about our lives and relationships...we are more deeply invested in each other's lives to the point where we can feel free to use scriptures and the lessons we know about to talk with each other. It's a much more intimate relationship than "normal friends"...we don't preach at each other as it's another conversation...but much less formalized than even small group is.

It's applying those scriptures in our lives...but we talk about other fun things too. Like stocks and investments and trips and cooking. Normal stuff that friends do.

We all want those personal connections and friends...that's how it happens...
 
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ChristianTonyB

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Yes, I much agree--as I said in response to another post--I would like to be in a fellowship that is more like the 1st Century Church--people lived in community then, often with large extended families and they by need and necessity were in daily contact. We must make a concerted effort for anything like that to happen now. I for one have no family where I live and my few close friends have moved to other states. I find the Institutional Church--strange--artificial--often devoid of life--and the Spirit.
Hi Laura. Have you had any success finding your ideal fellowship yet? How do you think a fellowship should basically operate? Shalom, Tony
 

soberxp

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I may have a different view.

Whatever the reason you're not used to these churches.

First of all,
You should be aware of your problems,
Maybe it's because of young rebellion,
Maybe it's because of your disobedience.
If you think you understand the Bible beyond the institutions churches and denominations,
Ask yourself that can you forgive the ignorance of these institutions churches and denominations.

But in fact, I prefer that your personal liberalism prevents you from integrating into these groups. You don't really try to integrate yourself into these churches.

These are just my suggestions.You can think about yourself, whether you are in this situation,Then make a decision.
 
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ChristianTonyB

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I may have a different view.

Whatever the reason you're not used to these churches.

First of all,
You should be aware of your problems,
Maybe it's because of young rebellion,
Maybe it's because of your disobedience.
If you think you understand the Bible beyond the institutions churches and denominations,
Ask yourself that can you forgive the ignorance of these institutions churches and denominations.

But in fact, I prefer that your personal liberalism prevents you from integrating into these groups. You don't really try to integrate yourself into these churches.

These are just my suggestions.You can think about yourself, whether you are in this situation,Then make a decision.

Are your comments here directed towards yourself? Is this a check list, a self analysis you went through before deciding where you should fellowship?
 

Laura798

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Hi Laura. Have you had any success finding your ideal fellowship yet? How do you think a fellowship should basically operate? Shalom, Tony
Ive just moved to another state just this week — havent be on this site—busy and overwhelmed! Godwilling will find something here— ideal is simple, organic. Bible centered fellowship — no church made for the masses — blaring same old choruses, segregating of the ages— no cookie cutter man centered church for me which is what most of them are.
 

Gardenias

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Ive just moved to another state just this week — havent be on this site—busy and overwhelmed! Godwilling will find something here— ideal is simple, organic. Bible centered fellowship — no church made for the masses — blaring same old choruses, segregating of the ages— no cookie cutter man centered church for me which is what most of them are.





Welcome back been missing you and wondering.
It's pretty fire in bible discussion so jump right back in.....lol
 
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ChristianTonyB

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Ive just moved to another state just this week — havent be on this site—busy and overwhelmed! Godwilling will find something here— ideal is simple, organic. Bible centered fellowship — no church made for the masses — blaring same old choruses, segregating of the ages— no cookie cutter man centered church for me which is what most of them are.
Moving is the pits. I hope you get through it OK. It's a very stressful thing. May you get good rest after it all.

I agree with almost everything you have said, except I have not encountered them to be man-centred so much, just not pragmatic, and definitely not always God centred. But I'm a male, so I guess that's given from a male perspective.

We are supposed to be family, but we don't interact like one. There's some mindless requirement that says whenever Christians meet up as a group for fellowship, it has to be done with some kind of formalised and fixed agenda. It's backward, counter-productive, and not true fellowship.
 

