interfaith marriage

[lrs68]

Amen, precious @kingdomcitizen, I will pray for you - please Be Very Richly Encouraged And Edified In Christ, and In His Precious Word Of Truth!:

"Be careful [ anxious ] for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with​

thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. 7 And The Peace of God, which​

passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."​

(Philippians 4:6-7 AV)​

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God's Grace Word for our infirmities!

Amen.

Amen

 

[maxwel]

Hello, My first post here. Any advice/scripture/prayers for an aggressive interfaith marriage ? Aggressive in the sense of aggressively against the bible and Christian beliefs. There is a lot of yelling, insulting, mocking going on. I have tried staying quiet, tried to answer his accusations of the bible or the faith with apologetics, and more recently I have resorted to answering his attacks with a similar attack on his holy book ( not proud of it but thought maybe if he felt what i felt he would stop ). This has been going on for years now and it hasn't slowed down.. Any advice of course I am praying and believing that he is in God's hands but how can i make this situation more bearable in the meantime?!

Rethinking the problem, and finding help:

First, I wouldn't characterize this as "interfaith", that sounds way too amiable.
I would characterize this as a Christian married to a lost person... and the lost person is Muslim.

I'm sure there are many others who have gone through the EXACT same thing.
I think it's very likely some of those people have written books, or blogs, or done videos or podcasts.
I suspect if you do some googling, you can find some Christians with a lot of experience in this, who can help you.

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[HealthAndHappiness]

Hello, My first post here. Any advice/scripture/prayers for an aggressive interfaith marriage ? Aggressive in the sense of aggressively against the bible and Christian beliefs. There is a lot of yelling, insulting, mocking going on. I have tried staying quiet, tried to answer his accusations of the bible or the faith with apologetics, and more recently I have resorted to answering his attacks with a similar attack on his holy book ( not proud of it but thought maybe if he felt what i felt he would stop ). This has been going on for years now and it hasn't slowed down.. Any advice of course I am praying and believing that he is in God's hands but how can i make this situation more bearable in the meantime?!

You have my empathy. It must be difficult. Just remember that in spite of your differences in the spiritual, you have many things to connect on. I would make a daily effort, an intentional routine to focus on those. A daily planner is a good tool for developing long term habits.
I would buy one now for that purpose and to log your daily Bible reading.

There are plenty of teachings in the old and new testaments about young people avoiding the same mistake you are asking help with. Some have already quoted several, like unequal yoke with unbelievers. That applies to the UNmarried and certainly is not a recommendation for separation. I am not suggesting that is what those kind people were suggesting, but I think it important to clarify so there's no misunderstanding. Certain new members teach false doctrine, should be marked and avoided.

Romans 7 is your clear answer.

1Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress:

Any questions about this passage?

Here's another from I Corinthians 7

10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

16For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

Questions?
It is good that you communicate with your husband when there are favorable times to work on differences. I will also add with Paul that it's done without argument, but with a humble and gentle attitude. Your purpose is not to win and argument or vent frustration, but to persuade little by little. This is likely your best friend besides the Lord and you two will share everything over a lifetime.

Read what Paul said about his closest disciple Timothy's upbringing.
His Dad was likely an unbeliever, perhaps a Greek pagan.
Who had the long lasting spiritual influence on Timothy which prepared him to be one of the most famous pastors in history?

2To Timothy, my dearly beloved son: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord. 3I thank God, whom I serve from my forefathers with pure conscience, that without ceasing I have remembrance of thee in my prayers night and day; 4Greatly desiring to see thee, being mindful of thy tears, that I may be filled with joy; 5When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.

Remember these words and commit them to memory. You will need them for the years to come, not only for your own children, but for the grandchildren to be.
This is your important role in life which exceeds that of a room full of pediatricians.
Highlight these verses a KJV Bible because it is correct and does not soften or manipulate terms regarding marriage. Commit them and others to a schedule for memorization and seek the strong comfort of our loving Holy Spirit. He is greater than our challenges

God bless your marriage and family Kingdom Citizen.

 

[homwardbound]

seen this too, not only in the Muslim community, in all communities
God knows how to reach anyone through his kids, and does that for sure as another one becomes Father's willing vessel for God to do Luke 21:14-15 through them

 

[kingdomcitizen]

Now, for you to learn new in the truth given you from Father though risen Son


Living Bible

Luke 21:16-15

Therefore, don’t be concerned about how to answer the charges against you, for I will give you the right words and such logic that none of your opponents will be able to reply!

