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I personally think you deserve a few extra points for being willing to post a picture and asking for honest feedback. That's definitely admirable!
But if I can be honest -- your picture is fine. You look like a handsome real-life guy. But the key here is that you look like a real-life person.
Do you know the movie, The Princess Bride?
This is Buttercup. She's about at the level of hotness as the picture of the fake woman you posted (maybe even more since she's not wearing much makeup -- just enough for the movie set -- and is obviously very naturally beautiful,)
These are some of the main characters from the movie:
Do you know who Buttercup winds up with at the end of the movie?
Wesley.
Now, what do you think are the real-life odds of Buttercup winding up marrying any of the other characters?
No, I'm not comparing you to anything in The Princess Bride.
But what I AM saying is that when someone expects to marry someone else who is several points ahead of them on the rating scale, they either need to look like a movie star themselves and/or have VERY deep pockets.
If you have those things (and it's better to have both,) maybe you'll land someone like Buttercup.
Otherwise, the hard truth is, chances are slim. And that goes for any general real-life person, whether man or women.
And even if you do marry your dream girl, what will you do when she gets older?
This is Robin Wright, and she's STILL beautiful.
But she doesn't quite look the same as when she played Buttercup back in 1987.
But if I can be honest -- your picture is fine. You look like a handsome real-life guy. But the key here is that you look like a real-life person.
Do you know the movie, The Princess Bride?
This is Buttercup. She's about at the level of hotness as the picture of the fake woman you posted (maybe even more since she's not wearing much makeup -- just enough for the movie set -- and is obviously very naturally beautiful,)
These are some of the main characters from the movie:
Do you know who Buttercup winds up with at the end of the movie?
Wesley.
Now, what do you think are the real-life odds of Buttercup winding up marrying any of the other characters?
No, I'm not comparing you to anything in The Princess Bride.
But what I AM saying is that when someone expects to marry someone else who is several points ahead of them on the rating scale, they either need to look like a movie star themselves and/or have VERY deep pockets.
If you have those things (and it's better to have both,) maybe you'll land someone like Buttercup.
Otherwise, the hard truth is, chances are slim. And that goes for any general real-life person, whether man or women.
And even if you do marry your dream girl, what will you do when she gets older?
This is Robin Wright, and she's STILL beautiful.
But she doesn't quite look the same as when she played Buttercup back in 1987.
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And, to make this fair, let's turn this around and show the ladies an example as well.
This is Andie.
These are some of her friends.
Do you want to land a guy who looks like Ben, just like Andie? (Matthew McConaughey)
Then you'd better make sure you're at least on the same hotness scale as Andie (Kate Hudson,) and NOT one of her friends.
Even in the movie, one of Andie's friends makes the comment that if Andie vomited on a guy, he would think it was cute -- because she rates high enough on the good-looks scale to get away with it.
This is Andie.
These are some of her friends.
Do you want to land a guy who looks like Ben, just like Andie? (Matthew McConaughey)
Then you'd better make sure you're at least on the same hotness scale as Andie (Kate Hudson,) and NOT one of her friends.
Even in the movie, one of Andie's friends makes the comment that if Andie vomited on a guy, he would think it was cute -- because she rates high enough on the good-looks scale to get away with it.
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This was my thought as well.
With the talk of not wanting a "starter wife", it sounds like you're saying she has to be attractive, because if she wasn't attractive you would leave her and that's not moral and you don't want to do that...
What happens when she ages? Or if she happened to get injured in a disfiguring way? If you were to have children after you were married, do you realize that will affect the way her body looks?
"You have to be cute so I won't leave you" is shaky ground. And it's not the precedent you want to set in a relationship, whether you realize it or not.
With the talk of not wanting a "starter wife", it sounds like you're saying she has to be attractive, because if she wasn't attractive you would leave her and that's not moral and you don't want to do that...
What happens when she ages? Or if she happened to get injured in a disfiguring way? If you were to have children after you were married, do you realize that will affect the way her body looks?
"You have to be cute so I won't leave you" is shaky ground. And it's not the precedent you want to set in a relationship, whether you realize it or not.
