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I have to go to church in a few but, I will try and summarize quickly what I was referring to. Its like a band-aid (especially the old ones) success is had when its removed quickly.
When I lived in Sandy Eggo, I was never single. If I liked a girl I asked her out and made it quickly and bluntly apparent. If I didn't like a girl, I ignored her. Everything was executed quickly and without hesitation. I had nothing to lose because I knew eventually that the most that could happen is that I was going to burn a seemingly meaningless bridge.
In my hometown the rules change. I can't willy nilly burn bridges. I have tried to be considerate and take things delicately but, I think I've officially crawled into every girls friend-box, within 25 miles. So either I have to change the rules or I have to date out of town cause this isn't working. I can't be on great terms with everyone all the time. I have to be willing to make enemies, even if its where I actually live.
Here unlike in Florida or San Diego, a friend box is a black hole of doom. Not even light escapes.
When I lived in Sandy Eggo, I was never single. If I liked a girl I asked her out and made it quickly and bluntly apparent. If I didn't like a girl, I ignored her. Everything was executed quickly and without hesitation. I had nothing to lose because I knew eventually that the most that could happen is that I was going to burn a seemingly meaningless bridge.
In my hometown the rules change. I can't willy nilly burn bridges. I have tried to be considerate and take things delicately but, I think I've officially crawled into every girls friend-box, within 25 miles. So either I have to change the rules or I have to date out of town cause this isn't working. I can't be on great terms with everyone all the time. I have to be willing to make enemies, even if its where I actually live.
Here unlike in Florida or San Diego, a friend box is a black hole of doom. Not even light escapes.
Well, I, like yourself was married most of my younger years. I don't think there are really any rules except what is obvious! Good Manners, I think would be a must lol.
I think the words of 'Take things slowly' makes a lot of sense. dating is all about finding out about the other person, growing closer in friendship, falling closer in love (thats if you do?). So do we make our own grouind rules, whilst dating, because usuallly anyrules you make go out the window when you actually start dating, es[ecially if you actually think you may fall for the person.
I would say, go with the flow, enjoy it and avoid putting yourself into situations that allow for temptation... (although, I think sometimes this would be hard).
as I say it's been a while here lol.
I think the words of 'Take things slowly' makes a lot of sense. dating is all about finding out about the other person, growing closer in friendship, falling closer in love (thats if you do?). So do we make our own grouind rules, whilst dating, because usuallly anyrules you make go out the window when you actually start dating, es[ecially if you actually think you may fall for the person.
I would say, go with the flow, enjoy it and avoid putting yourself into situations that allow for temptation... (although, I think sometimes this would be hard).
as I say it's been a while here lol.
S
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J
The only dating "rules" I ever had were my Daddy's 
:
1. couldn't date before 16
2. couldn't date anyone my parents didn't know
3. couldn't wear anything too short, too tight or too low cut ("jumped into that a little far, didn't you?""did you use my pliers to zip up those jeans?")
4. if they don't respect you enough to walk up to the door and knock, you're not going; anyone honking from the driveway might as well leave now
5. you can't call them. if they want to talk to you, they'll call you. you can call them back IF you miss their call.
6. if you stay out too late, you'l be up at 5 AM doing the dirtiest farm chore I can imagine
I suppose I have my own rules:
- don't date unbelievers
- don't date strangers
:1. couldn't date before 16
2. couldn't date anyone my parents didn't know
3. couldn't wear anything too short, too tight or too low cut ("jumped into that a little far, didn't you?""did you use my pliers to zip up those jeans?")
4. if they don't respect you enough to walk up to the door and knock, you're not going; anyone honking from the driveway might as well leave now
5. you can't call them. if they want to talk to you, they'll call you. you can call them back IF you miss their call.
6. if you stay out too late, you'l be up at 5 AM doing the dirtiest farm chore I can imagine
I suppose I have my own rules:
- don't date unbelievers
- don't date strangers
I have loads of "rules"
Date no one who is certifiably Blonde, regardless of their hair color.
Date > Half my age plus 7.