Do you believe God in this truth, do not answer me, answer Father in risen Son, watch, stand, you will see it happen through you. Then you might not, that is how flesh works always in against truth that sets people free in his risen Son Jesus for them. And each person is in different growth stages. I get the thought, he is against religion, not God, yet viewing it as it is God that has done the troubles he has gotten from religion.
I, personally was there myself over religion, and got caught up under Law, the lust of the flesh, got me into better not do or else attitude from the religious Church I was attending back in the 1990's, What a stress that took on me, an arguing over anything and everything, never feeling Like God loved me, because I had lust in my head.
Never followed through, just had it bewilder, me, beset me and make me guilty so deeply, That I began to think, how could God even love me to just have a bad thought!
Hammered by religion to quit, it got worse trying to quit. because I confessed it.
I, read Romans 7, so many times, I one day finally saw truth Paul was talking about and left religion behind me in the dust. Then I found me in bad habit lust would not leave, it haunted me deeply. Yet, I could not go through with it, to continue due to the lust, that had a hold on me, in it.
Now I did have one time, I failed and it did happen, and I confessed immediately to my wife.
Amazing, she forgave me, I saw new in the love and mercy given me from God through her forgiving me. Amazing grace began in and through me from God to me. Wow, I saw Isaiah 6:1-7 and went wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Today, many other things have happened in troubles since. Now I see as Job saw in the book of Job, not to deny God ever, no matter what. I think from my read here, you are the same in trust to God to somehow, someway work this entire trouble out. Thank you for standing.
You might ask your husband, are these, those people of God, whom I hear you are against over the Bible? Whoever says they are of God, there still is the possibly they are not and only out for themselves, using God to get their way. Aren you Troubled about religion the Bible and God. From God or the people, you have experiences with? As well, it could be of his family background also. However, I bet since you will be led, by God. Conversation will begin in acceptance to each other and not try to control each other in how each other thinks.
I am elated over you and your husband having 5 children. My house was a family of five also
Yhis life here is a struggle. Me learning , learned how to react
Proverbs 15, comes to mind and that is not easy to respond without flesh acting out anger, when trying to be nice
Try, saying You love your children, a pet with an angry voice. How do you react when that happens to you
Get it, the fight is our emotional responses to wanting what we want and when not get it, we respond in anger, our bodies reveal this everytime
Now ask Father for the right way and trust Daddy, Papa to me to speak through you as Proverbs 15 tells us

Living Bible
Proverbs 15, not the whole Chapter, yet to me I find that helpful to remember, and whenever I tried to do that, I found "I" can't, I need God to do that through me to see it and be surprised as well as the others hearing will be too, thanks

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words cause quarrels.
A wise teacher makes learning a joy; a rebellious teacher spouts foolishness.
The Lord is watching everywhere and keeps his eye on both the evil and the good.
Gentle words cause life and health; griping brings discouragement.
Only a fool despises his father’s advice; a wise son considers each suggestion.
There is treasure in being good, but trouble dogs the wicked.
Only the good can give good advice. Rebels can’t.

Rebels can't, that is religion
religion is for anyone to join in with it, and get others to follow it and become righteous, when no person can. Only Son did it for us to rest in thanksgiving and praise over it
Even if it goes wrong. ask Father in prayer for the right motive working that through you ad Get surprised in the miraculous gift of God working that out in and through us that began at risen Son, that we do not see anymore in the flesh today, once did (2 Cor 5:16) no more. I know you are going to see and be surprised in thanksgiving and praise over this trouble one day

Praise God that you were delivered from lust. We all have our fleshy desires to put to death. It was your wife's choice to love that was the undoing. I know that it is by choosing love that I can help my husband as well but sometimes I cant feel it in me to be loving. Yes life is not easy, we have to take up our cross daily. Ignore our fleshy desires and seek out the Spirit of Truth. As Jesus said " the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak "... how much more for us. But there is joy on the other side. I am holding on to hope , hope that my family will one day know Jesus . All things are possible for those who believe .. Bless you and thankyou for your response .

 

[kingdomcitizen]

I have good friends that are Muslim. I am even friends with a couple of Iman. We've had several discussions about the God of Abraham. But the funniest thing happened in one of our discussions. We talked about Jesus.

Now to the Muslims Jesus is a Holy Man. To the Christian Jesus is God. But we were discussing about things that happened in Churches or Mosques. We got specifically towards Miracles.

