Why do I get so angry?

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Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
 

studentoftheword

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There are 2 types of anger -----anger that leads to sin and there is righteous Anger that will lead the person to the right end and keep you out of sin ------

Jesus showed Righteous anger when He turned the money changers tables over in the Temple yard ------

Read all for yourselves --just posted these parts of the article ------
What Is Righteous Anger?
https://www.christianity.com/wiki/c...ay-for-believers-to-feel-righteous-anger.html

Righteous anger is rooted in a deep love for God and for others. This type of anger is justified before the Lord. If we have righteous anger because of someone slandering God’s Name, our anger is justified.

The money changers did not have any respect for God. Instead of loving God and worshipping Him in the Temple, the people had turned the Temple into a place to sell products in order to gain monetary gain. As we can see as modern readers, we can understand why the Lord was angry.

This was not anger rooted in sin, but rather, righteous anger because Jesus’ heart was pure, and He never sinned during His life. This was not the only example of righteous anger shown during the earthly life of Christ on the earth.

He also displayed righteous anger because of the Pharisees' hypocrisy. The Pharisees were trying to condemn Jesus for healing the sick on the Sabbath as the Pharisees believed it was unlawful and unholy to do anything on the Sabbath (Mark 3:1-5)


Matthew 21:12-13 NIV
Jesus at the Temple
12 Jesus entered the temple courts and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves.

13 “It is written,” he said to them, “‘My house will be called a house of prayer,’[a] but you are making it ‘a den of robbers.’[b]”

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Bingo

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#3
Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
"Thank you for your sound thoughts." :)
 

2ndTimeIsTheCharm

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Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks

Thanks for your posts! They're like devotionals and I like reading them after my own Bible studies!

 

Cameron143

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Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
Practical steps are great to keep from sinning. The real problem remains the heart. Don't forget to pray and ask God to change your heart as you take steps to refrain from sin.
 

Pilgrimshope

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Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
Thanks for sharing God bless
 

jb

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Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
A few thoughts.

Gal 5v19-21: "Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like..."

"Outbursts of wrath," Greek, "thumoi" plural of "thumos," (Strong's NT: 2372):

Passionate Explosions Of Anger “Thumoi."

“Thumos,” occurs in Luke 4v28, Acts 19v28, Rom 2v8, 2Cor 12v20, Gal 5v20, Eph 4v31, Col 3v8, Heb 11v27, Rev 12v12, 14v8,10,19, 15v1,7, 16v1,19, 18v3, 19v15. It speaks of “stirring emotions,” then, “a flair up of temper,” or “passionate explosive outbursts of anger. “Thumos” anger is “great but transient anger,” and is “like fire in straw;” which distinguishes it from “orge” (Strong’s NT:3709) anger; which is a long-lasting anger and cherished in the memory. “Orge” is used to speak of God's weighed judicial verdict; His anger of justice. Rom 1v18, Eph 5v6, Col 3v6, Rev 6v16,17, 11v18. etc.

“Thumos” can be used of anger in a good sense, of righteous indignation.

“Thumos” is used to speak of God's explosive righteous anger in His judgmental acts in the Great Tribulation, and on the great day of His wrath at Christ's coming. However, Paul states that anger (“orge") and wrath (“thumos”), are now resting upon all those who are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness. Rom 2v8. Our Lord's anger in Matt 23, shows that it is very necessary to be angry at injustice and evil; anger can be an instrument of God's purposes; indeed, it is a sin not to be angry at times. God's “thumos” anger springs from His love; and gives us a revelation of His heart and mind, and His great concern and care for His creation.

“Thumos” can speak of outbursts of uncontrolled harmful rage.

“Thumos” anger, and “orge” anger, and bitterness, clamour, evil speaking and malice, are to be put away from us; and are to be replaced by tender-hearted forgiving love. Eph 4v31,32. The “thumos,” explosive temper; and the “orge,” brooding anger; are to be “put off,” with the other evil works of the flesh. Col 3v8. In Matt 5v22, Jesus said that those who are angry with their brother without cause, are liable to judgement. “Without cause,” is in the Majority Text. We can be angry, and yet not sin. Eph 4v26. In 2Cor 12v20, Paul states his fear that he would find outbursts of anger in the church at Corinth, along with other works of the flesh. Paul warns them that violent outbursts of "thumos" anger and bitter smouldering "orge" anger, injure the weak and innocent, and destroy homes and churches.
 

ResidentAlien

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Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign.
I agree and disagree. I agree anger's a sign of something going on within us; but it's also sinful.

"Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." Galatians 5:19-21

Anger is sinful and we need to get rid of it, not manage it.
 

Evmur

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#10
Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
God's work in taking anger OUT of our hearts is a miraculous work by the Holy Spirit Wash it away in the blood of Jesus Christ..
 

ResidentAlien

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Ephesians 4:31 "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice."
 

Karlon

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#13
Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
Yes Alice, breathing deeply repeatedly is a healer backed up with a calm relaxed attitude & personality. Wisdom is the top attribute. it is the application of knowledge. the old rule: "Stop, look & listen" is also a teacher. here's a way i developed a while ago: when i get angry, i find something to joke & laugh about!. but also a Christian should immediately ask Jesus for help. there is much about forgiveness associated with handling ager properly. people remain angry because they never forgive!
 

Gojira

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#15
Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks
I have found that at least some, if not much, of my anger is the result of pride. My sinful pride is being challenged. I do believe in righteous indignation, and I've felt this too. But, we need to be self-aware Christians who can see through the deceitfulness of our own hearts.

But, then there are times when someone has the unmitigated gall to switch your coffee (warning: there is a little profanity midway through this):

 

HeIsHere

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But, we need to be self-aware Christians who can see through the deceitfulness of our own hearts.
A very important point.
Not always easy to allow the light so shine in dark places.
 

Cameron143

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Anger is often the result of unfulfilled expectation. Anger is usually directed at the one who is perceived to be keeping the expectation from being fulfilled.
 

HeIsHere

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I believe that anger is unprocessed pain.
In my work I have seen this quite often for sure.

I think when we are adults though, it becomes problematic when we attempt to justify the anger rather than deal with the source (unprocessed pain).
 

Niki7

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Anger is sinful and we need to get rid of it, not manage it
This, is not a true statement. Anger is an emotion and we are born with emotions having been created with them by God our Father.

While anger can be sinful (having to do with selfish desire among other things, not taking others into consideration) there is also anger that results from a reaction to lies, injustice, cruelty and so on. We cannot concentrate on our sins, but should reflect on Christ and in drawing close to Him, people will find that He has the answers for all of our sin. We are forgiven now but sanctification is an ongoing process.

When people try to be what they think is 'perfect' they will always fail which creates frustration and disappointment.

There is no scripture that tells us we can or even should get rid of all anger. It is how we handle our emotions, that should come second to the truth of God, that makes the difference.