How do you handle your emotions?
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Susanna
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Susanna
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Why has this site turned all gender neutral???
I got the blues...noooooo, not a chance hahaha.
I got the blues...noooooo, not a chance hahaha.
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Susanna
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I don't have that many exes and haven't been single since 1980, but I do remember facing them again and do remember facing others I left on less than friendly terms.It's been forever since I started a thread! Good times, good times.
Anyway!
I recently ran into two exes (on different days) and had very different emotional reactions. The first encounter was at my doctor's office. I was sitting across the office near a large potted plant. When I spotted him I slouched down and over into the plant to hide. It was a brilliant move; he didn't see me. I should have been a spy.
The second ex I ran into was a different story. It hurt to see him, and it took my breath away just a little bit. We didn't end on the best of terms, and we haven't spoken in years. This encounter was brief. Honestly, the word encounter seems too generous a term. In seeing him I realized I didn't miss him romantically, I missed him as a friend. With the exception of one ex who goes to church with me, I don't speak to anyone I've dated. It's always a clean break. But in this case, I would have made an exception for ex number 2. Too bad he won't make an exception for me.
So tell me how you handle your ex partners! I want all the details.
If I was embarrassed with my actions and if there was time to rectify, I took the time to do that. I can't say anything changed in our relationship after that, but at least I stopped replaying the record over and over again in my mind. And, if it worked out well, I suspect the other person had the same experience. Time is too short to waste time replaying records in our heads of things we didn't like the first time.
If there wasn't any time to talk, I held my head high, and said hello to the person. I'm good with micro-expressions so can judge people by that tiny moment between hearing a stranger saying Hello to recognizing me, and then having a reaction. If the reaction is a good one, I know the person isn't playing the broken record in their heads often. If there never is recognition of who I am, then whatever happened wasn't important enough to that person that I need to keep playing the record again. If the reaction was negative, but there is still little time to talk, I'll say something like, "I'm sorry how things worked out, but wish you well."
And I can recognize that brief moment when the words sunk in to get the real reaction before the person puts on the face of someone pretending it didn't matter. If there is peace with that person in that moment, there is peace with me. And if there is no peace, then I just set a record to repeat over and over again in my head to figure out what I did wrong.
In all the years, I've done this there has been more often a positive outcome than a negative one. So the number of records replaying in my head have dwindled a bit. Some keep going on, but only because I've never seen the person again.
It is easier to see the person again then to never see them again. Second chances are good.
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LaVieEnRose
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I can attest to this. I remember reading a post, not word-for-word exactly like this post, but having the same general information content. You are not crazy... or at least this post vanishing is not proof that you are crazy... because I remember you did make this post before.
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I have three exes...I guess? The first one was when I was 17 and he lives in Rhode Island. We have never met but we ended things in a friendly way. It was good. It was a purely online relationship with two socially awkward teens. 
Second was a guy from the bank I used to work at. He wasn't really my boyfriend...we only dated maybe three times? It ended because he was not taking his relationship with Christ seriously and wanted things I wasn't gonna give. He got fired from the job and I moved back to the city I live in now. So he lives four hours away. I doubt I'll ever see him again. I don't want to because he was very mean when I told him that it wasn't gonna work.
Third was even meaner. It was mostly an online relationship too. He lives an hour away. I hope I never see him again. I am actually afraid of this person. He was emotionally abusive.
Gosh...I hadn't realized that both the second and third dates/boyfriends whatever they were...were both mean and emotionally abusive.
If I saw the last two...I would hide and run away as fast as possible! I am so glad all of that is over with. Ain't nobody got time for that!
It was a purely online relationship with two socially awkward teens. Second was a guy from the bank I used to work at. He wasn't really my boyfriend...we only dated maybe three times? It ended because he was not taking his relationship with Christ seriously and wanted things I wasn't gonna give. He got fired from the job and I moved back to the city I live in now. So he lives four hours away. I doubt I'll ever see him again. I don't want to because he was very mean when I told him that it wasn't gonna work.
Third was even meaner. It was mostly an online relationship too. He lives an hour away. I hope I never see him again. I am actually afraid of this person. He was emotionally abusive.
Gosh...I hadn't realized that both the second and third dates/boyfriends whatever they were...were both mean and emotionally abusive.
If I saw the last two...I would hide and run away as fast as possible! I am so glad all of that is over with. Ain't nobody got time for that!
If I was in that situation I'd try to motion to them, then tell them I have no hurt feeling's for the past. Then leave on friendly terms.It's been forever since I started a thread! Good times, good times.
Anyway!
I recently ran into two exes (on different days) and had very different emotional reactions. The first encounter was at my doctor's office. I was sitting across the office near a large potted plant. When I spotted him I slouched down and over into the plant to hide. It was a brilliant move; he didn't see me. I should have been a spy.
The second ex I ran into was a different story. It hurt to see him, and it took my breath away just a little bit. We didn't end on the best of terms, and we haven't spoken in years. This encounter was brief. Honestly, the word encounter seems too generous a term. In seeing him I realized I didn't miss him romantically, I missed him as a friend. With the exception of one ex who goes to church with me, I don't speak to anyone I've dated. It's always a clean break. But in this case, I would have made an exception for ex number 2. Too bad he won't make an exception for me.
So tell me how you handle your ex partners! I want all the details.
Applied in live:
Matthew 22:37-39 (AKJV) Jesus said to him, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.
This is the first and great commandment.
And the second is like to it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
Galatians 5:22-23 (AKJV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (AKJV) Charity suffers long, and is kind; charity envies not; charity braggs not itself, is not puffed up,
Does not behave itself unseemly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil;
Rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Amen blessing
Matthew 22:37-39 (AKJV) Jesus said to him, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.
This is the first and great commandment.
And the second is like to it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
Galatians 5:22-23 (AKJV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (AKJV) Charity suffers long, and is kind; charity envies not; charity braggs not itself, is not puffed up,
Does not behave itself unseemly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil;
Rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Amen blessing
I'd rather just study and learn from some of my emotions rather than putting them on and living in them if that makes sense.
um ok
but its dusty under the bed
I just put socks under there
Ive got a new book called 'How do I feel' A dictionary of Emotions
Its 140 pages and each page has an emotion, a description and a picture on what it looks like. Teachers need to use it for their children cos some dont know why they cry...
but its dusty under the bed
I just put socks under there
Ive got a new book called 'How do I feel' A dictionary of Emotions
Its 140 pages and each page has an emotion, a description and a picture on what it looks like. Teachers need to use it for their children cos some dont know why they cry...
The real entertainment was GOP, you know you miss those all caps but easy to read posts.
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MariusAlexander
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I cry and punch my pillow and scream into my mattress. Sometimes I go outside and break sticks over my neighbor's fence. Very therapeutic.
I thought GOP was before the Tommy/LaVieEnRose era.
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