The Iman said to me, you know, that's where you have us at. I asked what did he mean? He said, there's never miracles happening in the Mosque or the Muslim faith. But he then said we have seen them happen in the Church.

I then replied, that is because we see Jesus as God. The Iman said, he needs to research that.

But just to mention this, a couple of my Muslim friends are now Christians and believe Jesus is God.

So keep praying and I will pray and I believe God will open your husband's eyes and understanding 🙏

God willing, this is my prayer. Thanks for the encouragement

 

[kingdomcitizen]

Okay, you might try discussing his and your concepts of marriage. Here is what I glean from the teaching of Jesus:

TOJ #104: Marriage is a spiritual union until death. [MT 19:4-6] The phrase about leaving one’s father and mother means that a man—and a woman—should be ready for marriage by attaining a sufficient degree of independence from their parents, both financial and psychological. They should be prepared to become parents themselves, even if they hope not to have a child for awhile, which means they should be rather spiritually mature, having the same love for each other as Christ has for His bride, the church.

The marital commitment is (or should be, cf. TOJ #109) signified by sexual union or becoming “one flesh” (GN 2:24), although it may be proper to fulfill legal and traditional expectations such as licenses and ceremonies for the purpose of avoiding being “a stumbling block to the weak” (1CR 8:9), who do not understand the essence of marriage.

Obviously, that which must not be separated is the spiritual unity, so the sin of divorce also is a spiritual event and reality before it becomes a legal one. This realization should motivate spouses to work on the quality of their communication before serious problems develop in their relationship. (I saw that you are not planning to leave, but I share the TOJ re divorce incase that has some things to consider.)

TOJ #26: You should not divorce. [MT 5:31-32a//MK 10:11//LK 16:18a] Jesus said that the only permissible reason for legal divorce is marital unfaithfulness or when the sin of spiritual divorce signified by adultery has already occurred. {MT 19:6-9//MK 10:6-9} See TOJ #104 on the meaning of marriage. The divine viewpoint, which all humans need to acquire, is that sexual intimacy should mean marriage, that divorce is a spiritual disaster before it leads to a legal dissolution, and that neither divorce nor a miserable marriage are moral options. This leaves only celibacy or working to make a happy marriage as permissible alternatives.

TOJ #27: Do not remarry except for godly reasons. [MT 5:32b//MK 10:12//LK 16:18b] Jesus probably prohibits remarriage in hope that reconciliation will occur, but understanding this statement as a blanket command that admits no exceptions is very problematic, because it would contradict other biblical teachings. Discerning whether spiritual remarriage is psychologically possible and legal remarriage morally permissible requires harmonizing several biblical passages:

1. Divorce and even adultery are not unforgivable (MT 12:31-32),
2. Not everyone has the gift of celibacy, the ability to live happily very long without a sexual partner (MT 19:11-12, 1CR 7:9).
3. We know that God desires reconciliation (1CR 7:10-11, 2CR 5:18-19),
4. Paul indicated (in 1CR 7:15) that it is permissible for a Christian divorcee (unjustly so) to remarry if an unbelieving spouse was the divorcer (and, presumably, if reconciliation attempts have failed, because the “ex” has remarried or committed adultery/fornication).
5. We also know that many sins including divorce are committed before a person believes the gospel and becomes a mature Believer by LGW and the TOJ. When people repent of Sin and confess their sins, then God forgives them (1JN 1:9) and views them as sharing the perfection of Christ (PHP 3:9).

Thus, a reasonable conclusion is that this TOJ is not meant to be a blanket prohibition, but rather that a truly repentant divorcer (and even adulterer) whose former spouse has remarried may also remarry after some period (probably at least a year is reasonable) of counseling, celibacy and spiritual maturation, so that a successful (lifelong and happy) second marriage seems very likely. We must assume God gives the gift of celibacy to such a person long enough to accomplish this goal, because He does not let people be tempted beyond what they can resist (1CR 10:13). However, if a second try is barely permissible, then serial “marriages” border on legalized lust, which is an abomination that mocks this sacred union. The serial sinner would do well to obey TOJ #24 & #26 or pray for the gift of permanent celibacy.

 

[kingdomcitizen]

Thankyou for all the information. I will take my time looking over it all. You hit the nail on the head in your first sentence .. discussing concepts of marriage. I have come to realize that in Islam marriage is more for convenience and gratification not for spiritual union.

