Why is it so hard to find a true Christian man in my small town?!

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Sunshine2026 said:
Like I just want a Godly man of God that isn’t far away, that will be the leader he is called to be in a relationship and be handsome is that so hard to ask for!
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How handsome are we talking here? Guys who are very good looking may be vain and proud, with no interest in Christ whatsoever. Could that be part of the problem? Maybe your bar is set too high? I would say more but I am kind of preoccupied at the moment. This woman next to me is trying to comfort her crying children who just caught a glimpse of what I look like, and I can barely think straight. :ROFL:​
 
Churchgoer said:
That's an only dating site. Not bad.
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Huh it's not even real?
Then where are you supposed to go? On the coffee date. If you go to a regular cafe, there may be men there, but no christian men.

All the people I know who go to cafes are oldies. Its because they get the Gold card discount, and have time during the day to sit and natter, because they are retired. And usually they are women.

Men either go to pubs or they just get takeaway coffee, and drink it in their utes.
 
This is why we're all online right?
There's no place to go and churches don't like holding dances.

Pitiful.
 
I know....go to the cat cafe.
He's a keeper if he can tolerate cats. Or even better if he picks them up and cuddles them, without the cat scratching his face.
That is the ultimate test. I don't care if he drinks coffee or not.
 
Lanolin said:
Huh it's not even real?
Then where are you supposed to go? On the coffee date. If you go to a regular cafe, there may be men there, but no christian men.

All the people I know who go to cafes are oldies. Its because they get the Gold card discount, and have time during the day to sit and natter, because they are retired. And usually they are women.

Men either go to pubs or they just get takeaway coffee, and drink it in their utes.
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Sorry my typo. It is an online dating site.
Christiancafe.com

Try it out.
 
oh look at this. Click on the link, scroll down. There's a long list. Click on Church Ignores Singles and it just leads back to Christian Cafe. It's got pictures of smiling couples, but none of them are having coffee. Also, why is Saskatchewan singled out?

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Then try search for Christian dating site in your location. See what comes up.
Also continue going to church, talking about God, let people know you are Christian single, looking for Christian to date. Pray too, let God lead you.
 
Why would I join a site where you can't even go on a date in a cafe without hopping on a plane and having an international passport?

No, tried all that and all I got was a thief who stole $2000 from me.
 
Lanolin said:
Why would I join a site where you can't even go on a date in a cafe without hopping on a plane and having an international passport?

No, tried all that and all I got was a thief who stole $2000 from me.
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Agree agree, if they are not local, probably difficult.

Then try local, old fashion looking around.
 
But it doesn't mean you can't...Mr Churchgoer please post back your experience.
Also OP, there you go, the perfect solution. That you hadn't already tried.
 
I think OP has already tried that. Local I mean.

Anyway, I don't know how long she's been trying but maybe it takes time, like...10 years or so.
 
Lanolin said:
But it doesn't mean you can't...Mr Churchgoer please post back your experience.
Also OP, there you go, the perfect solution. That you hadn't already tried.
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I am a woman 👩 haha.

My experience is do our best looking, ultimately is God writing ✍ a love story with us. You will meet single Christians on the way, building up friendship, pray together, enjoy the journey itself.

Currently I am looking, enjoying the journey.

God has His timing. We just follow Him.
 
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cinder said:
Just out of curiosity, have you ever looked at the ratio of women to men in your church, even if it's all old people? Are there any churches around that have a younger demographic where the young men might feel more comfortable? Also do any of those old people have potentially christian kids or grandkids your age?
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Idk. I would say my church is pretty male based. Old men lol. I don’t think there is any church near me that I agree with that have a younger audience.
 
passion84god said:
How handsome are we talking here? Guys who are very good looking may be vain and proud, with no interest in Christ whatsoever. Could that be part of the problem? Maybe your bar is set too high? I would say more but I am kind of preoccupied at the moment. This woman next to me is trying to comfort her crying children who just caught a glimpse of what I look like, and I can barely think straight. :ROFL:​
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I would say obviously not too good looking. Cause he does have to have a personality ya know. I’ve noticed I like men with fuller lips, tall, darker hair, and the obvious a relationship with God and a good personality. I don’t really care about body type as long as they are obese or really fat cause I ain’t into that. But yeah I wouldn’t say my standards arnt too high but idk 🤷‍♀️
 
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