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Sculpt

Sculpt

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Lanolin said:
of course
Lord help her if she wasnt.
why not treat all women as married then you wont have that problem of being interested (in what exactly? taking over her body?)
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Lannolin, you're post is very mysterious.

Men and women being interested in each other is natural and part of God's plan.

"And from the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man, He made a woman and brought her to him. And the man said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of man she was taken.”

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

Why do you say a man being interested in a woman is "a problem"? Do you agree sometimes it's not "a problem" at all?

Perhaps it's decided you will not marry. Do you want to deny it to everyone else?

Lanolin said:
why not treat all women as married then you wont have that problem of being interested (in what exactly? taking over her body?)
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What do you mean by "taking over her body"? Can't it be he wants to see if she is single, and in time, perhaps they may marry and love each other?

Lanolin said:
why not treat all women as married then you wont have that problem of being interested (in what exactly? taking over her body?) Just because a woman is friendly and nice to someone doesnt necessarily mean they are available. It just means they are friendly and nice.
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If every single man treats every single woman as if she is married, then no one will ever marry again. Is this what you demand?

I think everyone knows just because a someone is friendly to you, it does mean they are available. But some people will also let you know they are interested with friendliness and some 'interested' subtlety. Don't you agree?
 
Sculpt

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Live4Him3 said:
I wouldn't know.

That concept is so foreign to who I am that I couldn't even begin to formulate a guess.

Here are my actual thoughts on the matter:

Ephesians chapter 5

[28] So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
[29] For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
[30] For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Now, let's see if anyone here can find fault with nourishing and cherishing.

It wouldn't surprise me if they do.
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Very well said. And, of course, I was just kidding you, my friend.

I'm sorry you were insulted by the insinuations of anothers' post. Everyone has different experiences; some are very tragic and impressionable, and inspire uncommon responses.
 
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Live4Him3

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Sculpt said:
Very well said. And, of course, I was just kidding you, my friend.

I'm sorry you were insulted by the insinuations of anothers' post. Everyone has different experiences; some are very tragic and impressionable, and inspire uncommon responses.
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I knew that you were kidding, and I wasn't insulted by what the other poster said. I figured out a long time ago that the only opinion that matters in the end is that of Jesus Christ in that he is the judge of the living and the dead. He knows who and what I am, and the misguided opinions of others will only hurt them in the end, and not me. As I said, I mentioned what I did for that poster's potential benefit, but a lot of people will justify their misguided words and/or actions rather than repent of the same. It is what it is. Anyhow, I've moved on from that, and I'll know better than to even attempt to reason with certain people in the future.
 
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SimpleSheep

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The older I get, the less I want to marry and the more satisfaction I find in being single. Maybe I'm just used to it? Either way my basic rule is to treat others the way I would want to be treated.
 
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joecoten

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The older I get, the less I want to be a part of this world. On the bright side, it won't last forever.
 
tourist

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SimpleSheep said:
The older I get, the less I want to marry and the more satisfaction I find in being single. Maybe I'm just used to it? Either way my basic rule is to treat others the way I would want to be treated.
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I believe that is called the Golden Rule. Definitely the way to go.
 
TheNarrowPath

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Nicely said Tourist. Now what did you mean by this? Never settle for second best or someone else's hand-me-downs
 
tourist

tourist

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TheNarrowPath said:
Nicely said Tourist. Now what did you mean by this? Never settle for second best or someone else's hand-me-downs
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That would be to simply settle for someone else but not the one that you really want because you believe that this person is out of you league and you don't have a chance. In other words, you have to believe in yourself. It has been a few years since I created the OP but I believe that the hand-me-down reference is someone who changes relationships quickly for frivolous reasons such as someone having a slightly better car or a little more money or a better hair style.
 
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tourist said:
That would be to simply settle for someone else but not the one that you really want because you believe that this person is out of you league and you don't have a chance. In other words, you have to believe in yourself. It has been a few years since I created the OP but I believe that the hand-me-down reference is someone who changes relationships quickly for frivolous reasons such as someone having a slightly better car or a little more money or a better hair style.
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I was trying to understand what is a hand me down because most of us will have been at least with one person before we marry. Do you not think that most of us settle even if we are in love with the one we settled for?
 
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