 

[GWH]

Thankyou for all the information. I will take my time looking over it all. You hit the nail on the head in your first sentence .. discussing concepts of marriage. I have come to realize that in Islam marriage is more for convenience and gratification not for spiritual union.

Hopefully, if he accepts Surah 2:89 in the Qur'an, your husband will be open to learning what Jesus and the partnership of Adam and Eve indicate about the right concept of marriage and what Paul taught about God's peace plan, understanding that Muslims and all non-Jews are Gentiles. I repost the first three paragraphs again below. (Unfortunately, later parts of the Qur'an are not as compatible with the NT; Muhammed should have quit while he was ahead.)

Christianity is God’s bridge uniting monotheistic religions (Judaism, Christianity, Islam, etc.) rather than a wall separating them. This truth is derived from a statement by the apostle Paul (in 1TM 2:3-4) indicating that Yahweh/God/Allah loves all people and wants everyone to love each other as one happy spiritual family or fellowship, and He is grieved when people who claim to believe in Him quarrel (Ephesians 4:30-31).

When Judaism was reformed by Jesus and his apostles, Paul taught (in RM 2:28-29, 4:16-17 & GL 3:29) that what matters is not the religion of our parents, but whether each of us has faith like Abraham in the one true God. A spiritual Jew loves God (DT 6:4-5), a true Christian loves God and humanity (MT 22:37-40), and a genuine Muslim serves God by cooperating with His plan of salvation (MT 24:45 & 25:21). Theists can be Jewish, Christian and Muslim, because Christianity is God’s solution/plan for peace in the world (EPH 2:11-22).

The purpose of Judaism was to provide the heritage for Messiah for the benefit of all people (RM 3:21-31, 9:4-5a, IS 42:1-6, GN 22:18, DT 9:5-6), and the intent of Islam (stated by the Qur’an in Surah 2:89) was “confirming” God’s previous revelations to the Jews and Christians (the OT & NT). When Jews became Messianic, Paul and Peter agreed that they could follow the old Jewish customs that did not contradict faith in Jesus as Lord (ACTS 15:5-29 & GL 2:15-16). Because everything good and true is from God (JM 1:27), accepting Jesus as Messiah does not mean rejecting what is good and true in one’s pre-Christian experience or culture.

IOW, Zionism must be updated (per HB 7:18-10:1) to mean looking forward to Heaven, NOT acquiring earthly property, just as jihad must mean struggle against sin, NOT against fellow humans.

 

[ChristRoseFromTheDead]

Hopefully, if he accepts Surah 2:89 in the Qur'an, your husband will be open to learning what Jesus and the partnership of Adam and Eve indicate about the right concept of marriage and what Paul taught about God's peace plan, understanding that Muslims and all non-Jews are Gentiles. I repost the first three paragraphs again below. (Unfortunately, later parts of the Qur'an are not as compatible with the NT; Muhammed should have quit while he was ahead.)

Christianity is God’s bridge uniting monotheistic religions (Judaism, Christianity, Islam, etc.) rather than a wall separating them. This truth is derived from a statement by the apostle Paul (in 1TM 2:3-4) indicating that Yahweh/God/Allah loves all people and wants everyone to love each other as one happy spiritual family or fellowship, and He is grieved when people who claim to believe in Him quarrel (Ephesians 4:30-31).

When Judaism was reformed by Jesus and his apostles, Paul taught (in RM 2:28-29, 4:16-17 & GL 3:29) that what matters is not the religion of our parents, but whether each of us has faith like Abraham in the one true God. A spiritual Jew loves God (DT 6:4-5), a true Christian loves God and humanity (MT 22:37-40), and a genuine Muslim serves God by cooperating with His plan of salvation (MT 24:45 & 25:21). Theists can be Jewish, Christian and Muslim, because Christianity is God’s solution/plan for peace in the world (EPH 2:11-22).

The purpose of Judaism was to provide the heritage for Messiah for the benefit of all people (RM 3:21-31, 9:4-5a, IS 42:1-6, GN 22:18, DT 9:5-6), and the intent of Islam (stated by the Qur’an in Surah 2:89) was “confirming” God’s previous revelations to the Jews and Christians (the OT & NT). When Jews became Messianic, Paul and Peter agreed that they could follow the old Jewish customs that did not contradict faith in Jesus as Lord (ACTS 15:5-29 & GL 2:15-16). Because everything good and true is from God (JM 1:27), accepting Jesus as Messiah does not mean rejecting what is good and true in one’s pre-Christian experience or culture.

