What Kind of Husband Do You Want?

[Magenta]

Philippians 4:13 + 12a

 

[Willow]

A landlord I once had would ask me to go to the chemist and get her medication for her if she was unable to instead of her own husband. I thought that was sad. I would never want to be in a marriage like that.

When he or my son was sick. I went and got them medicine , comfort foods like apple sauce , pop sickles, sprite or vernors. Then would make homemade chicken noodle soup. Because I felt when someone you loved is sick they deserve a little extra care and love.

 

[SonsOfCaleb]

My cats are more Godly then most men I have met. Meaning they love me no matter what when one aspect. When I am down they encourage me. When I am sick they are by my side. Which to some may think well that's what cats do. Not my cat Willow. She is not a lap cat. But she will not leave me when I am sick. My ex I would almost have to beg to get me medicine when I was so sick with the flu . He didn't feel like going out. Just saying ,think that over

Not hard to believe your cat is godlier than most men you've met. Men today are pansies. I look at some of them and wish they'd just go away. In most churches, especially 'Starbucks churches' (ie. churches that are so superficial that it's painful to watch, usually charismatic or charismatic-flavor churches), the men don't want any responsibilities in their lives, and because those churches worship vanity (that's why I call the christians that attend them iPhone christians), they celebrate and worship youthfulness, so the men don't want to grow up. You notice this a lot with the men who are forty and above. They want to be like the youth. In those Starbucks churches (which are usually populated by iPhone christians), the youth are the 'cool kids'.

Are you praying for a husband? If so, what has God told you about it? A godly man might not be what you expect or think. It's one thing to read Bible verses about a godly man or watch YouTube videos about it, but knowing or meeting one in person is another thing.

I haven't met a godly man yet either (though I believe my wife's father will be one). The only two people I've ever met or known in person who I would say were godly were two elderly women. I met the first one, Mary, when I was a teenager at a small/cell group meeting at the Atlanta Vineyard (a Starbucks church full of iPhone christians). The people at the cell group jumped all over Mary when she questioned a teaching by John Paul Jackson that they were all promoting. The teaching was false, and I spoke up about it too. They didn't climb all over me because I was a teenager, so I had value. But Mary? Well, she was a worthless old woman. After that, she never returned to the Atlanta Vineyard or its small groups. About a year later, I met the second woman, Mrs. Shaw, while working at a Wendy's in Atlanta. She gave me a lot of understanding about God and also helped to see a profound breakthrough in my life. Godliness isn't fashionable, but maybe you can ask God to show you what a godly man looks like.

 

[Willow]

Not hard to believe your cat is godlier than most men you've met. Men today are pansies. I look at some of them and wish they'd just go away. In most churches, especially 'Starbucks churches' (ie. churches that are so superficial that it's painful to watch, usually charismatic or charismatic-flavor churches), the men don't want any responsibilities in their lives, and because those churches worship vanity (that's why I call the christians that attend them iPhone christians), they celebrate and worship youthfulness, so the men don't want to grow up. You notice this a lot with the men who are forty and above. They want to be like the youth. In those Starbucks churches (which are usually populated by iPhone christians), the youth are the 'cool kids'.

Are you praying for a husband? If so, what has God told you about it? A godly man might not be what you expect or think. It's one thing to read Bible verses about a godly man or watch YouTube videos about it, but knowing or meeting one in person is another thing.

I haven't met a godly man yet either (though I believe my wife's father will be one). The only two people I've ever met or known in person who I would say were godly were two elderly women. I met the first one, Mary, when I was a teenager at a small/cell group meeting at the Atlanta Vineyard (a Starbucks church full of iPhone christians). The people at the cell group jumped all over Mary when she questioned a teaching by John Paul Jackson that they were all promoting. The teaching was false, and I spoke up about it too. They didn't climb all over me because I was a teenager, so I had value. But Mary? Well, she was a worthless old woman. After that, she never returned to the Atlanta Vineyard or its small groups. About a year later, I met the second woman, Mrs. Shaw, while working at a Wendy's in Atlanta. She gave me a lot of understanding about God and also helped to see a profound breakthrough in my life. Godliness isn't fashionable, but maybe you can ask God to show you what a godly man looks like.

I am not really looking for a man. I gave that to God. As far as what some churches do I keep all them in prayer. The word of God tells us to lift them in prayers. I just have fun with some of these forum post.