No one that my friends or family has dated is acceptable.
If I have dated someone no one from their gene pool is acceptable.
No one who's favorite color is pink is acceptable.
No one who has an obsession with horses or the Dallas Cowboys is acceptable.
No one that my parents recommend before I meet is acceptable.
No vegetarians.
On the Date rules:
-A movie @ her place is not a first date and definitely a red flag. (she wants something else)
-If the woman drinks on a first date, huge red flag. (alcoholic)
-If she criticizes my clothing for reasons other than the fact that it was made by 3rd world child slave labor, that is a red flag. (overly cirtical)
-If she can't trust that I'm a good driver, that is a red flag (trust issues)
-If she disrespects her parents, that is a red flag (poor form)
-If she is humiliated by the fact that I pray over my food in public, red flag.
-If she doesn't have a favorite book of the Bible, red flag
-If she is trying to sell me something by the end of the date, red flag.
Date no one who is certifiably Blonde, regardless of their hair color.
Date > Half my age plus 7.
No one that my friends or family has dated is acceptable.
If I have dated someone no one from their gene pool is acceptable.
No one who's favorite color is pink is acceptable.
No one who has an obsession with horses or the Dallas Cowboys is acceptable.
No one that my parents recommend before I meet is acceptable.
No vegetarians.
On the Date rules:
-A movie @ her place is not a first date and definitely a red flag. (she wants something else)
-If the woman drinks on a first date, huge red flag. (alcoholic)
-If she criticizes my clothing for reasons other than the fact that it was made by 3rd world child slave labor, that is a red flag. (overly cirtical)
-If she can't trust that I'm a good driver, that is a red flag (trust issues)
-If she disrespects her parents, that is a red flag (poor form)
-If she is humiliated by the fact that I pray over my food in public, red flag.
-If she doesn't have a favorite book of the Bible, red flag
-If she is trying to sell me something by the end of the date, red flag.
J
Ah ha! Now I get it
Date no one who:
Wears socks with sandals
Gets man manicures
Thinks music, art, poetry is for sissies
Is entertained by bodily function noises in public
Says bad things about his mother
Says negative things about ex-gfs/wives constantly (a bad moment here and there acceptable)
Can't discuss headline news topics
Can't discuss scripture
Can't remember the color of my eyes
Has learned all he cares to at this point
Is afraid to leave home
Hates road trips
Won't slow dance with me in the livingroom when no one is watching
Gets mad if I dunk him while swimming
Won't let me touch his hair
Doesn't understand that I have asthma and absolutely can't be around smokers
Hates animals
Hates kids
Is just plain dominating and rude
Clearly has jealousy issues (there's usually something deeper going on there)
Bashes women
On date rules:
I expect everyone to be fully clothed wherever food is being served
No taking me somewhere to be your trophy while you leave me alone with total strangers to discuss business
Don't try to coax me to eat something if I politely tell you that I don't care for it
Don't tell me you love me on the first date
Don't treat me like an empty headed Barbie doll
Date no one who:
Wears socks with sandals
Gets man manicures
Thinks music, art, poetry is for sissies
Is entertained by bodily function noises in public
Says bad things about his mother
Says negative things about ex-gfs/wives constantly (a bad moment here and there acceptable)
Can't discuss headline news topics
Can't discuss scripture
Can't remember the color of my eyes
Has learned all he cares to at this point
Is afraid to leave home
Hates road trips
Won't slow dance with me in the livingroom when no one is watching
Gets mad if I dunk him while swimming
Won't let me touch his hair
Doesn't understand that I have asthma and absolutely can't be around smokers
Hates animals
Hates kids
Is just plain dominating and rude
Clearly has jealousy issues (there's usually something deeper going on there)
Bashes women
On date rules:
I expect everyone to be fully clothed wherever food is being served
No taking me somewhere to be your trophy while you leave me alone with total strangers to discuss business
Don't try to coax me to eat something if I politely tell you that I don't care for it
Don't tell me you love me on the first date
Don't treat me like an empty headed Barbie doll