There's Not Enough Drama Here On the Forum. So, Let's Dig In and Make Some of Our Own!! 😎

[Snackersmom]

Oh, I could definitely contribute to the drama department.
Let’s just say there’s been enough plot development lately to qualify for a low-budget soap opera.
I am still waiting to find out whether this season is going to end with a happy ending or a cliffhanger.

I hope this doesn't sound nosy, but you have given us glimpses of your story and I find it very intriguing.

Would you be willing to share your perspective on the trad wife trend? If not I completely understand! I just think it's a very misunderstood topic.

 

[zeroturbulence]

The only kind of drama I like is Korean drama.

 

[seoulsearch]

The only kind of drama I like is Korean drama.

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I've never watched a Korean drama, but, can I ask, why is it that they've gotten to be so popular?

Do they just have better plots and characters than other kinds of dramas?

 

[zeroturbulence]

I've never watched a Korean drama, but, can I ask, why is it that they've gotten to be so popular?

Do they just have better plots and characters than other kinds of dramas?

They can be very touching and romantic. And there's usually a rags-to-riches story in it.

 

[SoulFaith]

I hope this doesn't sound nosy, but you have given us glimpses of your story and I find it very intriguing.

Would you be willing to share your perspective on the trad wife trend? If not I completely understand! I just think it's a very misunderstood topic.

I actually have quite a lot to say about this, because I was a stay-at-home mother for several decades and I genuinely loved it.
I am naturally a homebody. I love being at home, taking care of the house and children, baking, cleaning, doing laundry and making things with my hands. Honestly, I could probably stay home for a year without going anywhere as long as someone else did the grocery shopping.
So I completely understand why some women are drawn to the trad wife idea. Being a homemaker and a wife suited me very well. What would have made it much easier, though, would have been having a loving husband who actually wanted to provide for and take care of his family.

That wasn't my reality. Even though I was a stay-at-home mother, I still supported myself and my children. In Finland, families with children receive some support from society and I also found all sorts of little ways to earn money. I baked to order, made crafts and sold them and in the summers I practically lived in the woods picking berries and selling them. So I was a homemaker, but I was also my own little businesswoman.
My life wasn't easy, but I truly enjoyed being home with my children. Sometimes I still wonder how on earth I managed to find the time to do everything and raise the children too.

Now I am working, supporting my youngests and helping my adult children who are studying. I actually enjoy my job, but it's exhausting. I drive about 200 km a day and these days it feels like work takes up almost all my time.
I can give my children much more materially now, but I have so much less time. And if I am completely honest, I would rather be a homemaker than spend my life working.
So I don't see anything wrong with a woman choosing a traditional role. I think it can be a beautiful way of life when it is freely chosen and when the husband understands that taking care of the home and children is real work too.
And yes, there is some drama from time to time when the children have a father who doesn't want to invest much time or money in them. But, well... I chose to have my children, I didn't choose their father. Let's just say... Dad's judgment wasn't exactly his finest moment.

 

[seoulsearch]

I actually have quite a lot to say about this, because I was a stay-at-home mother for several decades and I genuinely loved it.
I am naturally a homebody. I love being at home, taking care of the house and children, baking, cleaning, doing laundry and making things with my hands. Honestly, I could probably stay home for a year without going anywhere as long as someone else did the grocery shopping.
So I completely understand why some women are drawn to the trad wife idea. Being a homemaker and a wife suited me very well. What would have made it much easier, though, would have been having a loving husband who actually wanted to provide for and take care of his family.

That wasn't my reality. Even though I was a stay-at-home mother, I still supported myself and my children. In Finland, families with children receive some support from society and I also found all sorts of little ways to earn money. I baked to order, made crafts and sold them and in the summers I practically lived in the woods picking berries and selling them. So I was a homemaker, but I was also my own little businesswoman.
My life wasn't easy, but I truly enjoyed being home with my children. Sometimes I still wonder how on earth I managed to find the time to do everything and raise the children too.

