A question for the ladies: What makes a man attractive?
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In some video games all you have to do is run three lines of dialogue and go fetch something and they will marry you. Or go to bed with you, (cough)Baldur'sGate3(cough)
Er what video have you been watching?
What is it with all the videos.
People always say men are 'visual' whatever that means.
I think if a man is clean he's more attractive than dirty, smelly and rolled in the mud! lol I mean, we still have to do laundry at the end of the day. Of course real life you are gonna get dirty, but you don't have to be that way all the time. Thats what a shower or bath is for. And soap.
Fetching things make a men attractive too, we don't want just a pretty face, he has to be useful as well. At least be able to lift some weights. We women don't want to do heavy lifting ALL the time. We appreciate helping hands-ome handy man
Many men proclaim their own goodness but a faithful man who can find? Proverbs 20:6
Be reliable, be kind, and have a sense of humour. that helps!
What is it with all the videos.
People always say men are 'visual' whatever that means.
I think if a man is clean he's more attractive than dirty, smelly and rolled in the mud! lol I mean, we still have to do laundry at the end of the day. Of course real life you are gonna get dirty, but you don't have to be that way all the time. Thats what a shower or bath is for. And soap.
Fetching things make a men attractive too, we don't want just a pretty face, he has to be useful as well. At least be able to lift some weights. We women don't want to do heavy lifting ALL the time. We appreciate helping hands-ome handy man
Many men proclaim their own goodness but a faithful man who can find? Proverbs 20:6
Be reliable, be kind, and have a sense of humour. that helps!
Since being around the block a few times and twice a widow now, if I was looking, a Christian bold in his faith would be appealing in many ways. Looks would be secondary as someone can look cool but be empty inside. Btw don't put yourself down ZT I remember your pic, not too shabby
Eh... Women SAY that, but I'm still single. Many women have said that is what they are looking for, and many people have told me multiple times that I am all these things, but I am definitely still single.
I was looking through my recommended videos on youtube and saw one called "The one body part that women notice in seconds". (it wasn't anything disgusting). It was by a female therapist and doctoral student of psychology who referred to a few studies in the video. It got me wondering about what women find attractive in a man.
oh ok
man people should stop watching you-tube vids with suggestive titles like that. They just want you to click on the ads.
The only vids I really have time for to watch are karaoke songs, because I need the lyrics in time with the music.
And usually karaoke songs are at most 4-5 minutes, not half an hour or hours like those other vids.
It's hands right? Or specifically, fingers. If a man's wearing a ring, he's probably married. Other than that I don't know. Not really looking. Or maybe its feet because if you enter my home, you better take off your shoes because I'm not having dirty shoes in the house ruining the floor. I can't say eyes because some men wear sunglasses and they aren't always looking in your direction. As long as they are not bloodshot and you're not sleeping, I don't think it matters what colour they are, as long as the guy is alive.
I mean how many body parts are we talking here, do we need a course on butchery or anatomy or something. I always check the eyes on fish or if not that under the gills to see if they are fresh.
Heads, shoulders, knees and toes? Eyes and ears and mouth and nose? Hair? fingernails? Belly button? I can't see inside I don't have x-ray vision.
I mean how many body parts are we talking here, do we need a course on butchery or anatomy or something. I always check the eyes on fish or if not that under the gills to see if they are fresh.
Heads, shoulders, knees and toes? Eyes and ears and mouth and nose? Hair? fingernails? Belly button? I can't see inside I don't have x-ray vision.
No it's not hands or fingers. I thought it would be eyes but I was wrong too. It's not any of the parts you mentioned.
It's a good question, but I have a hard time answering it because it's layered and I'm not good with practical details.
For me I think appearance gets me the first level of... oh he's kinda cute I wonder who he is interested, but especially with the more plain girls you can get around the looks barrier if you make an effort to let her know you notice her (in a polite non creepy way... ie don't start the conversation hitting on her, just try to have a normal conversation you could have with anyone). After that it's a matter of being a stable man of good character that makes her feel like life is more stable and secure with you around. And find ways to mention your interests or activities since after a certain age, what you're mainly looking for is an activity / life partner so finding a common interest is as good as gold.