IOW, Zionism must be updated (per HB 7:18-10:1) to mean looking forward to Heaven, NOT acquiring earthly property, just as jihad must mean struggle against sin, NOT against fellow humans.

You sound like an ecumenicist. God isn't interested in reforming any false religion, including faux christianity, but to destroy them all

 

[lrs68]

God willing, this is my prayer. Thanks for the encouragement

I'm praying for You

 

[homwardbound]

Praise God that you were delivered from lust. We all have our fleshy desires to put to death.

Actually it is God himself in Son for us that put sin all sin to death but one, (John 1:29) that is not a sin, until one, anyone chooses unbelief to God. DOES HE CLAIM TO BELIEVE GOD?
Believe, receive and be new in love to all, then love him Father's way! and husband back the same.
Stop fighting and arguing over who is right and who is wrong
Father God gave free choice to all to choose and not harm others is the call
Are we as people not harming one another over I am right attitudes and others are wrong attitudes. Please stop conforming to this worlds biases of people and places of worship, they say some are in and others are not in. That is wrong to do that, making self better or your religion better than the others. Not good you think?
No wonder people are at war and fighting no one accepting anyone with them as their life time friend, especially in marriages, attitudes my way or the highway, that comes from religion preachers on the pulpit. God loves us all not a few, get off the pulpit, stop that please and love all scaled
It is Love, God's Love to us, given us through Son that won, wins and continue to win forever, he is risen. New life of love to all begins.
Do I only love those that love me back? I used to do that in religion, I speak of all religions, these do that or that is somehow what gets taught there, so I stopped going to earth church.
Please stop and love your Husband, don't fight telling him he is wrong and you are right. the same for your husband as well, we are called to love not control anyone either way, free choice continues to get taken away through religion, not good for my soul.
Tell me this
How, can anyone get anyone to love them truthfully, without taking away free will?
Do you now see what Father, PaPa has done for us through Son, for us all
Religion says, those over there are not in. With who, God or you?
God is love to us all y'all, let people be people, to love in truth back. This fight over I am right and you are wrong is not well for my Soul. I see true love continues to love in giving free will to love, God did that through Son for us all to get along and not fight and argue
You do not need to convince husband, nor does husband need to convince you. Therefore this argument is over how each other feels and both not accepting each other in how they feel is keeping the fight going
start, Trusting Father in the Holy Spirit to reveal this truth to you, thank you
Love overcomes a multitude of sin (Unbelief) to Father, that is what Son did for us all, going to that cross, to even the playing field. yet flesh people will not heed the call willingly at all
So now discern
I take it husband is not beating you or harming you, slapping you around, trying to control you, just stating how he feels and believes, Then accept this from him and then he will accept this from you
Love overcomes evil. and it is God that does this through his kids, those kids that are willing
Willing turns the key and opens the door thank you

 

[kingdomcitizen]

As I said in my original post he is aggressively against my beliefs. He isn't just stating his beliefs he is trying to control mine and yes there has been physical and mental aggression.. spitting in my face, pushing me, telling me I am worshipping a man, worshipping the devil etc...I'm not arguing over who is right who is wrong. I am arguing that God gave me free will and he should respect the fact that we are free to choose even if he disagrees with me but he doesn't seem to be able to let it go. Thanks anyways, your advice is good for two people who are capable of respect but that is not my situation.

 

[GWH]

You sound like an ecumenicist. God isn't interested in reforming any false religion, including faux christianity, but to destroy them all

I wish folks would read GW I cite before responding, being ecumenical is better than being argumentative, and you should provide a biblical basis for your opinion, please. Thanks.

 

[Daisy2]

Kingdomscitizen,

I'm sorry you are going through this. If it's your resolve to stay with your husband it might be a good idea to be quiet. There no arguement if its just one way. Take one day at time. Put all your trust in our father he will guide you.

This next part is to Hide your children and husband's passports. My mothers friend married a muslim man. She was catholic and they started fighting. He took off with the kids To the middle east. She never saw her daughters again.