 

[SonsOfCaleb]

I am not really looking for a man. I gave that to God. As far as what some churches do I keep all them in prayer. The word of God tells us to lift them in prayers. I just have fun with some of these forum post.

Yeah, I don't keep them in prayer. I run away from them so I don't get pulled into a bowl of soy milk where I lose my Y chromosomes, start performing for everyone but myself, and end up like all the weak christian men whose wives, fiancées, and girlfriends secretly lust after men with a backbone. No thanks. I'd rather be a bad boy than a good christian boy any day of the week. And that's what churches, especially Starbucks churches, turn men into. Not a chance. Not a chance.

 

[Willow]

Yeah, I don't keep them in prayer. I run away from them so I don't get pulled into a bowl of soy milk where I lose my Y chromosomes, start performing for everyone but myself, and end up like all the weak christian men whose wives, fiancées, and girlfriends secretly lust after men with a backbone. No thanks. I'd rather be a bad boy than a good christian boy any day of the week. And that's what churches, especially Starbucks churches, turn men into. Not a chance. Not a chance.

I am doing what God has laid on my heart. Everyone's walk is different. God bless.

 

[Gojira]

It's weird seeing all these comments to people I've put on ignore because I see people talking into the space and don't see what they're replying to. Keep your peace at all costs. I put some people on ignore so I could keep mine. I don't do the arguing thing. It's craziness.

I try to resist the ignore feature here, as that's just too easy. I think it's a failing of internet "relationships", this ability to just silence someone when they cease to please. Could never do that in real life -- instead, you're forced to cope with them or make a big move to avoid the people in question.

In church, e.g., you meet disagreeable people. The Bible says that we are to love them anyway. I don't know how to do that, but I do know that cutting them out of my life totally is not (necessarily) the answer.

However, there does come a point when it becomes necessary, IMO. I have blocked a few here. A few more are dangerously close, but I'm going to see if there is any shot at a detente or at least our letting each other alone.

 

[Gojira]

My cats are more Godly then most men I have met. Meaning they love me no matter what when one aspect. When I am down they encourage me. When I am sick they are by my side. Which to some may think well that's what cats do.

No, I'd assume these were dogs Are you sure they're felis catus and not canis familiaris? (Yeah, I had to look those up )

 

[Willow]

No, I'd assume these were dogs Are you sure they're felis catus and not canis familiaris? (Yeah, I had to look those up )

I know people assume cats are not caring animals. But then again they think people cannot train them. Mine are trained to go lay down, go to bed, and other commands. Oh yeah and fetch better than most dogs I have had. But I do like dogs also. Cats do seem to have more attitude at times. I have seen some drama before in dogs, gotta love them all.

 

[Lynx]

Not hard to believe your cat is godlier than most men you've met. Men today are pansies. I look at some of them and wish they'd just go away. In most churches, especially 'Starbucks churches' (ie. churches that are so superficial that it's painful to watch, usually charismatic or charismatic-flavor churches), the men don't want any responsibilities in their lives, and because those churches worship vanity (that's why I call the christians that attend them iPhone christians), they celebrate and worship youthfulness, so the men don't want to grow up. You notice this a lot with the men who are forty and above. They want to be like the youth. In those Starbucks churches (which are usually populated by iPhone christians), the youth are the 'cool kids'.

Are you praying for a husband? If so, what has God told you about it? A godly man might not be what you expect or think. It's one thing to read Bible verses about a godly man or watch YouTube videos about it, but knowing or meeting one in person is another thing.

I haven't met a godly man yet either (though I believe my wife's father will be one). The only two people I've ever met or known in person who I would say were godly were two elderly women. I met the first one, Mary, when I was a teenager at a small/cell group meeting at the Atlanta Vineyard (a Starbucks church full of iPhone christians). The people at the cell group jumped all over Mary when she questioned a teaching by John Paul Jackson that they were all promoting. The teaching was false, and I spoke up about it too. They didn't climb all over me because I was a teenager, so I had value. But Mary? Well, she was a worthless old woman. After that, she never returned to the Atlanta Vineyard or its small groups. About a year later, I met the second woman, Mrs. Shaw, while working at a Wendy's in Atlanta. She gave me a lot of understanding about God and also helped to see a profound breakthrough in my life. Godliness isn't fashionable, but maybe you can ask God to show you what a godly man looks like.

