How to be patient?

[Jarnor]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

 

[HopeinHim98]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

Sometimes the best thing to do is just stay busy. Stay focused on the thing right in front of you. And pray. Pray that God will open the doors He wants open and to direct your paths. Serve. Look for opportunities to turn your eyes away from yourself to the needs of others and be a blessing. In serving others, you can be serving the Lord!

 

[Lynx]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

Why are you impatient for it?

When I ask myself why, it usually seems silly even to me so I go off and do something more worthwhile. That's how I be patient for stuff.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

Ask your parents to sign you up for this class.
It looks easier than boot camp.

In this video, we'll show you how to teach your dog to wait for food! One of the places you can teach your dog to have good manners is with their daily feeding ritual. It's just one aspect of helping them have good impulse control, and it can be taught really easily!

 

[Deuteronomy]

Hello @Jarnor, outside of praying to the Lord for His help with being more and more patient (a prayer which I believe that He regularly answers, but which many of us wish that we'd never prayed, because learning patience can be a painful process ), the most practical advice that I have for you is to ALWAYS turn your eyes upon Him, as soon as you sense feelings of impatience beginning to well-up in you (just like the hymn tells us to do), so that the many things that so often cause us to be impatient in this life (the desires that we have for things of this earth/of the flesh/of anything that is outside of His will for us, in fact) begin to fade away (in the light of His glory and grace .. again, just like the words of the hymn tell us).

Here's a verse for you to consider. You will notice that it contains a wonderful command with a wonderful promise attached to it, the key which (to obeying it and receiving the promise that comes along with it) is found in ALWAYS focusing on God ("delighting ourselves in Him") alone, NEVER on the things that we think that want Him to give us.

Psalm 37​

4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.​

Also, patience is part of the fruit that results from the indwelling of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), and it is also the first ingredient (so to speak .. along with kindness) in the kind of love that we are to show to others (agape/Godly love) .. e.g. 1 Corinthians 13:4 (so it is a VERY important part of the Christian's life, and something that we will continually grow in as we are sanctified .. as we continually grow in our knowledge and understanding of God/of His word, and seek to walk more steadfastly in that knowledge/understanding).

Patience (or the lack thereof) is also useful in helping us know where our walk with the Lord is (moment by moment), whether we are truly trusting Him to always know and do what is best for us (and 'when' it is best), or whether we are trusting in ourselves again instead (to one degree or another anyway). When you sense thoughts of impatience welling up inside you, take those thoughts "captive" and hand them over to Him .. e.g. 2 Corinthians 10:5, remembering to accept things as they are in the moment, always trusting that He knows what is best for you.

There are more things to discuss, but this post is already too long (sorry about that), so I will stop.

God bless you!!

~Deuteronomy
p.s. - here is a final thought to consider about this, IOW, another important reason that God sometimes chooses to answer our prayers with "no" or "wait", rather than with an immediate, "yes".

​

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

Are you moving?
Are you unhappy with your job and looking for a different one?
Looking for a relationship (whatever that means)?

I would settle down in a place you plan to stay after finding the job you want.
Only then would you have business looking for a wife. No use looking for a 'relationship' until you are mature enough to get married.
You'll at best waste each other's time and potentially cause much harm to your relationships and hers. That's the majority of both men and women.

Find leaders that are good christian men that you want to be like. Then find someone to kick your butt because you know you need it.
Every high school kid needs a dad or at very least a mentor that will cause him to establish good character and self discipline.

Example:
A college guy who was working, living on his own and college full time took too many classes. He had meetings at church or led at the college most evenings through the week. He was destined to crash and burn at that pace when not yet strong enough.
The only way out was to get help establishing more self discipline to meet the demands. He decided to enroll in a program of the most intensive training in the city. He had to wake up long before daylight to attend class. He was pushed to the very max... push-ups, pull ups, runs, a dozen other exercises before formation and formal classroom instruction from hard core officers.
Then the other classes began. At least 90% of the guys dropped out AWOL the first couple weeks.

He needed to get off his butt, and learn how to kick it himself. He knew that he had to do that to himself to survive and go forward.
That's why tomorrow morning he's going to read his Bible, crank out as many pull-ups as possible and do 100 push-ups, etc.
The body needs to be strengthened as does the spirit.

I could provide a Bible study on patience.
What you need first is what all of us guys need. It's one thing that requires no effort. Watch this link twice.

Only then Get a weekly planner and establish good habits like reading your Bible every day.
Set short term achievable goals that will get you to the place where you are able to achieve your long term Bible based goals.
Enroll in a genuine Filipino Martial Art. They will be listed as Arnis or Escrima FMA. They don't usually integrate any stupid Eastern religious nonsense in their classes. Avoid any that do. If you get a good teacher, he will help you push away from the table and get in shape. That physical self discipline will likely translate into other areas of life. Stick with it. Don't end up like over 90% that wimp out.
Don't enlist in the Military because there are far better ways. Unlike the new recruiting strategy, Gunny puts it straight.

