What's your love language?

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Forever_Saved

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I believe for rationships to last and to love your spouse consistently and appropriatly, you need to learn how to speak their love language.
Everyone has 1 or 2 predominant in them. They are:

1) Words of affirmation
2) Acts of service
3) Giving and receiving gifts
4) Quality time
5) Physical touch

Mine are act of service and gifts.
Yours?

 
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Locoponydirtman

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Love languages are postmodern clap trap. Love isnt how good someone makes you feel. That is selfishness. Love is sacrifice on someone elses behalf; actively working toward the good of someone else. That is love.
Doing those 5 things on the list will define the type of relationship you have with them. If you are married and you neglect any one of those actions you will have a marriage that inclines to a direction that will not make you very happy or fulfilled, and neither will they be, and your marriage will suffer.
Those folks made a fortune off of a book of garbage. Because americans are self absorbed humans who create a void in their relationships due to neglect. Because we think a relationship is how the other makes us feel at the moment (which is very destructive). Humans are bad at relationships because we are woefully selfish and sinful.
 
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Oh wow 😅
I obviously know that not by only doing all these things is how to love someone. But love is a verb, its an action, it’s a decision and a sacrifice.
But I also believe that in a relationship you have to keep the spark by doing certain things out of love. Thats were knowing what you spouse appreciates and giving it to them could come in handy.
Thank you for you insight though, a nice way to view it as well 😊
 
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For me it would be acts of service because I love to do things that help my spouse to have a lighter load to carry.

The other would be quality time because I believe you and your spouse need to have a moment together to stay connected. Now if you and your spouse have children together then that kind of changes, it turns into like Bible studies and a game or something. Something that is going to keep the family close.
 
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having done the test at 5lovelanguages website
1) Physical touch
2) Quality time
 
Lanolin

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this is the singles forum...why not put it under family

everyone can speak and underdtand all the languages if they put their mind to it.
 
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Locoponydirtman

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Robertt said:
having done the test at 5lovelanguages website
1) Physical touch
2) Quality time
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So is everyone elses. Just like they need positive words and things done for them and giving and receiving.
 
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Gifts are my primary love language and words of affirmation are a close second. These are my love language both giving and receiving. I love to buy or make something for someone just because I thought of them. Even if it’s a pack of gum at the grocery store. It’s fun for me and it let’s them know I was thinking of them.
 
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Well I thought this was a fun question, weather here or there. Just a fun way to see what people think.
 
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DuchessAimee said:
Gifts are my primary love language and words of affirmation are a close second. These are my love language both giving and receiving. I love to buy or make something for someone just because I thought of them. Even if it’s a pack of gum at the grocery store. It’s fun for me and it let’s them know I was thinking of them.
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Im exactly the same, I love making things for people. I also cherish gifts from loved ones pr students and keep them for a long time. I think giving gifts is more than the material thing rather it’s the thought behind 😊
 
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Talljake said:
For me it would be acts of service because I love to do things that help my spouse to have a lighter load to carry.

The other would be quality time because I believe you and your spouse need to have a moment together to stay connected. Now if you and your spouse have children together then that kind of changes, it turns into like Bible studies and a game or something. Something that is going to keep the family close.
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I’ve always been doubting between quality time and service, its kind of a mixture of both. I love being around my friends and family and being at their service to make feel good at all times.
Also love hosting dinner parties 😅

I was not good at receiving words of affirmation or physical touch as growing up it was not a big thing in my family 😂
 
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The story of Temple Grandin comes to mind and her hug machine. Or squeeze machine. Basically its a calming device for animals and humans.

Nowadays sensory play is a big thing for babies and toddlers as its the very first sense they are attuned to even before sight and sound and taste and smell.
 
Lynx

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I've been single all my life, so apparently I ain't got no love language. :p
 
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Lynx said:
I've been single all my life, so apparently I ain't got no love language. :p
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Its not only for couples. I believe we also express our love towards friends and family mainly through these 5 ways.
 
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Lynx said:
I've been single all my life, so apparently I ain't got no love language. :p[/QUOTE
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I’ve always been doubting between quality time and service, its kind of a mixture of both. I love being around my friends and family and being at their service to make feel good at all times.
Also love hosting dinner parties 😅

I was not good at receiving words of affirmation or physical touch as growing up it was not a big thing in my family 😂
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Forever_Saved said:
I’ve always been doubting between quality time and service, its kind of a mixture of both. I love being around my friends and family and being at their service to make feel good at all times.
Also love hosting dinner parties 😅

I was not good at receiving words of affirmation or physical touch as growing up it was not a big thing in my family 😂
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Yes but it is a sometimes a blessing to have. Sometimes it's the little things that mean so much. Like holding hands or looking in the eyes and say I love you.... Things like these.

I am a hopeless romantic haha
 
I_am_Canadian

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Talljake said:
Yes but it is a sometimes a blessing to have. Sometimes it's the little things that mean so much. Like holding hands or looking in the eyes and say I love you.... Things like these.

I am a hopeless romantic haha
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I often wonder if I will ever have anything like that in my life.
 
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Talljake

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I_am_Canadian said:
I often wonder if I will ever have anything like that in my life.
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I too feel this way at times but then I come to realize that if the lord wants me to have someone then he will put her on my path but other then that I must keep my focuse on him and continue to build our relationship.... Hope that helps
 
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