First off, it has been wise for myself to let this fight come to me, rather than me trying to find it. But in really trying to avoid it, God, makes you have a Brother, who is a gay porn star and wife to another man. So, you get stuck in these without any effort at all. All you gotta do is say, I follow what God says. I will always get asked, what's that? To which I reply, We Are ALL SINNERS and NEED to Repent! It ain't hard to equal everyone out from word go. Now, you have way more control.
Sorry, am I understanding your brother is gay? I know it's hard when it's family. I have a situation in my family that isn't about being gay, but still sin and it is breaking my heart in two. My parents aren't well and they didn't need this laid on them. But it has been and it's not going away. There is a lot of strife in the few family members that know, I only seeing it getting more difficult with time. To the human eye I see no way out. But I must remember God is working even when I can't see or feel him. So I am not coming at you like someone who doesn't understand. The hardest thing is to stand against family and call sin sin, heartbreaking. But if we truly love them we must.