 

[Grock89]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

Can be quite hard ...especially if the wait is taking forever..but trust me when they say its worth the wait ...it trully is worth the wait. But it depends on how you wait ..what are you doing in your wait...are you praying and seeking God? Are you complaining non stop and being depressed...sometimes it can feel low but when those thoughts come encourage yourself in the Lord ..take your bible find verses that will lift your spirits that will get you going through the day not worrying about tomorrow for tomorrow has its own troubles...focus on today..one day at a time. It will be way worth the wait..wait on the LORD.He always comes through dont doubt that...

 

[Cameron143]

Impatience, in one way, is a measure of discontent. It measures the dissatisfaction we have in our current estate. Notice all the things you desire are good. But everything you desire is less than God.
We were all born with 2 glaring deficiencies. Our sin problem is well documented. But had sin never entered the world, we would still have a enormous need. God never made us to live independently of Him.
The only way to be content is to find your satisfaction in God alone. Then your circumstances won't matter because nothing can separate you from the love of God that is ours in the Lord Jesus Christ.
Read Psalm 23 afresh...The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.
The rest of the Psalm is an enumeration of a Shepherd's care for His sheep and the fulness of His provision wherein He satisfies His sheep completely.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Because we all need the Lord before anything else in this world matters.
Good news

Afterwards
"6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.7 For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.8 And having food and raiment let us be therewith content."
I Timothy 6

My previous post is a nutshell of what I should have learned in HS along with many other things. Just Make sure you get saved first if you have the least doubt about where you would go if you were to go right now.

 

[HopeinHim98]

Are you moving?
Are you unhappy with your job and looking for a different one?
Looking for a relationship (whatever that means)?

I would settle down in a place you plan to stay after finding the job you want.
Only then would you have business looking for a wife. No use looking for a 'relationship' until you are mature enough to get married.
You'll at best waste each other's time and potentially cause much harm to your relationships and hers. That's the majority of both men and women.

Find leaders that are good christian men that you want to be like. Then find someone to kick your butt because you know you need it.
Every high school kid needs a dad or at very least a mentor that will cause him to establish good character and self discipline.

Example:
A college guy who was working, living on his own and college full time took too many classes. He had meetings at church or led at the college most evenings through the week. He was destined to crash and burn at that pace when not yet strong enough.
The only way out was to get help establishing more self discipline to meet the demands. He decided to enroll in a program of the most intensive training in the city. He had to wake up long before daylight to attend class. He was pushed to the very max... push-ups, pull ups, runs, a dozen other exercises before formation and formal classroom instruction from hard core officers.
Then the other classes began. At least 90% of the guys dropped out AWOL the first couple weeks.

He needed to get off his butt, and learn how to kick it himself. He knew that he had to do that to himself to survive and go forward.
That's why tomorrow morning he's going to read his Bible, crank out as many pull-ups as possible and do 100 push-ups, etc.
The body needs to be strengthened as does the spirit.

I could provide a Bible study on patience.
What you need first is what all of us guys need. It's one thing that requires no effort. Watch this link twice.

Only then Get a weekly planner and establish good habits like reading your Bible every day.
Set short term achievable goals that will get you to the place where you are able to achieve your long term Bible based goals.
Enroll in a genuine Filipino Martial Art. They will be listed as Arnis or Escrima FMA. They don't usually integrate any stupid Eastern religious nonsense in their classes. Avoid any that do. If you get a good teacher, he will help you push away from the table and get in shape. That physical self discipline will likely translate into other areas of life. Stick with it. Don't end up like over 90% that wimp out.
Don't enlist in the Military because there are far better ways. Unlike the new recruiting strategy, Gunny puts it straight.

I agree with what you said about looking for a relationship! Too many times people don't want to commit to marriage but want the fun or status of being in a "relationship". I don't want to say this judgementally cuz I made a similar mistake a few years ago. Getting into a courtship when I knew there were concerns but I was willing to try it out. Didn't seek the Lord enough and ended up with a lot of heartache.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I agree with what you said about looking for a relationship! Too many times people don't want to commit to marriage but want the fun or status of being in a "relationship". I don't want to say this judgementally cuz I made a similar mistake a few years ago. Getting into a courtship when I knew there were concerns but I was willing to try it out. Didn't seek the Lord enough and ended up with a lot of heartache.

Sometimes I use the direct approach with teens and young guys because they need it. Otherwise their eyes glaze over in ten seconds and off to other diversions. (Most), but not necessarily this new member. Video games, TV, etc like the good info you posted on Hollywierd does that. In person it's easier to keep their interest though.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I agree with what you said about looking for a relationship! Too many times people don't want to commit to marriage but want the fun or status of being in a "relationship". I don't want to say this judgementally cuz I made a similar mistake a few years ago. Getting into a courtship when I knew there were concerns but I was willing to try it out. Didn't seek the Lord enough and ended up with a lot of heartache.

