Also, you are strongly suggesting that I am planning to engage in premarital sex. Is that the reason you are looking for?
Move out or stay at my parents?
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Also, you are strongly suggesting that I am planning to engage in premarital sex. Is that the reason you are looking for?
I was thinking a camper that has to be towed but can be moved easily. RVs are much more expensive and wouldn't be practical for commuting. It's not a suggestion, just a potential consideration if you haven't thought about it. It might not solve any challenges in your case.
I agree about neighbors. I slept well last night, but have a neighbor who has a bad habit of going outside for a smoke, hack and cough loudly and talk to someone on her phone like she's hollering to a neighbor across the street. This is before daylight.
Time your sprinklers to come on at that time and point them to where she is. Problem solved.
It's random times depending on the night. Sometimes it's quiet.
I'm a light sleeper and it's worse than an outside dog barking.
Well I don't want you drowning your grass so I'll start to work on a drone mosquito army for you that are sound activated. Just don't forget and make too much noise yourself.
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I think that will work. She's beyond the range of a garden hose. Unfortunately, her voice isn't. She threw her compost in my yard the other night. I think that's her way of flirting with the neighbors. Between that, the hacking cough, and horsey gossip, who can resist?
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I may actually be one of the few people who can honestly answer your question from experience. I don't know if you know my story but I was in family ministry for most of my youth and into adult years. We actually lived on a motor home half the year. I justified staying at home for some of the reasons you mentioned. But here is the issue, you cannot grow as a person living with your parents the way you would living alone. Your parents will always treat you like their child, not a woman. You kind of admitted that already.
When I got married I moved out and of course had a home of my own. I didn't even cook until I got married. My mother had some hard health issues the past 3 yrs and it made me have to go back and spend time at their house again to look after her. And they treat me the way they did before I left. Hubby has to keep reminding me not to fall for it, just help where I can and leave it at that. Don't engage them on that level. It's just not good for you emotionally to stay with your parents. You need to get out, spread your wings and help your parents where you can but mostly if you drive, or date or whatever you do, that's not their worry or business. A lot easier to make that stand now than when you're married and they are still treating you like a child.
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She doesn't have to give a reason, she's a grown woman, that's all the reason that needs to be known. Learning to grow in the many ways she needs to, her best move is to her own home. The parents have each other, and she is near if there is any emergency.
has He actually opened the door though
It seems like it could be any door, like a car door, or is it just your parents dont trust you with the keys to the kingdom?
Im asking the hard questions and you are not actually answering it.
If your job was in another town, of course you would need to move to work there, but why do you first say it wasnt and you now live with your parents? Because God allowed it. Not really getting it.
Otherwise, lets say if you posted...Im deciding whether to move out of home because God opened up a place for me then I would encourage you to go for it because God had shown you that theres something for you.
And everyone would give you tips. But if you post as you did here that you just wanna leave your parents and they BOTH dont want you to go then what is that really.
I dont know what to say.
And everyone would give you tips. But if you post as you did here that you just wanna leave your parents and they BOTH dont want you to go then what is that really.
I dont know what to say.
Have you always lived with your parents? Just asking to see if you have ever experienced living on your own or separately from your parents on a longer term basis, to see where you are coming from.
It sounds like you’ve pretty much made up your mind about what you want to do, MsMediator. If that’s the case, and you believe God is giving you the green light, then I say go for it. At the very least you will have an answer either way. God does not always make obvious what His plans are for us. Sometimes it comes down to simply taking a step in faith and seeing whether He opens the door or keeps it closed. But even if things don’t work out with a place of your own, don’t let that or your parents stop you from making positive changes in your life. If you are longing for church, for example, then go. It’s not only your right but your responsibility to provide healthy outlets for yourself that give you the social, spiritual and emotional nourishment you’re looking for.
Your vehicle advice is really good. Once I had such an opportunity, but I hurried to move away from my parents, as living with them in the same house, our relationship began to deteriorate. They did not stop controlling me, and it was difficult for me to bear it, so I moved out and began to build my career and family life