I'm lonely and need a friend

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TheSunnySapling

TheSunnySapling

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I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. I'm trying my best, though. I practice an abundance of self-care skills, activities, and things that otherwise bring me joy. I surrender my emotional pain to God, and I've reconnected with my faith. I try to practice acceptance and understand that what I'm going through is a normal reaction to a traumatic loss, a betrayal, and grief. But I'm lonely. I talk to so many people online, but so much of it is small talk. I just don't want to be asked how I am anymore, or what my favorite food is. I want someone to care for me, to be there for me when I'm having crying spells. I want someone who will comfort me without giving me platitudes or cliches. I want someone I can feel safe with, but who won't take advantage of me or my vulnerability. I want someone I can message throughout the day. Maybe someone I can talk to on the phone. Just so I don't feel like I'm so alone with these feelings. I just want another human to be here with me, so to speak.
 
keepingthingsreal

keepingthingsreal

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TheSunnySapling said:
I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. I'm trying my best, though. I practice an abundance of self-care skills, activities, and things that otherwise bring me joy. I surrender my emotional pain to God, and I've reconnected with my faith. I try to practice acceptance and understand that what I'm going through is a normal reaction to a traumatic loss, a betrayal, and grief. But I'm lonely. I talk to so many people online, but so much of it is small talk. I just don't want to be asked how I am anymore, or what my favorite food is. I want someone to care for me, to be there for me when I'm having crying spells. I want someone who will comfort me without giving me platitudes or cliches. I want someone I can feel safe with, but who won't take advantage of me or my vulnerability. I want someone I can message throughout the day. Maybe someone I can talk to on the phone. Just so I don't feel like I'm so alone with these feelings. I just want another human to be here with me, so to speak.
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Here is why I hate being a man sometimes. I have a ton of compassion for people, and I am not only a good listener, but I think that I have gained some godly wisdom over the years as well. I would gladly offer to help you, but seeing how I am a man, females usually feel uneasy trusting me initially. All that I can suggest to you is this:

Whoever offers to be that someone you are looking for, ask God if they are safe. If he gives you the green light, then do not hesitate. There still are some genuine and caring people in this world. I know because I am one of them.

God bless you, and may he grant you your desire speedily.
 
TheSunnySapling

TheSunnySapling

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keepingthingsreal said:
Here is why I hate being a man sometimes. I have a ton of compassion for people, and I am not only a good listener, but I think that I have gained some godly wisdom over the years as well. I would gladly offer to help you, but seeing how I am a man, females usually feel uneasy trusting me initially. All that I can suggest to you is this:

Whoever offers to be that someone you are looking for, ask God if they are safe. If he gives you the green light, then do not hesitate. There still are some genuine and caring people in this world. I know because I am one of them.

God bless you, and may he grant you your desire speedily.
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I would still love to be your friend. You shouldn't be ashamed over that.
 
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4LostSouls

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You will find strength by going to the Father first. He created you and He is the one who will lead you and guide you in all wisdom and understanding if you pursue Him first. All to often we want people to comfort and console us when what we need to do is run to God in prayer! Using words to tell Him what is going on in your heart helps you to really understand in your own thinking what is really going on in your own heart. Prayer is telling God that you love him with all your heart. The more you open your heart to Him, He will come to you!!!

Yes life is difficult! We are called to walk in this life to walk as Jesus walked! Jesus always loved His Father! He did exactly what His Father wanted always and held His Father in utmost esteem! We can be the same! I understand you want to be loved! The most powerful way to overcome loneliness is to "give out love"! When you focus on loving those God puts in your path with the love that comes from Him, then your pain fades to the background! Then your heart fills with the love for others that Jesus talks about!

