Contentment in singlehood

[Churchgoer]

Look, this may sound insane to you, but a normal person, at least normal in my culture, usually meets a potential partner first, and then think about the prospect of marrying and having kid with that person; you don't decide that you're gonna marry and have kids, then go search for the most gullible, compliant person to accomplish your own agenda.

I've said this over and over again, that a marriage is only as godly as the couple, it's a blessing if they're godly, it's a curse if they're UNgodly. I don't hate marriage, I hate the IDOLATRY of marriage, the second mentality of seeking marriage just for the sake of marriage as a status of your superiorty and piety. If there's no such available godly partner, or there are but they're not interested in you, then just let it go.

In a healthy culture, if kids grow up with mom dad healthy family, it is natural to yearning for romance, spouse, at matured age.

I don't agree with your saying only when meeting someone, that yearning starts.

I agree with you not to idolize marriage.

In many unbelievers marriage, they are happy and last a life time too. Because they value family, raising kids more than romancing.

It is when sexual immorality on a pedestal, that's the problem.

 

[Lovette]

In a healthy culture, if kids grow up with mom dad healthy family, it is natural to yearning for romance, spouse, at matured age.

I don't agree with your saying only when meeting someone, that yearning starts.

I agree with you not to idolize marriage.

In many unbelievers marriage, they are happy and last a life time too. Because they value family, raising kids more than romancing.

It is when sexual immorality on a pedestal, that's the problem.

If you yearn for marriage without anybody in real life to fulfill that yearning, that's idolizing marriage. What's natural, out of upbringing from a healthy family, is not yearning for the abstract concept of marriage, but a spouse like mom or dad.

 

[Churchgoer]

If you yearn for marriage without anybody in real life to fulfill that yearning, that's idolizing marriage. What's natural, out of upbringing from a healthy family, is not yearning for the abstract concept of marriage, but a spouse like mom or dad.

Totally disagree.
That's not idolizing at all.

But you are entitled to your opinion.

 

[Lovette]

Totally disagree.
That's not idolizing at all.

But you are entitled to your opinion.

Yes it is, prestige, status, idealism or just checking a box.

 

[RodColeman]

Yet in this relationship there's no intimacy in this relationship, it has resulted in some troublesome statements like "I had sex with Jesus in a vision." Plus, there'll be no marriage in resurrection, Lord Jesus explicitly stated. So perhaps it's not the same kind of picture.

Sure, it's not exactly the same. Doesn't make it wrong to desire an actual marriage. And, sure, there's no marriage in Heaven. But, of course, we're not in Heaven right now.

And my point was that it's up to God on whether there is a "they", whether they're really Christian, whether they're available and whether they're interested in you.

I don't believe God's a Puppetmaster who runs every aspect of your love life. And it's OK to take action to pursue these things. Is it "up to God" whether I'm employed or not? Should I leave that question entirely up to God? Never do any research, send any applications, show up for interviews, etc?

God doesn't promise marriage to anyone. How can you trust God to fulfill a promise He never made to you?

No desire for marraige with an imaginary perfect Christian, so thanks for posting. Have a good day.

You mean you, personally, have no desire for marriage? That's fine, but not everyone's like that. And I never said anything about the existence of a perfect marriage partner.

 

[Churchgoer]

Sure, it's not exactly the same. Doesn't make it wrong to desire an actual marriage. And, sure, there's no marriage in Heaven. But, of course, we're not in Heaven right now.



I don't believe God's a Puppetmaster who runs every aspect of your love life. And it's OK to take action to pursue these things. Is it "up to God" whether I'm employed or not? Should I leave that question entirely up to God? Never do any research, send any applications, show up for interviews, etc?

God doesn't promise marriage to anyone. How can you trust God to fulfill a promise He never made to you?



You mean you, personally, have no desire for marriage? That's fine, but not everyone's like that. And I never said anything about the existence of a perfect marriage partner.

No need to debate anymore.
Whoever want to be single just stay single.
Whoever want to pursue marriage just pray and seek God guidance.

Blessings to all.

 

[Lovette]

Sure, it's not exactly the same. Doesn't make it wrong to desire an actual marriage. And, sure, there's no marriage in Heaven. But, of course, we're not in Heaven right now.

It is wrong to equate earthly marriage with heavenly marriage, as long as "I had sex with Jesus" is New Age phony balooney.

I don't believe God's a Puppetmaster who runs every aspect of your love life. And it's OK to take action to pursue these things. Is it "up to God" whether I'm employed or not? Should I leave that question entirely up to God? Never do any research, send any applications, show up for interviews, etc?

God doesn't promise marriage to anyone. How can you trust God to fulfill a promise He never made to you?

If God is not Lord of all, he's not Lord at all.

You mean you, personally, have no desire for marriage? That's fine, but not everyone's like that. And I never said anything about the existence of a perfect marriage partner.

I also know the difference between temptation and genuine desire, you don't.

 

[Lovette]

No need to debate anymore.
Whoever want to be single just stay single.
Whoever want to pursue marriage just pray and seek God guidance.

Blessings to all.

Whoever wants marriage should ask themselves first, are they capable of running a family? Can they sustain their own lives? Are they qualified for a spouse and a parent? Why would God entrust another person to them when they can hardly manage their own lives and emotions? How could they afford a family when they can hardly feed themselves?

 

[Lovette]

I don't believe God's a Puppetmaster who runs every aspect of your love life. And it's OK to take action to pursue these things. Is it "up to God" whether I'm employed or not? Should I leave that question entirely up to God? Never do any research, send any applications, show up for interviews, etc?

God doesn't promise marriage to anyone. How can you trust God to fulfill a promise He never made to you?