Diogenes? Is that you?

 

[Gojira]

I know people assume cats are not caring animals. But then again they think people cannot train them. Mine are trained to go lay down, go to bed, and other commands. Oh yeah and fetch better than most dogs I have had. But I do like dogs also. Cats do seem to have more attitude at times. I have seen some drama before in dogs, gotta love them all.

The force is strong with this one...

 

[Gojira]

Yeah, I don't keep them in prayer. I run away from them so I don't get pulled into a bowl of soy milk where I lose my Y chromosomes, start performing for everyone but myself, and end up like all the weak christian men whose wives, fiancées, and girlfriends secretly lust after men with a backbone. No thanks. I'd rather be a bad boy than a good christian boy any day of the week. And that's what churches, especially Starbucks churches, turn men into. Not a chance. Not a chance.

Umm... I cannot follow every post. Would you be good enough to define the term "bad boy"? I don't mean every conceivable definition, just how you're applying it to yourself.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I once knew a guy who was in his 60s. He'd married a woman from Vietnam, and they had a daughter together. He said she was a good girl until they moved to America and she took up "Women's Lib". I'd never heard anyone say "Women's Lib" as many times as he did in the several months I went to his church. His wife was raising their daughter to have those man-hating beliefs and made him feel like a monster just for existing. He'd gotten her a green card and made a lot of money off her business preparing taxes. Now he was obsolete to her. She was a callous Jezebel who'd been reminded that men are the enemy; but she was able to take advantage of him because he had been raised on 'the Ahab Diet'.

They say, "You are what you eat." The Ahab Diet isn't literal food, but you do eat (imbibe) it. As this guy complained and complained about his wife, I figured I better talk to God about it. When I did, He showed me this: in the U.S., men are raised on an 'Ahab Diet'. Ahab was the Israelite king who married Jezebel and let her run the country. Men in the U.S. (and other countries, yes) are raised to be nice, polite, and to cater to women: they let women do wrong and also protect, aid, and abet their wrongdoing. Add to men the natural pride (ie. "I'm God and God is not") and self-centered nature that everyone is born with and you have a catastrophe called 'the Ahab spirit' (Ahab mindset). God showed me that His power (ie. the supernatural, etc.) manifests primarily through bold people.

(Like many truths, this fact is overlooked in the Bible. But if you look again from OT to NT, you'll see that God's power manifested through people who were bold and willing to put their lives on the line (but not through the immature, cowardly, and self-preserving) and that the bolder and more willing to put their lives on the line they were, the greater the supernatural power was available to and manifested through them. This truth is manifested most literally and most evidently in Jesus Christ, in His life, death, resurrection, and ascension.)

So, God showed me that all these revivals that all these churches are praying for... We're not waiting on Him for revivals; He's waiting on us. If we keep praying for revivals while we're on the run and hiding in caves (ie. we're scared of putting our reputations and well-being on the line), revivals will never come. One or more people need to step up boldly, and that's when God will honor the prayers. American men are 'trained' to not care for issues of social justice (due to their self-centeredness). If you look at all the organizations in America that promote social justice of any kind, probably around 90% are founded, run, or chaired by women. Women leading causes of justice instead of men is the same as women going to war while men stay back and hide. It's anomalous (and abominable). So, while women through feminism are indeed trying to destroy entire countries (and they're too hateful and blind to even see it), the absence of testosterone is really the cause. Jezebel can't do anything without an Ahab. Crazy women don't have the authority to spew their wickedness on anyone; they need a man to give them the authority or to let them usurp the authority. We see this throughout the Bible and history and in 1Kings 21 where Jezebel needed and got Ahab's authority/approval to kill an innocent man (just like she needed and got his authority/approval to kill God's prophets).

Crazy women and lazy men. Both need to be addressed. One causes constant and actual damage (crazy women: Jezebel) while the other jus sits there idly and lets it happen (lazy men: Ahab).

Your post reminds me of a conversation.
I heard an Asian lady brag to a group how her husband was a great man, he brought her to America and they had a content and happy marriage. She filled the role of what used to be the traditional wife, not only in her country, but unknown to her, her new land as far as christian women who want to model their lives after the Bible roles.
Then she had American friends who taught her how to be an "American" woman. Now she is proud and liberated!"
She continued to brag over and again how sassy she is and puts her husband in his place, etc. From her long diatribe she no longer had a happy marriage, BUT she felt very good (proud) about no longer being a meek asian woman, but a bold and loud American who speaks her mind, that happens to have adopted the secular cultural norms.

