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I’m not the sharpest drawer or whatever it goes like, so I have to ask what is the “elephant in the room” here?
Not saying it is the case here, but the fact of the matter is that we DO get people coming to sites like these specifically to troll Christians, with the common hook being, oh I am so lonely. We have no idea who new people are, and we actually have had instances where someone joins saying they are a woman and/or using a provocative avatar and wanting to speak to Christians about their relationship issues. One claimed to be a woman and invited men only to PM "her" about her sexual issues. Major red flag much? Some men complained about being cautioned, but hey, this is the internet after all, and boys will be boys. Satan even tried to get Jesus to sin...
 

Lynx

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#43
Not saying it is the case here, but the fact of the matter is that we DO get people coming to sites like these specifically to troll Christians, with the common hook being, oh I am so lonely. We have no idea who new people are, and we actually have had instances where someone joins saying they are a woman and/or using a provocative avatar and wanting to speak to Christians about their relationship issues. One claimed to be a woman and invited men only to PM "her" about her sexual issues. Major red flag much? Some men complained about being cautioned, but hey, this is the internet after all, and boys will be boys. Even Satan tried to get Jesus to sin...
These things are true and have been often, and a warning would seem to be warranted. But there are two problems.

1. The target audience would not believe such a warning. They have strong motivation and want very badly to believe you are wrong if you warn them. In fact they will almost always vigorously come to the defense of the troll.

2. The truth usually becomes apparent so quickly that a warning is almost redundant.
 
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These things are true and have been often, and a warning would seem to be warranted. But there are two problems.

1. The target audience would not believe such a warning. They have strong motivation and want very badly to believe you are wrong if you warn them. In fact they will almost always vigorously come to the defense of the troll.

2. The truth usually becomes apparent so quickly that a warning is almost redundant.
This is so true, and number one in particular I experienced quite vigorously when two guys relentless harassed me
after I cautioned the guys about getting involved in a PM with a "woman" who wanted men only to write to them so
they could speak of their sexual issues. I have mentioned this previously here and there as the topic comes up, but
always bears repeating. Their harassment in both cases ended only when they were each banned for other issues.


Sometimes some old thread will be resurrected and I will be perusing it, good times!
And then I will come across one of their posts, and I think, Oh, him! I remember him. 😂
 

TabinRivCA

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How can you say this to me and yet not see what that person said or make any comments towards them as well ??? Seems very biased. Did you not read what they said to me?? Please just leave me alone if you have anything else to say, because you’ve clearly not been through enough to empathize. I don’t even understand how you can say that to me and not see how that person attacked me immediately because I defended my post in a vulnerable moment.
I've been 'through' enough to know everybody is not bad for saying or doing things I may not approve of or not understand where they're coming from. I've learned to give others some slack as I hope they will when I don't live up to their expectations. I'm not biased but I do think calling long term fellow members here trolls, is immature and not wise on your part.
Btw, there is an 'ignore' button you can put on anyone here if you want to silence their commenting but we will still be able to see them. 'El Roi' the God who sees.....Awesome Father✝🙌
 

ocean

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All of creation reflects Him hallelujah. I love this. Thank you so much for sharing because I often feel like God isn’t truly understanding my longing and need for this God ordained husband but then when I read post like yours I realize that He wants it for me just as much, if not more than I want it for myself, His timing is perfect. Thank you 💝🙏 hallelujah and amen 🥰
You say in yr bio that you are separated so would you not be already married? If you are, what is it you would expect from God ?
 
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Not saying it is the case here, but the fact of the matter is that we DO get people coming to sites like these specifically to troll Christians, with the common hook being, oh I am so lonely. We have no idea who new people are, and we actually have had instances where someone joins saying they are a woman and/or using a provocative avatar and wanting to speak to Christians about their relationship issues. One claimed to be a woman and invited men only to PM "her" about her sexual issues. Major red flag much? Some men complained about being cautioned, but hey, this is the internet after all, and boys will be boys. Satan even tried to get Jesus to sin...
This is understandable as well, I can definitely see that happening, but I’m not looking for that at all. I just really wanted comfort and prayer and to see if anyone could give some encouragement or advice/relate to me.
 
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You say in yr bio that you are separated so would you not be already married? If you are, what is it you would expect from God ?
I meant the word separated as in literally I’m separated from whoever they are until God joins us together
I've been 'through' enough to know everybody is not bad for saying or doing things I may not approve of or not understand where they're coming from. I've learned to give others some slack as I hope they will when I don't live up to their expectations. I'm not biased but I do think calling long term fellow members here trolls, is immature and not wise on your part.
Btw, there is an 'ignore' button you can put on anyone here if you want to silence their commenting but we will still be able to see them. 'El Roi' the God who sees.....Awesome Father✝🙌
how is it immature to assume someone is trolling , on an internet full of people who troll ? Especially when they commented something weird and irrelevant on my post? If I could see your point I would , as I have with plenty others. Regardless I’ll just take your advice on the ignore button thank you and amen yes He does truly see and understand us , even more than we do our own selves. 🙏💖
 

TabinRivCA

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I meant the word separated as in literally I’m separated from whoever they are until God joins us together

how is it immature to assume someone is trolling , on an internet full of people who troll ? Especially when they commented something weird and irrelevant on my post? If I could see your point I would , as I have with plenty others. Regardless I’ll just take your advice on the ignore button thank you and amen yes He does truly see and understand us , even more than we do our own selves. 🙏💖
First, I'm not sure what you mean here... 'I meant the word separated as in literally I’m separated from whoever they are until God joins us together'. In your Intro Forum post you said you're a first time mom, so you were in a relationship that didn't connect, ok. And as for trolls, this is a Christian site and referencing back to the two posts you likened to trolling, I don't see it. There's a difference between jesting and trolling. Trolling refers to a person or act of intentionally posting inflammatory or offensive messages online to provoke or upset others. It's a form of online harassment often used to disrupt discussions or cause drama'. Jesting is 'the action of saying or doing something for amusement'. Also a kind bit of info, if you click on the user's name, it will give you info on how long they've been here and, unless they went private mode, will give you some background. God bless you and your child🙏✝