BTW I don't believe your string of naive assumptions. Repeating them 100 times they're still assumptions. God's a Puppetmaster or not I don't know, I don't put him in boxes, all i know is that man proposes, God disposes.

 

[Churchgoer]

Whoever wants marriage should ask themselves first, are they capable of running a family? Can they sustain their own lives? Are they qualified for a spouse and a parent? Why would God entrust another person to them when they can hardly manage their own lives and emotions? How could they afford a family when they can hardly feed themselves?

For young people in their 20s, or even younger, they didn't think that far. Many got married and grow together. That is called for better and for worse. In the old days many life long marriages, they also raised good kids. No one is perfect, no marriage is perfect, no singlehood is perfect. But many are happily married overall.

For older people like 50 +, we know where we are in life, no worry about that. Many of us already proven to be faithful in life long marriages and raised kids well.

 

[Lovette]

For young people in their 20s, or even younger, they didn't think that far. Many got married and grow together. That is called for better and for worse. In the old days many life long marriages, they also raised good kids. No one is perfect, no marriage is perfect, no singlehood is perfect. But many are happily married overall.

For older people like 50 +, we know where we are in life, no worry about that. Many of us already proven to be faithful in life long marriages and raised kids well.

Then don't expect your marriage to go that far. We're not livign in the 50s anymore. What God joined together, let no man separate; what God did NOT join together, let no man join together either.

 

[RodColeman]

It is wrong to equate earthly marriage with heavenly marriage, as long as "I had sex with Jesus" is New Age phony balooney.

Huh? I never said anything about having "sex with Jesus." Whatever that means.

If God is not Lord of all, he's not Lord at all.

So, how, exactly, does God control all of the world's modern romances today? Does the Bible explain that anywhere? You know, in any verse besides 1 Corinthians 7:39?

I also know the difference between temptation and genuine desire, you don't.

Are you saying that the general desire to experience romance, the general desire to be married, and the general desire to experience sex, are all sinful temptations? Where does the Bible say that?

 

[Lynx]

No need to debate anymore.
Whoever want to be single just stay single.
Whoever want to pursue marriage just pray and seek God guidance.

Blessings to all.

You must be new here.

Why do it the simple way when you could make a big argument out of it? That's just wasted debate fodder.

 

[Lovette]

Huh? I never said anything about having "sex with Jesus." Whatever that means.

As long as earthly marriage is compared with heavenly marriage, this is the foregone conclusion, for "two beomce one flesh".

So, how, exactly, does God control all of the world's modern romances today? Does the Bible explain that anywhere? You know, in any verse besides 1 Corinthians 7:39?

God joins couples together, Matt. 19:6, go figure.

Are you saying that the general desire to experience romance, the general desire to be married, and the general desire to experience sex, are all sinful temptations? Where does the Bible say that?

Yes, when what you desire is an idealized fantasy version which doesn't exist or work in reality.

 

[Lovette]

You must be new here.

Why do it the simple way when you could make a big argument out of it? That's just wasted debate fodder.

The internet is full of fake AI slop, no fun anymore.

 

[RodColeman]

As long as earthly marriage is compared with heavenly marriage, this is the foregone conclusion, for "two become one flesh".

Do you mean to say that all the Christian who desire marriage are foolishly equating earthly marriage with Heaven? How do you know that?

God joins couples together, Matt. 19:6, go figure.

Yes, marriage is a sacred union, and once you're joined together, it's supposed to be for life. But the Bible doesn't say anything about God arranging a marriage for the Christian. See 1 Corinthians 7:39.

Yes, when what you desire is an idealized fantasy version which doesn't exist or work in reality.

So, apparently, someone who desires marriage is foolishly chasing after something that "doesn't exist or work in reality." If that were true in ever single case, then no marriage in the world would ever work or succeed. That's rather pessimistic. It also doesn't line up with my own experience. But, sure, maybe you've only witnessed failed marriages in your own experience. But that doesn't mean every marriage is doomed.

Still, if you think failed marriages are inevitable, then, sure, just stay single.

 

[Lynx]

The internet is full of fake AI slop, no fun anymore.

The term "AI slop" is already sooooooooo overused. Can't you think of something better, or at least different?

I mean... Granted it IS very descriptive of what AI turns out. But it has become more than the default term. It is what everybody uses, to the exclusion of everything else. It's like saying the F word when you want to add emphasis to your prose, instead of actually thinking about what you want to say.

 

[Churchgoer]

You must be new here.

Why do it the simple way when you could make a big argument out of it? That's just wasted debate fodder.

you are right.
Let people enjoy what they enjoy

Have fun.

 

[Lovette]

Do you mean to say that all the Christian who desire marriage are foolishly equating earthly marriage with Heaven? How do you know that?

I don't, you said earthly marriage reflects marriage with Jesus, didn't you?

Yes, marriage is a sacred union, and once you're joined together, it's supposed to be for life. But the Bible doesn't say anything about God arranging a marriage for the Christian. See 1 Corinthians 7:39.

God offers eternal salvation, not eternal spouse for eternal conjugation.

So, apparently, someone who desires marriage is foolishly chasing after something that "doesn't exist or work in reality." If that were true in ever single case, then no marriage in the world would ever work or succeed. That's rather pessimistic. It also doesn't line up with my own experience. But, sure, maybe you've only witnessed failed marriages in your own experience. But that doesn't mean every marriage is doomed.

Still, if you think failed marriages are inevitable, then, sure, just stay single.

I think your marriage is inevitable to fail if you only get married for the sake of getting married, to check the box and get the milestone crossed.

 

[Lovette]

The term "AI slop" is already sooooooooo overused. Can't you think of something better, or at least different?

The internet is dead, especially social media.