What would you learn?

[zeroturbulence]

I dont like learning new things, or being uncomfortable. So its safe to say im not flexible at all.

You need a man who can teach you how to be more flexible. Wait, that didn't sound right.

 

[See_KING_Truth]

I have never learned to do something exclusively for somebody else, I have always had somewhat of a desire to learn the new thing for myself. If I were to try to learn a new activity or skill for somebody elses sake, I would probably not put as much effort into the learning process and would not be as motivated to persevere through any difficulties; possibly, but not likely, even give up completely. I am more interested in trying new things together so we can share the learning experience. This is speaking from a perspective of never actually learning something for somebody else, my perspective could change in time...

The only thing that would hold me back from stretching my horizons would be myself. I try not to limit myself because in limiting myself I would also be putting limits on God, and God is not a God of limits. I would say this makes me very flexible.

I don't really care whether a person has the desire to learn things that I am interested in or not, I would hope that the person would have some common interest with myself in the first place. If a person would ask to be taught, then I would gladly teach them, but I would not apply any pressure on a person to learn any activities or skills that I am interested in.

 

[phil36]

Learniogn new things can be fun and or life changing. However, If you asre with soemone and you love them then you will want to share an interest in their interests or atleast make an effort (just being honest).

I don't think you can change who you are, you can change bad habits, but to change you is not an ideal situation, it will just make you unhappy. On top of that, why would a partner want to change you?

It's Like football (soccer), I don't like football much, but if i met or married someone who did, I would go to matches, watch on Tv etc on occasions becuase I like it, but i would get joy knowing they liked it.

talking of bad habbits above.. can we actually change all bad habbits? I was thinking about that as I typed. what do you think?

 

[phil36]

Soz, too late to amend above.

Although, I said footbal as an example I also know that doing things like that take effort, especially if its something your not particularily interested in.

Soz, but I thought that was quite important...effort!

 

[Liz01]

I think that we can learn new bad habits as a consecuence of the relationship but not because we want to, i dont think any person want to learn a bad habit.

 

[NukePooch]

You need a man who can teach you how to be more flexible. Wait, that didn't sound right.

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[allforfun]

I think that we can learn new bad habits as a consecuence of the relationship but not because we want to, i dont think any person want to learn a bad habit.

Sure we can learn bad habits, but that isn't really what I am thinking. I am thinking more in terms of things we don't know and maybe wouldn't if we didn't date that person. My example was softball. I had a guy go to a creative writing class with me once and he turned out to really enjoy it. But he never would have went before hand because he didn't think about it.

I honestly don't want to sound co-dependent here because I am not. I have my friends and hobbies. But I think it would be fun to pick something out that neither one of us had ever done before and try. If neither of like? No harm no foul. I want to get out there and try it though and I am willing to get out there with the other person. I hope he feels the same.

 

[zeroturbulence]

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