A question about adultery

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JohnB

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Who would be a suitable helper for you, in particular, but a woman that gets married solely for sex?
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It appears Christians don't put much of a value on sex. Some have a strong sex drive, some don't. Christians should marry someone compatible to them in that way.
 
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It appears Christians don't put much of a value on sex. Some have a strong sex drive, some don't. Christians should marry someone compatible to them in that way.
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Appears that for some Christians that's all they think about.
 
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Appears that for some Christians that's all they think about.
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As I said, some have a stronger sex drive than others. Jesus and Paul were clear on that. They showed compassion where many in the church will not.
 
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Appears that for some Christians that's all they think about.
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Unlike many sexaul sins that called for the death penalty, fornication did not. What would have happened if the Pharisee's have brought a woman caught in fornication and not adultery.
 
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JohnB said:
Unlike many sexaul sins that called for the death penalty, fornication did not. What would have happened if the Pharisee's have brought a woman caught in fornication and not adultery.
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Well, you're the resident sex authority. You should know.
 
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JohnB said:
It appears Christians don't put much of a value on sex. Some have a strong sex drive, some don't. Christians should marry someone compatible to them in that way.
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Right. You may be suited to follow Josea's example though. I mean, there's usually some complications to what you might otherwise think to be the perfect woman, or man for that matter, since nobody is perfect.
 
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So what did 1 Corin 7:9 mean? (But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. )
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Because Man is hardwired to desire intimacy....which sex is a small part of but it is not the whole.

And for whatever reason you are missing that point.

Intimacy is more than just physical intimacy. Otherwise scriptures would say something different.

God desires intimacy with mankind. And not physical intimacy but spiritual, intellectual, and emotional intimacy.
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Well, you're the resident sex authority. You should know.
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Actually I stand against the misuse of scripture. Way too many time Christians use verses out of context. They apply "flee youthful lust" to just thinking about sex, when the verse has nothing to do with sex.
 
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Because Man is hardwired to desire intimacy....which sex is a small part of but it is not the whole.

And for whatever reason you are missing that point.

Intimacy is more than just physical intimacy. Otherwise scriptures would say something different.

God desires intimacy with mankind. And not physical intimacy but spiritual, intellectual, and emotional intimacy.
There ends the lesson.
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For men sex is very important for intimacy. Read the Song of Solomon. It's all about sex and intimacy.
 
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Actually I stand against the misuse of scripture. Way too many time Christians use verses out of context. They apply "flee youthful lust" to just thinking about sex, when the verse has nothing to do with sex.
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Yeah, you seem to know a lot about how people misuse scriptures about sex.
 
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For men sex is very important for intimacy. Read the Song of Solomon. It's all about sex and intimacy.
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Song of Solomon is a metaphoric poem describing with how much passion God desires His children. Sex is a metaphor....not an actual physical desire by God. It's a word picture/explanation.

God is not a mere brute beast driven by instincts and hormones....and neither is the Christian man.
 
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I don't want Christians to fall into the same trap I did. The peak time for your sexual desires are from your late teens to early 30's, sometimes 40's. Once these desires lessen, they don't come back. This was GOD's plan to bring couples together. This is why at the time of Jesus people married young, to control those desires. You chose who you marry, make a wise choice. Do not believe Pastors who tell you to wait on GOD's choice. GOD does not choose for you.
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That is so funny Please tell that to Abraham who was 100 years old when HE fathered Issac and well up there when he fathered Ishmael
 
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That is so funny Please tell that to Abraham who was 100 years old when HE fathered Issac and well up there when he fathered Ishmael
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His was a special case, plus even though he got his wife pregnant, his sex drive itself would be a lot less.
 
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Song of Solomon is a metaphoric poem describing with how much passion God desires His children. Sex is a metaphor....not an actual physical desire by God. It's a word picture/explanation.

God is not a mere brute beast driven by instincts and hormones....and neither is the Christian man.
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HUH? talk about turning verses on their heads. You took sex completely out of the Song of Solomon.
 
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His was a special case, plus even though he got his wife pregnant, his sex drive itself would be a lot less.
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listen you can't use ones personal issues or experience to mandate a law for all. that is just not true. sexual relationship between and husband and wife are to be kept between the Husband and wife. all though the desire of one or both may lessen that is not completely true for all.
 
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Yeah, you seem to know a lot about how people misuse scriptures about sex.
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“Suppose a man has intercourse with a young woman who is a virgin but is not engaged to be married. If they are discovered, he must pay her father fifty pieces of silver." Deuteronomy 22:28..... The key there is, don't get caught.
 
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listen you can't use ones personal issues or experience to mandate a law for all. that is just not true. sexual relationship between and husband and wife are to be kept between the Husband and wife. all though the desire of one or both may lessen that is not completely true for all.
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Who's mandating a law? I only said his sex drive was much less at his age.
 
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The law says the punishment for adultery is death. Moses gave reasons for divorce and remarriage. Jesus said "It was because of the hardiness of your hearts" Jesus called divorce and remarriage adultery, but never called for any punishment. Are there different types of adultery. It seems the two are treated differently.
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I think the ultimate punishment for both ends up with not inheriting Eternal Life...?
 
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