 

[ChristRoseFromTheDead]

As I said in my original post he is aggressively against my beliefs. He isn't just stating his beliefs he is trying to control mine and yes there has been physical and mental aggression.. spitting in my face, pushing me, telling me I am worshipping a man, worshipping the devil etc...I'm not arguing over who is right who is wrong. I am arguing that God gave me free will and he should respect the fact that we are free to choose even if he disagrees with me but he doesn't seem to be able to let it go. Thanks anyways, your advice is good for two people who are capable of respect but that is not my situation.

This is completely unacceptable.

 

[lrs68]

As I said in my original post he is aggressively against my beliefs. He isn't just stating his beliefs he is trying to control mine and yes there has been physical and mental aggression.. spitting in my face, pushing me, telling me I am worshipping a man, worshipping the devil etc...I'm not arguing over who is right who is wrong. I am arguing that God gave me free will and he should respect the fact that we are free to choose even if he disagrees with me but he doesn't seem to be able to let it go. Thanks anyways, your advice is good for two people who are capable of respect but that is not my situation.

I know this is easier said than done because I am a man. But, I would say, either to him or at him whether loud enough he can hear but definitely loud enough the Devil can hear, The LORD Rebuke you Satan! Greater is He that is in me then he that is in the world. Get thee behind me in the name of Jesus!

I'm not promising your husband won't come unglued but placing him in Rebuke puts God into complete control. And even though it might become bad for you in the immediate timeframe. It's killing him literally both immediately and in the long run until he converts or just begins to leave you alone.

 

[GWH]

As I said in my original post he is aggressively against my beliefs. He isn't just stating his beliefs he is trying to control mine and yes there has been physical and mental aggression.. spitting in my face, pushing me, telling me I am worshipping a man, worshipping the devil etc...I'm not arguing over who is right who is wrong. I am arguing that God gave me free will and he should respect the fact that we are free to choose even if he disagrees with me but he doesn't seem to be able to let it go. Thanks anyways, your advice is good for two people who are capable of respect but that is not my situation.

It may be that you and your legal husband were never married spiritually or in accordance with God's will per TOJ #104 that I cited, which is that Marriage is a spiritual union until death. [MT 19:4-6] Perhaps you two were independent from your parents, but it sounds like you became parents before becoming spiritually mature, having the same love for each other as Christ has for His bride, the church.

Thus, your sexual union or becoming “one flesh” (GN 2:24), which should have signified the essence of marriage or becoming spiritually one did not mean such. Because that which must not be separated is the spiritual unity, the sin of divorce also is a spiritual event and may already be the reality, so you two need to consider working on the quality of your communication/relationship and getting truly married (redoing vows?).

 

[keepingthingsreal]

As I said in my original post he is aggressively against my beliefs. He isn't just stating his beliefs he is trying to control mine and yes there has been physical and mental aggression.. spitting in my face, pushing me, telling me I am worshipping a man, worshipping the devil etc...I'm not arguing over who is right who is wrong. I am arguing that God gave me free will and he should respect the fact that we are free to choose even if he disagrees with me but he doesn't seem to be able to let it go. Thanks anyways, your advice is good for two people who are capable of respect but that is not my situation.

That physical aggression is not good. If it persists, or if it worsens, then you should seriously consider getting the police or somebody else involved. There are a few places in the New Testament where Paul used his Roman citizenship, and his rights as a Roman, to quell situations, and you might need to resort to exercising your own rights as a citizen, and as a married woman, to stop your husband's aggression. This is one extreme.

The other extreme is found here:

1Pe 3:1
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1Pe 3:2
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
1Pe 3:3
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
1Pe 3:4
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1Pe 3:5
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
1Pe 3:6
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

The "likewise" in verse 1 links this back to what Peter had just finished saying in relation to how citizens should deal with wicked rulers, how slaves should deal with wicked masters, and how Christ himself dealt with those who came against him, so you might want to take the time to read that. In either case, women who have husbands who obey not the word, which is definitely your case, can win them without the word or without verbally preaching to them. Instead, your chaste conversation, or your pure and devoted manner of life before the Lord, coupled with the fear of God, can win him over. It needs to be the hidden (wo-) man of the heart, or the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit within you, that ultimately gets his attention.

Anyhow, those are the two extremes. Should you need to go with extreme #1 at some point in time, then do not think that you are somehow sinning by doing so. Again, you have biblical precedent to use your rights as a citizen to quell your husband's aggressive behavior towards you if it does not stop of his own volition. If you need examples of where Paul used his own Roman citizenship to his benefit, then I will gladly provide you with them.

 

[keepingthingsreal]

P.S.

I am praying for you.