Flirting Tips Please!

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orangecarmel

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ok this is kind of embarrassing but i can NOT flirt!!!! im a soph in hs and i seriously dont think ive ever flirted or tried flirting with a guy i was atrracted to
i can talk to any guy but always come off to 'friend' like
dont get me wrong i love making new friends but i would just like to know some ways or tips to flirt with a guy just in case when the time comes haha
well anyway thanks and plz share any advice or tips!!
:)
 
Cheekygrin

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Open honesty. Tell a guy friend you'd like to flirt with him but don't know how. That maybe he should invite you out to a movie or to get a drink (non-alcoholic of course young lady) for a discussion of how to. Of course, make sure you smile and show confidence. Simple creatures that we men are, this should work a treat. And now, you wait ;)

Best of luck little sister. Use your new found power wisely. Date not the douche.
 
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um. . . . . personally i think flirting gets you into trouble. >_< i understand how you'd want to but its a skill that i think you should use once you're of age to be looking for a husband and not some boyfriend that you're going to have trouble not getting too attached and "taking things to the next level"
its easy to say that you won't until you're face to face with it. then it gets a LOT harder.

if i could go back i wouldn't even think about dating boys until i graduated high school. they started so much mess in my life. T-T

but yeah asking a guy friend to help you out would be one way. and everyone has their own way of doing it. some people TOTALLY suck at flirting but i find it fairly cute when a guy tries to flirt and can't. its more fun for me that way cause then i don't feel like the idiot trying to make witty comments back. but thats just me. some girls like a kool and suave type.
 
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dear orangecarmel...you are still young and theres so much you can do instead of flirt with someone. i think it's a good thing just be friends, be a blessing and to be blessed.

the thing is if you wanna be with someone but you dont see him with you in the future it will end useless.

and to be honest your age now is not a proper age to seeking or courting. because it needs emotional strength, esp. when dealing with the possibility that your feeling wont be returned.
 
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siena Im with ella :) and ur a cool kid. I spoke to u! U got the dance moves and u got amazing social and sports skills! :D u dont need flirting :D ahahah
 
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orangecarmel

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Cheekygrin said:
Open honesty. Tell a guy friend you'd like to flirt with him but don't know how. That maybe he should invite you out to a movie or to get a drink (non-alcoholic of course young lady) for a discussion of how to. Of course, make sure you smile and show confidence. Simple creatures that we men are, this should work a treat. And now, you wait ;)

Best of luck little sister. Use your new found power wisely. Date not the douche.
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i love this advice cuz its nothing super crazy! oh ya& i would NEVER EVER drink! pinky promise! thanks for ur help!
bahaha last sentence is hilarious XD
 
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Good Lord! Have times changed... ...at 15, I was still playing jump-roap... :eek: :)
...I wonder if going without flirting is the reason why my first kiss was on my wedding day in my 30's.
 
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orangecarmel

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Aqua_Girl09 said:
um. . . . . personally i think flirting gets you into trouble. >_< i understand how you'd want to but its a skill that i think you should use once you're of age to be looking for a husband and not some boyfriend that you're going to have trouble not getting too attached and "taking things to the next level"
its easy to say that you won't until you're face to face with it. then it gets a LOT harder.

if i could go back i wouldn't even think about dating boys until i graduated high school. they started so much mess in my life. T-T

but yeah asking a guy friend to help you out would be one way. and everyone has their own way of doing it. some people TOTALLY suck at flirting but i find it fairly cute when a guy tries to flirt and can't. its more fun for me that way cause then i don't feel like the idiot trying to make witty comments back. but thats just me. some girls like a kool and suave type.
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aqua i tottaly get what ur saying. i dont want to start any kind of drama but i was just wondering some simple ways on doing stuff :). i mean like if i see a cute guy in the hallway, like what to say just to make him notice
but i personaly DONT date. i agree that dating in hschool will cause lots of unwanted drama. i watch people around and its something i will wait for when i get older. like in college :D
thanks for ur advice! i really appreciate it :) God Bless you <3
 
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orangecarmel

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eLLalala said:
dear orangecarmel...you are still young and theres so much you can do instead of flirt with someone. i think it's a good thing just be friends, be a blessing and to be blessed.

the thing is if you wanna be with someone but you dont see him with you in the future it will end useless.

and to be honest your age now is not a proper age to seeking or courting. because it needs emotional strength, esp. when dealing with the possibility that your feeling wont be returned.
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yeah i know, i get discouaged when look around and almost all my friends have a boy friend or is constantly on there phone.or at foot ball games when i glace over and see a guy and girl smiling and talking.
like i told aqua im not looking for anything serious like a relationship. ill save that stuff for later, i just wanted to know some basic tips.anything really.(i dont really have anyone to talk to about this subject) thats all :)
thanks for watching out for me :)God Bless
 
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orangecarmel

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TheJesusfreak1990 said:
siena Im with ella :) and ur a cool kid. I spoke to u! U got the dance moves and u got amazing social and sports skills! :D u dont need flirting :D ahahah
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MaX!! omgoodness how are u?! hope ur doing great!
-aww thanks-that makes me feel so much better about myself :D!
GB Bro!!!!
 
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orangecarmel

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BananaPie said:
Good Lord! Have times changed... ...at 15, I was still playing jump-roap... :eek: :)
...I wonder if going without flirting is the reason why my first kiss was on my wedding day in my 30's.
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haha ...and i find nothing wrong with that banana pie. i think its absolutly adorrible and sweet :) congrats to u both btw!
 
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BananaPie

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From a conservative perspective, flirting is proper between a husband and his wife. Outside of marriage flirting has no biblical grounds because it all boils down to flesh format.

The brethren are encouraged to befriend the sisters in order to protect their honor & chastity. Likewise, the sisters are encouraged NOT to flirt with the brethren to protect the brother's heart too because we are all to wait on God's will for one's life's journey.

How would we know if a brother is weak in this respect and falls into sin at the first flirt? Or how do we know is the sister is weak and believes the friendly actions of a brother to be something else and begins flirting with him?

It is best to befriend believers, openly before the Lord, allowing friendship to mature over time and take root into godly love to such a degree that you will know and he will know that you both love God enough to be united in godly marriage.

Or what is marriage? Definitely not a coitus license. LOL. :D
Marriage is pretty much the continuation of a maturing friendship.
Remember, "above all things guarded, guard your heart." :)
 
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Most dictionarys define Flirt as trying to arouse sexual interest from someone.
So basically to cause them to lust in their heart and sin.
 
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SonOfAdam said:
Most dictionarys define Flirt as trying to arouse sexual interest from someone.
So basically to cause them to lust in their heart and sin.
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+1 to that.
 
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orangecarmel

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SonOfAdam said:
Most dictionarys define Flirt as trying to arouse sexual interest from someone.
So basically to cause them to lust in their heart and sin.
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oh i didnt know that, but i promise thats not my definition! im a good girl :)
 
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orangecarmel

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Michelle95, thanks for ur advice but i dont think im into the 'sexy' look..im only 15...ill stick to my comfy look but i think i need to be more confedent like u stated, just in a good way :D gracias
 
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Michelle94

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So perhaps your looking for something else all together. There are also plenty of books on the subject you could look into. You will definately run into some of what I said, but maybe you'll find a lot more as well.

Good luck, once again! :)
 
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Michelle94

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orangecarmel said:
Michelle95, thanks for ur advice but i dont think im into the 'sexy' look..im only 15...ill stick to my comfy look but i think i need to be more confedent like u stated, just in a good way :D gracias
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-----------edited----------- guess you could say I'm pretty open minded.
 
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