BTW, this chapter about queen jezebel makes me laugh every time I read it.!

https://thekingjamesversionbible.com/2-kings-9-30-37

 

[Willow]

Your post reminds me of a conversation.
I heard an Asian lady brag to a group how her husband was a great man, he brought her to America and they had a content and happy marriage. She filled the role of what used to be the traditional wife, not only in her country, but unknown to her, her new land as far as christian women who want to model their lives after the Bible roles.
Then she had American friends who taught her how to be an "American" woman. Now she is proud and liberated!"
She continued to brag over and again how sassy she is and puts her husband in his place, etc. From her long diatribe she no longer had a happy marriage, BUT she felt very good (proud) about no longer being a meek asian woman, but a bold and loud American who speaks her mind, that happens to have adopted the secular cultural norms.

BTW, this chapter about queen jezebel makes me laugh every time I read it.!

https://thekingjamesversionbible.com/2-kings-9-30-37

This perhaps is the moral of many of these stories. Stop looking for younger women in other countries to marry. Blame the woman ,but sorry have heard this over and over. Lust is the biggest factor of many of these men's issues. Plus I have seen some of these men treat them horrible as if they are their property. The women in the US may have their issues but will not tolerate being mistreated. I find no humor either way. I am disturbed if people think they all turn on the men because the poor guy was just being a husband and they wanted their own way. We are to be treated as equal in God's eyes. But some men take it that we are to be property and have no say. SMH

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Women around the world can thank Edward Bernays and Gloria Steinem style feminism for those "Glorious Freedom Torches".
There are other "honorable mentions" but there's only time for two on this broadcast from a few years ago.

 

[Live4Him3]

Blame the woman ,but sorry have heard this over and over. Lust is the biggest factor of many of these men's issues.

People have been blaming everybody but themselves since the time that Eve blamed the serpent, and Adam blamed both God and Eve.

There's nothing new under the sun...unfortunately.

As fallen as this world is, it's still possible for a man and woman to truly find love...IF they're both willing to do their own parts AND truly include God in the equation.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Torches of Freedom

 

[TheNarrowPath]

Oh, she's not the only one 'chasing me' and trying to poison people against me. Open your eyes and read between some lines. Most people will probably spaz out if they get to do [insert something here] for many years without consequences and then one day many years later are finally told, "Um, that thing you're doing is wrong."

The ignore button is very available. If someone disagrees with me, they should put me on ignore rather than trying to convince others that "He's such a bad guy!" I mean, all men are innately bad so that shouldn't be news.

Yup, I didnt even bother to read her reply. Theres no point. I will just continue to read threads here, give emojis out here and there, comment when I can. I havent even been here a month and starting to see this ugly side of chat that needs correcting. And Im all for correction, anyone just needs to look at my chat history lol. I cant be right all the time! That would be exhausting and pretty darn boring to be around I think CC has become life for some people here and finding some balance seems a good idea.

 

[TheNarrowPath]

I don't know who you're responding to because I've put several people on ignore so I don't have to see their comments. But it's apparent what you're responding about.

I don't have any apologies when I tell the truth. It's good to speak it with Grace, but it's good to speak it at all in a world where truth is hated, especially by those who don't want to change and grow.

I can walk into any room, church, building, etc., and pick up on the overall climate (ie. mindsets, value system, and practices of the people there). This makes it easy for me to pick up on people's attitudes (ie. how they are on the inside) even in their writing or typing online. One of many examples of this:

I recall when my mom tried and tried to poison me against my sister-in-law (younger brother's wife). Let's call her Shelly and call my brother Joshua. My mom said Shelly had written her a five-page letter attacking her, calling her names, etc. Before my encounter with God, I would automatically have sided with my mom (which doesn't mean I'd be against Shelly, but I'd simply believe my mom). But this was after the encounter. I'd gone to high school with Shelly and Joshua (Joshua and I were very close and got in enough fights that I didn't get to walk on graduation but he did a year later). Shelly and Joshua had a high school romance: a lot of boys wanted Shelly, but she wanted Joshua; and a lot of girls wanted Joshua, but he wanted Shelly. Shelly wasn't a hostile person and would only have been hostile to my mom if my mom had been hostile towards her.

