What Do You Think About Faking Happiness?

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There are people that smile a lot outside, looking so bright and cheerful. Meanwhile, when they get back home, they fall into... Should I say, depression? Due to one reason or the other.
(That's one of the reasons why it's good to be kind to people. Depending on how you relate with others, you either make them happier or sadder.)
It's not ok to go around with a gloomy face just because things aren't going well for you, right?
But then is it ok to go around looking so happy, laughing and all that when you know that deep within, it's the opposite?
What if you would have loved to spill out that worry but then you're too busy trying to make others happy? You don't wanna say some sad things to some persons so they don't feel sad too cos they can't help.
How do you help yourself then to help others?
 
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If I give you the real-and-true proper answer, you may consider it to be a Jesus Juke; nonetheless, Christians are supposed to draw strength from God/Jesus - and then, with His help, help others.

If you are looking for a "real-world practical" general approach, then I will suggest that you should be first honest, then sociable. This means not being fake about how you feel while also trying not to "bring others down" with the way you go about communicating/dealing with others. In other words, neither hide it nor force it upon others.

It can be a very fine line between the two - because, people often "fake it" in order to not force it upon others.

If you like this answer, then perhaps you already had your answer before you asked the question...?
 
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GaryA said:
If I give you the real-and-true proper answer, you may consider it to be a Jesus Juke; nonetheless, Christians are supposed to draw strength from God/Jesus - and then, with His help, help others.

If you are looking for a "real-world practical" general approach, then I will suggest that you should be first honest, then sociable. This means not being fake about how you feel while also trying not to "bring others down" with the way you go about communicating/dealing with others. In other words, neither hide it nor force it upon others.

It can be a very fine line between the two - because, people often "fake it" in order to not force it upon others.

If you like this answer, then perhaps you already had your answer before you asked the question...?
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Well, that fine line might just be the challenge.
 
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GloryDinma said:
Really?! But not everyone out there seems happy nor do they care if others are happy or nah
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by course, it depends where someone lives. when you say, "out there", where is out there? what country? i care about the happiness of others but more than that, i care about people being filled with the joy of Jesus & the Holy Spirit. for me, the short story is that i came from about the worst upbringing you could imagine. but i saw potential in myself, corrected a lot of life's hardships & have been quite happy for decades.
 
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GloryDinma said:
There are people that smile a lot outside, looking so bright and cheerful. Meanwhile, when they get back home, they fall into... Should I say, depression? Due to one reason or the other.
(That's one of the reasons why it's good to be kind to people. Depending on how you relate with others, you either make them happier or sadder.)
It's not ok to go around with a gloomy face just because things aren't going well for you, right?
But then is it ok to go around looking so happy, laughing and all that when you know that deep within, it's the opposite?
What if you would have loved to spill out that worry but then you're too busy trying to make others happy? You don't wanna say some sad things to some persons so they don't feel sad too cos they can't help.
How do you help yourself then to help others?
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This is very common in society, especially among Christians and in churches.

I think the main issue with it is that people somewhat recognize it's fake. So they will make up stories about why that person is fake or even a liar and it leads to gossip. When in reality they're probably just going through a hard time.

Here's an example: One of our musicians would seem fake like that but actually she was going through infertility. Ironically I immediately knew when she was pregnant as I noticed the smile wasn't fake anymore.

On the flip side some people have fake smiles and really are not nice people. So I think that's why people recognize it and it creates anger in people. Because shady people will also have a fake smile and it sets alarms off in our head.

I'm not sure the solution. Ideally people would be kind enough that others could be vulnerable with them. And that evil criminals would just go away. But no such luck on any of that. 🤷‍♀️
 
on the average, we fake happiness way more than we can remember or care to admit. if we fake it to maintain peace as in not stirring up an argument, then it's productive. but on the other side, depending on the personal level of an issue, you are better admitting the problem & dealing with it in all honesty. just this past thursday, my wife made dinner for me!!! holy heavens!!! i couldn't believe it!!! we get home at drastically different times & that's why we nearly never enjoy dinner together. she had extra time off. i was elated! i was going to say something how she never makes dinner for me but we were both in fabulous moods so i declined.
 
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It's okay to be honest about how you feel while maintaining a posture that won't let it rub off on others excessively.
When two people who hope to be happy are able to admit to each other that they're sad, then the pathway can open up for them to help each other be honestly happy.

I found this awesome testimony that I hope helps.
 
I really dislike the common trend of calling people ' fake ' , I find it deeply insulting . In my opinion , people feel either happy or not so happy or sad to varying degrees through out the day . I may wake up happy but after a while remember that someone I know is quite ill or that my electric bill is due any day . I may c something horrible on the news that distresses me but after a while I get a phone call from someone that tells me something that makes me happy .
Judging wether or not I think someone is being ' fake ' is not something that I would ever do , as someone on this thread said , it can lead to gossiping and speculation and more judgement etc and ultimately is just speculation . Not a mindset I want to get into . I have nicer things to consider .
 
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