Laura798

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Welcome back been missing you and wondering.
It's pretty fire in bible discussion so jump right back in.....lol
Oh thank you Gardenias!🤗 i still havent got my bearings— I moved to Houston from a small city in the San Francisco Bay Area. Where i lived was more like a small town— a park 2 blocks away— the same with the library and pharmacy - grocery store, post office and bank a block away. Here — so much traffic— everything is spread out — it’s overwhelming— not to mention the ginormous HEB grocery stores — its like something out of a scifi film. Right now I’m online church hunting— thanks for saying “Hi” — oddly i didnt get an email notification— sorry for the late response!
 

Gardenias

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I'm happy your doing what you want. God hears us and answers in his time.
Happy to see you!
 

Laura798

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Moving is the pits. I hope you get through it OK. It's a very stressful thing. May you get good rest after it all.

I agree with almost everything you have said, except I have not encountered them to be man-centred so much, just not pragmatic, and definitely not always God centred. But I'm a male, so I guess that's given from a male perspective.

We are supposed to be family, but we don't interact like one. There's some mindless requirement that says whenever Christians meet up as a group for fellowship, it has to be done with some kind of formalised and fixed agenda. It's backward, counter-productive, and not true fellowship.
Thanks Tony for your response and for getting it. What i mean by man centered is the TV cafes the choices of traditional vs contemporary, the segregation of the ages, trying so hard to be relevant and entertaining, the formulas— even down to the untucked shirt, jeans and loafers by even the 60 something pastors. Not wanting people to feel uncomfortable so they soften the message with positive psychology and replace words such as sin and sinner with things such as were not perfect or were all broken….🙄
ps excuse not editing— typing on my tiny iphone se as my laptop broke.
 

Laura798

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I'm happy your doing what you want. God hears us and answers in his time.
Happy to see you!
I moved here to be near my youngest son— i prayed before moving, but still feeling strange and out of sorts…
 

Gardenias

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I understand that especially such a big city and state.
At least you are close to some family.
Job will come next.
Just breathe sister.
 

Laura798

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I understand that especially such a big city and state.
At least you are close to some family.
Job will come next.
Just breathe sister.
Yes, thats what i keep telling myself….it will take time to acclimate— i think of the verse “ whether you turn to the right or to the left God is there…” 🙏✨
 

Gardenias

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We are never alone. Every step we take,he takes with us.
Our wonderful Master helps carry all our burdens,therefore they are light.
He also supplies our needs according to his riches in glory.
Praise be to him!
 
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ChristianTonyB

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Thanks Tony for your response and for getting it. What i mean by man centered is the TV cafes the choices of traditional vs contemporary, the segregation of the ages, trying so hard to be relevant and entertaining, the formulas— even down to the untucked shirt, jeans and loafers by even the 60 something pastors. Not wanting people to feel uncomfortable so they soften the message with positive psychology and replace words such as sin and sinner with things such as were not perfect or were all broken….🙄
ps excuse not editing— typing on my tiny iphone se as my laptop broke.
Yep, I understand what you are saying Laura. They've lost the plot IMO, and diminished the meaning of true piety and fellowship. No matter how many religious stage shows/services we go to, or institutionalised business and practices we support, they will not make us a true follower of Christ. It's grieving to me to see the decay in fellowship over time, to say the least, and I can't begin to imagine how frustrated and angry God must be about it. So many have come to the church to get godly help, and instead have been emotionally mesmerised and sidetracked by various man-derived religious rituals and practices, and have unfortunately believed the rhetoric. What a pity, and what a pit!

Anyway, after arguing until black and blue in the face, trying to convince people to have a close look at the religious traditions of man, and compare them to the Way of Jesus to see if they line up with how He went about life whilst here on earth, but the suggestion is rejected like water off a ducks back. I don't try as hard anymore to encourage people out of the pit unless they are questioning its veracity, but rather I try to help people stay out of the pit, or not fall into it in the first place.

I understand your issues with your iPhone SE, I pretty well needed a super magnify glass to make out the kbd, let alone type on it. The only problem I have now, is dealing with a dyslexic kbd on my old iPad. ☹️