When I was young I thought that I just wanted someone to love me. I found out the others didn't have a good motive and all they wanted was someone to "love them". The motive for love must be Jesus love. A love for them to be shown into the kingdom or pointed towards God. When we are doing this, we are giving love that grows in us. This begins with a good prayer time. In my experience it needs to be an hour a day. I know it sounds like a lot! But the relationship that comes from that time with Him is amazing!

Love Him with all your heart!!!
 
keepingthingsreal

keepingthingsreal

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I am turning in for the night. If you want to talk sometime in the future, then here are some possible options.

We can talk publicly on a thread.
We can talk publicly on your profile page, but we have very limited characters to use there.
We can talk privately through private messaging, but I would need to become a paying member here first in order to get that privilege.
We can talk privately through email. Although I have only been here a short time, I have already given my email address to a male member here, so I am willing to do that with you as well.
We can talk privately on the phone, but I would have to give you that information privately through email first.

It is really up to you and what you feel comfortable doing. The last thing that you need right now is to feel pressured into doing anything.

Whatever you decide, even if it is none of the above, I am okay with it. My primary concern is your well-being.

Generally speaking, as a female, you are probably better off remaining onsite. This does not mean that I am not trustworthy, but you do not really know me, so you should use some caution. I would not mind becoming a paying member here so we could talk through private messaging while still remaining onsite. Again, whatever you would feel the most comfortable doing. Whatever you decide, I am praying for you.

Good night.
 
Pinkcandy

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Hi x we still need people. I'm in the UK 🇬🇧 ☺️. I'm a survivor of childhood abuse and been through absolute he'll. Jesus has changed my life 4 the better x hugs 4 u sweetheart 💖
 
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j55

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Hello sister. Only Jesus knows depth of your pain. If you want to chat with me, its ok. When my dad died in 2011. I went on 12 day trip on vacation. I was in lot of pain. I thought going on trip would eleviate my pain. You know what the reality was. I created a allusion for myself. It was temporary fix. When I got back home, I kept dwelling on it. I put up allusion that didn't work.
Proverbs chapter 14
By looking ahead, we not only be prepared to spot pit falls when they come into our lives, we'll be equipped to make plans that help us become the person God wants us to be.
Instead of asking Jesus to heal my pain, I choose to create allusion to hide my pain. It didn't work. We have to face our pain and failures in life.
Before I converted to Christianity in 1999. Truth is, I spent my time running from myself and problems. Running from bully's or problems that weren't insurmountable. I would get my dad or friend to try face it for me. I was running from myself much of my Life.
Facing reality by looking at Jesus. We get our protection and faith. Fantasy is a escape hatch over dealing with reality because fantasy helps us create distance between us and our perceived problem.
We must confront sin and problems .
Psalm chapter 34
I sought the Lord, and he delivered me from all my fears.
107:6
Then they cried out to the Lord in there trouble, and he delivered them from their distress.
Isaiah chapter 43
Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past.
1 John 5:4
For every one born of God overcome the world. This is the victory that has over come the world, even our faith.
Who is he that over comes the world. Only tbe one who believes that Jesus is the son of God.
I hope this helps. Peace.
 
Pinkcandy

Pinkcandy

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TheSunnySapling said:
I'm going through a very difficult time in my life right now. I'm trying my best, though. I practice an abundance of self-care skills, activities, and things that otherwise bring me joy. I surrender my emotional pain to God, and I've reconnected with my faith. I try to practice acceptance and understand that what I'm going through is a normal reaction to a traumatic loss, a betrayal, and grief. But I'm lonely. I talk to so many people online, but so much of it is small talk. I just don't want to be asked how I am anymore, or what my favorite food is. I want someone to care for me, to be there for me when I'm having crying spells. I want someone who will comfort me without giving me platitudes or cliches. I want someone I can feel safe with, but who won't take advantage of me or my vulnerability. I want someone I can message throughout the day. Maybe someone I can talk to on the phone. Just so I don't feel like I'm so alone with these feelings. I just want another human to be here with me, so to speak.
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Sweetheart how's u x
 
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