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AyoSonido

AyoSonido

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how would you feel if someone reached out to you and started talking to you and messaging you every morning and day, but come to find out that they were talking to 5 other people, even if your intention was to be professional or just be a brother or sister in Christ, the person relayed themselves as something more by their actions, then try to shift the blame like if you were the problem in as so much that others now begin to see you differently? is this not a narcissistic tactic used by people who have not truly inwardly reflected on their actions? how can someone continue to talk to a person like this when they have no boundaries on how they talk to people? how can someone continue to talk to them when they show you or no one else any respect? i think most men are fools to the idea of someone rather than the truth of a person. What's your thoughts?
 
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That would just annoy me if they did that too much. Mostly I used messaging for important messages like what time shall I come over and then saying I'm here

If they just chatting to five other people on the same topic, then just use the group chat!

You don't always have to answer, and you can say I'm busy right now can't chat.
 
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AyoSonido said:
how would you feel if someone reached out to you and started talking to you and messaging you every morning and day, but come to find out that they were talking to 5 other people, even if your intention was to be professional or just be a brother or sister in Christ, the person relayed themselves as something more by their actions, then try to shift the blame like if you were the problem in as so much that others now begin to see you differently? is this not a narcissistic tactic used by people who have not truly inwardly reflected on their actions? how can someone continue to talk to a person like this when they have no boundaries on how they talk to people? how can someone continue to talk to them when they show you or no one else any respect? i think most men are fools to the idea of someone rather than the truth of a person. What's your thoughts?
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Hi Ayo, welcome to the site!

Sounds like you don't want to talk to the person. So I think you should avoid talking to them. You don't need a great excuse or reason; you do not owe them your time and attention simply because they desire it.
 
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Hi Ayo, welcome to the site!

Sounds like you don't want to talk to the person. So I think you should avoid talking to them. You don't need a great excuse or reason; you do not owe them your time and attention simply because they desire it.
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hey yeah no its a general question, as to how people would view a situation like this, it has happened to me before, and it seems like a pattern i see in my life, but i have learned to walk away when i see red flags. i want to relate with others who have gone throught this and how they have handled it in the past.
 
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That would just annoy me if they did that too much. Mostly I used messaging for important messages like what time shall I come over and then saying I'm here

If they just chatting to five other people on the same topic, then just use the group chat!

You don't always have to answer, and you can say I'm busy right now can't chat.
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yeah i definitely feel if its a group chat of people and its all in fellowship theres nothing wrong with that i dont believe in toxic jealousy but i do believe in a healthy jealousy and one that is aware of bad signals, especially in cases of marriage and something that is already established over just getting to know someone.
 
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