Of course this approach has been left untried with me for the most part, but if I analyze my crushes (that I won't often admit to having) being noticed and finding a common interest connection or an inside joke has really been the path to turning my head. But I am a rather atypical female so who knows if it will work on other more typical females.
For me I think appearance gets me the first level of... oh he's kinda cute I wonder who he is interested, but especially with the more plain girls you can get around the looks barrier if you make an effort to let her know you notice her (in a polite non creepy way... ie don't start the conversation hitting on her, just try to have a normal conversation you could have with anyone). After that it's a matter of being a stable man of good character that makes her feel like life is more stable and secure with you around. And find ways to mention your interests or activities since after a certain age, what you're mainly looking for is an activity / life partner so finding a common interest is as good as gold.
Of course this approach has been left untried with me for the most part, but if I analyze my crushes (that I won't often admit to having) being noticed and finding a common interest connection or an inside joke has really been the path to turning my head. But I am a rather atypical female so who knows if it will work on other more typical females.
Be cheerful , optimistic , not a complainer , big genuine smile that reaches the eyes . Know when to b quiet and just listen , plenty of eye contact but not staring . Not too pushy or desperate . Clean and tidy and not needy , show that u can look after yourself , ironing , cleaning , cooking etc , u r not looking for a housekeeper . Don't make personal comments , good or bad , compliments or criticisms . Don't b afraid to say ' I don't know ' and ' I'm sorry ' . Beware the company u keep , u will b painted with the same brush . Don't give out too much information about yourself , keep some thing's back , b a little bit mysterious . Other than that big long list , just b u 
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Personally , I like calm , easy going , relaxed people , men and women , who r confident enough to b honest and without a façade . My brother in law is definitely a bit odd and a few family members don't like him but I do , because he is being himself , he's not trying to impress anyone and he's not afraid to b himself . Be comfortable in your own skin . I know for sure that God provides us with the people that we need in our lives but first , He makes us into the person that we need to b so that , the person He has for us will b attracted to us .
I know that if my hubby and I had met before we did , we probably wouldn't have liked each other . We had to be made into the people that we r first , through life experiences , in order for us to b ready for each other . When I was younger , I was painfully shy and he was a dangerously extroverted person . We needed to b moulded by life before we could b ready to appreciate each other . This didn't happen until we were around 33 , 34 years old .
. Personally , I like calm , easy going , relaxed people , men and women , who r confident enough to b honest and without a façade . My brother in law is definitely a bit odd and a few family members don't like him but I do , because he is being himself , he's not trying to impress anyone and he's not afraid to b himself . Be comfortable in your own skin . I know for sure that God provides us with the people that we need in our lives but first , He makes us into the person that we need to b so that , the person He has for us will b attracted to us .
I know that if my hubby and I had met before we did , we probably wouldn't have liked each other . We had to be made into the people that we r first , through life experiences , in order for us to b ready for each other . When I was younger , I was painfully shy and he was a dangerously extroverted person . We needed to b moulded by life before we could b ready to appreciate each other . This didn't happen until we were around 33 , 34 years old .
Nope.
I mean I haven't been going out LOOKING for a lady, but neither do I make the sign of the cross and run away screaming if one approaches me... Or I think I wouldn't. Hypothetically, if one did approach me, I don't think I would run away screaming. Maybe we'll never know what would happen.
huh do you live in a monastery or something...or a men's prison?
Oh wait a minute you play video games right? I think women stay away from men who play video games, not because they don't like you, but because it would interrupt your gaming. Plus you can't go out much if you're always playing video games, unless you are playing on your smartphone, in which case, you're already preoccupied.
Well don't keep us in suspense. I haven't mentioned any private parts because well, we don't really look there, unless you're flashing or mooning us. Please don't do that.
Doesn't really matter. Those clickbait videos are always waaaaay off anyway. And the "reason" they give for making whatever claims they make is invariably spurious.