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I think they're called mothers, and yes some men really want a replacement for mom rather than to be an equal partner. Or rather they want someone who takes on all the adult responsibilities so they can do whatever they feel like doing. Men aren't the only people like that as my brother has dated a few girls that just want him to free them from adult concerns and responsibilities as well.
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Hi Josepus86, like Seoul was saying, posting a pic was brave so I have to give ya points for pluck 😎👍. There's nothing wrong with the way you look (though I'd definitely give you some style pointers if you wanted them).
I agree with @CarriePie , I'm not big on the rating system. I either find a guy attractive or I don't, and many different factors can add or subtract from a guys' attractiveness level.
But I gotta ask..... if your AI dream girl is only a 9 in your eyes, what the HECK would a 10 look like to ya?!? 😬 For real, she's literally COVERED in makeup, and that crud is expensive and time consuming.
Also, your dream lady appears to be in her early-mid 30s. Nothing wrong with wanting that, I get that you want 3 kids. But in that case it's only fair to "rate" you against men in their mid-late 30's, since hypothetical dream girl would probably prefer a guy in that range.
However, if you wish to be "rated" based off of other men in your actual age range, you'll need to give us that info as well. 😌🤓
I agree with @CarriePie , I'm not big on the rating system. I either find a guy attractive or I don't, and many different factors can add or subtract from a guys' attractiveness level.
But I gotta ask..... if your AI dream girl is only a 9 in your eyes, what the HECK would a 10 look like to ya?!? 😬 For real, she's literally COVERED in makeup, and that crud is expensive and time consuming.
Also, your dream lady appears to be in her early-mid 30s. Nothing wrong with wanting that, I get that you want 3 kids. But in that case it's only fair to "rate" you against men in their mid-late 30's, since hypothetical dream girl would probably prefer a guy in that range.
However, if you wish to be "rated" based off of other men in your actual age range, you'll need to give us that info as well. 😌🤓
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In your first post, you said you do not want to have to settle (hence all the talk we've been having in other threads about low-hanging fruit.)
And yet, you expect your dream girl to "step down" to the level you think you can work your way up to.
How in the world is this realistic, that you don't want to settle, but would expect someone else to?
Major red flag, and I would run for the hills.
Not because I think of myself as a 9, but because I wouldn't be interested in anyone who says, "I'm going to move on up, but you're going to have to step down to meet me where I am. YOU might have to settle, but I' certainly won't, because I'm much too good to have to settle!"
How on earth did you develop this type of logic?
And yet, you expect your dream girl to "step down" to the level you think you can work your way up to.
How in the world is this realistic, that you don't want to settle, but would expect someone else to?
Major red flag, and I would run for the hills.
Not because I think of myself as a 9, but because I wouldn't be interested in anyone who says, "I'm going to move on up, but you're going to have to step down to meet me where I am. YOU might have to settle, but I' certainly won't, because I'm much too good to have to settle!"
How on earth did you develop this type of logic?
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I am genuinely curious when I ask you this:
Why is it that you have no concept that in this exact scenario, YOU would be the "low-hanging fruit"?
What is it that makes you believe you deserve more than the other person will get in return?
I'm not being sarcastic.
I run into people all the time who believe this, and I would genuinely like to know what makes them truly believe they deserve to marry up on the scale, while their spouse should be perfectly happy marrying down.
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To me, the real kicker is...
The people who don't want to settle for low-hanging fruit themselves -- but want to be SOMEONE ELSE'S low-hanging fruit (however, they never see it that way) -- are always dumbfounded (and often bitter) as to why they're single, or can't find their piece of fantasy fruit.
Wow!
Such. A. Mystery.
The people who don't want to settle for low-hanging fruit themselves -- but want to be SOMEONE ELSE'S low-hanging fruit (however, they never see it that way) -- are always dumbfounded (and often bitter) as to why they're single, or can't find their piece of fantasy fruit.
Wow!
Such. A. Mystery.
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LOL!!!
One thing I've been learning in life... A lot of people talk big (and of course, I've been guilty of this, too.)
Then 5, 10, 15, 20 years... A lifetime goes by...
Then you remember that old saying, "You can wish (talk up your expectations) in one hand, and crap in other other..."
And when you catch up to most people, and even yourself...
Guess which hand is usually full, and which hand is often empty (or nearly so.)
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