For me, it is more the social aspect and meeting other Christians for fellowship and potential friendship. I am open to female pastors. If the church only has male leadership, I will have to be extra watchful to see if they are uber traditional. I am used to going to churches with a balance of career/working women (as well as full time moms/homemakers). At the same time, I also have to extra watchful if the pastor is female. There will also need to be a sizeable singles population. I know people say you shouldn't look at a church as a social club, but I am seeing it as, can this church be my "family"? Another thing, I have to see how I feel after the church service...? I am not picky about sermons but it has to feel a bit substantial. I can supplement with my own reading.