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Dirtman

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Only if the person is willing to change. Try being married to someone who refuses to change..
How long have you been married. I have been for 27 years.
Personal habits that are not sin are not an excuse for divorce. They are an opportunity to get over yourself and learn to live for someone else.
 

Dirtman

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Depends on their biblical views. If one person decides to be in prayer to the LORD for a month, meaning no sex for a month.....what do you do than?
Thats not biblical
 

oyster67

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#83
Only if the person is willing to change. Try being married to someone who refuses to change..
Try being married to a person who is servant to their raging hormone.
 

JohnB

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Try being married to a person who is servant to their raging hormone.
You better know that BEFORE you marry them. That's a part of dating. Some people have a strong sex drive, some have none
 

JohnB

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Thats not biblical

Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. ....some people are selfish and might not consent. Know this before you get married.
 

oyster67

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You better know that BEFORE you marry them. That's a part of dating.
This thread is proof that we don't have to date to figure that one out.
 

Dirtman

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Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. ....some people are selfish and might not consent. Know this before you get married.
Key word" mutual concent"
 

HealthAndHappiness

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#88
That may have been fine 200 years ago, but not today. Many women work outside of the home before getting married. Any mention of them needing protection will be met with laughter. Young women and men need to learn to make right choices and the consequences of making bad choices.
This was a sermon I just listened to at lunch it was just posted by this Baptist church.

https://www.kjv1611only.com/video/02preaching/Sermons_Pastor_Anderson/Proverbs_02.mp4

Proverbs 2.....on topic
 

JohnB

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It is better to marry than to burn 1 Corinthians 7:9. In 1 Corinthians 7:1–2, Paul addresses the distinction between the married and the unmarried and states that sexual fulfillment is a primary reason for marriage, Yet the church and many Christians would rather see you burn.
 

JohnB

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Next time any Christian tells you the main reason to have sex is to have children. Tell them this. In 1 Corinthians 7:1–2, Paul addresses the distinction between the married and the unmarried and states that sexual fulfillment is a primary reason for marriage,
 

gb9

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This does seem to the governing factor in many lives today. We are not called to be servants of our "raging hormones."

1 Corinthians 3
16Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you? 17If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.

ever read " Song of Soloman" ??
 

Dirtman

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It is better to marry than to burn 1 Corinthians 7:9. In 1 Corinthians 7:1–2, Paul addresses the distinction between the married and the unmarried and states that sexual fulfillment is a primary reason for marriage, Yet the church and many Christians would rather see you burn.
I agree with the former statement here. But not the latter.
 

Dirtman

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Next time any Christian tells you the main reason to have sex is to have children. Tell them this. In 1 Corinthians 7:1–2, Paul addresses the distinction between the married and the unmarried and states that sexual fulfillment is a primary reason for marriage,
Sex is about the union of the flesh, the joining of husband and wife into oneness. Children are the subsequent blessing.
 

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By avoiding those you also deny them the experience of self control and growing up. I've known couples who have gone through group dating, no kissing or touching until they were married. Those marriages ended in failure. There was no physical attraction between them.
No kissing or touching? What would be the point of dating?
 

Webers.Home

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Most people want love, romance, companionship, and a family of their own.
According to Gen 1:27-28, and Gen 2:21-24, those things are Divine
blessings, they're perfectly normal, nothing to be ashamed of; nor is there
anything intrinsically wrong or sinful about them. But a believer has to be self
controlled, and not permit romantic urges to make them lose their heads
and ruin their chances for happiness.

Adult dating is where it starts; and adult dating isn't harmless. It leads to
other things and it leads into rashly-made commitments and promises that
are not easily backed out of. The end result of adult dating is ultimately
marriage and children. Whose religion will prevail in the marriage? Whose
religion will be taught to the children? The believer's or the infidel's? And
ultimately, who will get the children's souls-- God, or the Devil?

For example:

Gen 6:4 . .There were ambitious men on the earth in those days, and also
afterward, when the sons of God came in to the daughters of men, and they
bore children to them. Those were the mighty men who were of old, men of
renown.

The sons of God chose their wives solely on the basis of allure without any
spiritual prudence whatsoever. (Gen 6:1-2)

Theirs are a primo example of mixed marriages gone terribly awry. When
the Flood came, only Noah and his family survived. Why? Because neither
the sons of God, nor their impious women, nor their worldly posterity
heeded Jonah's preaching and came aboard the Ark with him. They all
stayed behind and got wiped out.

A similar fate befell at least two of Lot's daughters. They had married Sodom
men and when their dad came around warning his kin of the impending
destruction; they didn't listen; so guess what. Lot's daughters burned to death
right along with their Sodom husbands: Lot's grandchildren too, if any.
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Dirtman

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No kissing or touching? What would be the point of dating?
Maybe finding out who a person is, what their hopes dreams beliefs and plans are. To find out if they are a quality person. To do that with a clear mind not clouded with hormones.