From 7th grade +/- on there's that peer pressure for dating and boyfriends/ girlfriends with absolutely no direction about what marriage is supposed to be. The parents leave it up to the schools and the schools leave it out. I needed wisdom and direction like Solomon too.
I know how you felt. There are a lot of decisions we all make that we regret.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I agree with what you said about looking for a relationship! Too many times people don't want to commit to marriage but want the fun or status of being in a "relationship". I don't want to say this judgementally cuz I made a similar mistake a few years ago. Getting into a courtship when I knew there were concerns but I was willing to try it out. Didn't seek the Lord enough and ended up with a lot of heartache.

You and me both went through that.
The sad thing is that the majority of people get married with little or no training. They think living together is the same thing and when they finally get married, most end poorly.

Even Christians are kind of at the mercy of perhaps seeing a good example from parents.

I decided to learn from lots of senior citizens who were married to one spouse and ask questions about the way they made them successful. Then I read christian books on marriage and especially the Bible. I think that the Devil has been pretty successful in his attack on marriage. People just don't get teaching from the pulpits on the subject in most churches. Many pastors are compromised and won't teach on divorce and remarriage. Anyhow, I think we have been very fortunate to have not gone through that.

 

[MsMediator]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

Try to be content where you are. Also, try to remember when one door opens another door closes, so try to enjoy the good things at present because once that door closes you may not be able to go back again.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

There's a lot of guys who used to come to our singles ministry here in WV trying to pick up girls with no intention of marriage. A lot of damage occurs, even from serious relationships.

My heart goes out to you for the trauma that you went through.

The good news is that the Lord gave doctrine and examples of good marriages along with their mistakes for us to learn from. I'm going through Genesis right now and reminded of so many examples. I love studying the subject and hearing from what others have learned. Feel free to share anytime. I'll be getting up early so I better call it a night.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I mean for anything you want, but know you need to wait for. Whether it’s moving to a new place or a new job, or even waiting for a Godly relationship.

But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.

(Isaiah 40:31 NKJV)

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

You and me both went through that.
. People just don't get teaching from the pulpits on the subject in most churches. Many pastors are compromised and won't teach on divorce and remarriage. Anyhow, I think we have been very fortunate to have not gone through that.

Dear @HopeinHim98,

Sorry I was tired when I posted last night and did not proofread until this morning. Gotta clarify...
The last statement refers to the first statement in response to yours about courtship. I went back to reread it now 5:57AM and it appears like I was referring to the compromised pastors who don't teach about divorce and remarriage. That's not what I was referencing (divorce/remarriage), because neither of us were ever married. We went through a courtship, not marriage. I just wanted to clarify that because there are people who try to hide that from others. They get caught with pictures of wedding bands in their own photos and still lie and deny it. That's not you. I can tell you would not do that.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

(To slow to beat the 5 minute edit. One last time...then I need some tea.)

Dear @HopeinHim98,

Sorry I was tired when I posted last night and did not proofread until this morning. Gotta clarify...
The last statement refers to the first statement in response to yours about courtship. I went back to reread it now 5:57AM and it appears like I was referring to the compromised pastors who don't teach about divorce and remarriage. That's not what I was referencing (divorce/remarriage), because neither of us were ever married. We went through a courtships, not marriage( nor w/each other). I just wanted to clarify that because there are people who try to hide that they were previously married from others. Note Luke 16:18. They even get caught with pictures of wedding bands in their own photos and still lie and deny it. That's very low. That's not you. I can tell you would never lie about that. I just wanted to state that properly to maintain your good reputation. That's such a big issue I think it was best to make it clear.

 

[EternalFire]

I agree with what you said about looking for a relationship! Too many times people don't want to commit to marriage but want the fun or status of being in a "relationship". I don't want to say this judgementally cuz I made a similar mistake a few years ago. Getting into a courtship when I knew there were concerns but I was willing to try it out. Didn't seek the Lord enough and ended up with a lot of heartache.

I’m really glad you mentioned courtship.

As someone who has no interest in dating, courtship is much more appealing to me.

While most people know what is meant by dating, not as many are familiar with courtship.

If you’re willing to share, what did the process entail?

Even though it’s painful, I’m glad you shared that the courtship didn’t end in marriage.

It seems that you had some misgivings even before starting the plan.

As the courtship unfolded, did the safeguards inherent therein reveal the problem(s) that lead to the termination of the association?

I think many people can benefit from your story and the insights you gained.

Perhaps you can even start a thread on the topic.

 

[Grock89]

I’m really glad you mentioned courtship.

As someone who has no interest in dating, courtship is much more appealing to me.

While most people know what is meant by dating, not as many are familiar with courtship.

If you’re willing to share, what did the process entail?

Even though it’s painful, I’m glad you shared that the courtship didn’t end in marriage.

It seems that you had some misgivings even before starting the plan.

As the courtship unfolded, did the safeguards inherent therein reveal the problem(s) that lead to the termination of the association?

I think many people can benefit from your story and the insights you gained.

Perhaps you can even start a thread on the topic.

I agree...it would be quite insightful on my part i beleive too.