When my mom told me that Shelly had been hostile to her in that letter (my mom even shed the tears and everything), I asked how that was true. She expected me to just believe her. (Men need to be aware of this-- when women want men to believe them just because they're women: #BelieveAllWomen.) I insisted on seeing the letter that Shelly had written her that she said was hostile. My mom got angry and refused. For the next three days, my mom would accuse Shelly to me, then get angry when I insisted on reading Shelly's letter so I could see for myself if my mom was right. On day four or five, my mom gave up and handed me the letter. Probably like most people, she didn't think that you can pick up on a person's attitude, meanings, or intentions in written words. She was wrong. I can often lift hidden messages off a page (this also happens often when I read the Bible) because that's just a thing God gave me. I combed Shelly's five-page letter over one or two times but only really needed to red it once. There was nothing Shelly had written that could be reasonably construed to be hostile towards my mom. I wasn't happy with my mom and didn't take her side.

During my encounter with God, He told me that the identity I was living at the time was not my real identity and said He would draw my real identity to the fore. The change was instant. Before the encounter, girls thought I was cute, but overall as far as relationships and all that were concerned, I was average to them. The very day of the encounter with God (it happened on an Amtrak train between Baltimore and Atlanta so that the person who walked on to the train was not the person who walked off), women started treating me different. I don't care for admiration, bragging, all the things most people love; but all the girls at my new job and neighborhood were after me. My aunt, who I lived with in Atlanta, even had women at her own job who she said wanted to meet me just from pictures she had of me as her nephew on the job; and her son, my cousin (a weakling of a man who hated and was jealous of me and wanted me dead, dead, dead)-- whose name was Austin (and whose best friend was Steve, so I called them "Stone Cold")-- admitted to me that girls at his job wanted to know who I was after I stopped by one day (Steve didn't mind admitting it). At the apartment pools, girls were turning around when I walked in and some of the guys didn't really want me around. It was at that time that twenty married women at work wanted to sleep with me. So, what happened? God drew my real identity (which is located in all men, mostly 'beneath' in cultures that attack masculinity) to the fore which 'resurfaced' my masculine double-foundation of I could care less and simultaneously I care a lot. People are valuable enough to care about but not valuable enough to tolerate their bs. It's both and most people don't know what's up when they see both together.

I'm not slow when it comes to discerning people's heart motivations, intentions, etc., and I have a natural tendency to look down the road when I'm in a situation or interacting with someone in order to know what could come of any interaction or relationship with them. I understand why people act like they do (often quickly but not always quickly). This is because of what God called me to. I can easily sense and won't tolerate hostility or passive-aggressiveness, nor will I tolerate anyone who wants to influence my or another person's life-- to foist their own will on and over the will of another person. This level of self-centered to coldly (without conscience) desire to control others is pure witchcraft, and witchcraft and I do not and cannot get along. God gave people free will; people who try to override others' free will are definite enemies of mine.

And finally, Jesus said that people who do evil (and enjoy it and never want to change) naturally hide their evil so they are not discovered but that people who do good are honest and transparent as they have nothing to hide. I recognize people who either defend evil or who want to hide their own evil as people who are not loyal to any human being (or to God) but themselves and therefore are toxic and untrustworthy, so I separate myself from them if I can because I don't like to waste time. Women who are quick to change the topic when the faults in women are brought to light (or who attack those who expose these faults) are doing so because those faults are in them and they don't want to change or remove them but want to retain them while blaming others as being [wrong, bad, etc.]. Such women are 100% bad news, at least to a heterosexual man. The question I have for people who don't like truth to be exposed or even discussed is "Why?"

"And this is the verdict, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God" (John 3:19-21).

I tried not to single anyone out but there were a few of them that seem to have a gripe with you and your threads, and an even bigger gripe that you have put them on ignore. So I had to name a couple. Its childish and I wish people didnt need to be attention seeking like that. They dont even realise they are proving there is a wall of hostility But anyway....

I agree with you on the discernment. Roughsoul1991 also posted a thread about comfort versus growth which I find is needed even on this site. And Im never gonna say Im perfect, far from it but I know I need correction and I know I need humility (among other things) A work in progress as they say but if it brings me closer to God then I can do it.

 

[melita916]

The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful husband