Now I am working, supporting my youngests and helping my adult children who are studying. I actually enjoy my job, but it's exhausting. I drive about 200 km a day and these days it feels like work takes up almost all my time.
I can give my children much more materially now, but I have so much less time. And if I am completely honest, I would rather be a homemaker than spend my life working.
So I don't see anything wrong with a woman choosing a traditional role. I think it can be a beautiful way of life when it is freely chosen and when the husband understands that taking care of the home and children is real work too.
And yes, there is some drama from time to time when the children have a father who doesn't want to invest much time or money in them. But, well... I chose to have my children, I didn't choose their father. Let's just say... Dad's judgment wasn't exactly his finest moment.

Thank you so much for sharing your story -- I hope you'll tell continue to tell us more in the future as you feel comfortable.

I follow a lot of social commentary channels because I like to hear about life from all different perspectives.

One of the subjects brought up recently was the "Trad Wife" trend of young women posting how joyous they were over staying home with their kids, cooking, and homemaking.

But someone also brought up the question, "Why are we only seeing Trad Wives in their 20's and 30's? Where are the Trad Wives in their 40's - 60's, etc.?"

And the answer was that there weren't many left.

Most had either experienced a broken home, whether brought on by the wife or the husband or decided mutually; some were widowed and now trying to survive on their own; and many had moved on to another stage in life.

(Of course, I also realize older women might not be on social media as much, but there seem to be tons of older people posting content these days.)

My Mom was a Trad Wife through and through, and still is to my Dad. But my parents have always been more of an exception rather than the rule, and my Dad always made sure he had some kind of plan in place (life insurance, etc.) in case God called him early and left my Mom with a small family to raise alone.

I think it's wonderful when some are able to be Trad Wives but as you're illustrating in your posts, there's an aspect of the realism to it that I think many are missing (that you're likely going to have to run side hustles to earn extra money, etc.)

I've talked to other stay-at-home moms and it seems they each had an idea of what it would be like, and what they looked forward to, but found the reality of it much more jarring, and sometimes depressing, than what they found.

(For example, one woman I talked to said that she looked forward to teaching her children -- but never realized how much work meals and running a household would be -- not to mention, how isolating, especially if one is an extrovert.)

My Dad had to work so much I often wonder if my Mom felt like a single parent -- but she never complained. I think a lot of young women don't realize that if they expect a man to be provider in today's world, they also have to expect that they're not going to see much of him, because he'll likely always be working.

I do think women who want to be Trad Wives need to hear about what it's really like, and you're helping to do that.

Thank you for speaking up!

 

[Lanolin]

Drama?

No comment...my life is very peaceful atm...

 

[seoulsearch]

Drama?

No comment...my life is very peaceful atm...

That's wonderful to hear!!!

I know you've been through a lot the last several years...

You certainly deserve some peace... and flowers.

 

[NightTwister]

How's your HVAC doing?

(Oops... I'd better stop.)

And we all know how good I am at stopping!

Well it WAS just fine, thank you.

 

[seoulsearch]

Well it WAS just fine, thank you.

Obviously, my work here is done.

Unless, of course, we find something else to ask about.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Thank you so much for sharing your story -- I hope you'll tell continue to tell us more in the future as you feel comfortable.

I follow a lot of social commentary channels because I like to hear about life from all different perspectives.

One of the subjects brought up recently was the "Trad Wife" trend of young women posting how joyous they were over staying home with their kids, cooking, and homemaking.

But someone also brought up the question, "Why are we only seeing Trad Wives in their 20's and 30's? Where are the Trad Wives in their 40's - 60's, etc.?"

And the answer was that there weren't many left.

Most had either experienced a broken home, whether brought on by the wife or the husband or decided mutually; some were widowed and now trying to survive on their own; and many had moved on to another stage in life.

(Of course, I also realize older women might not be on social media as much, but there seem to be tons of older people posting content these days.)

My Mom was a Trad Wife through and through, and still is to my Dad. But my parents have always been more of an exception rather than the rule, and my Dad always made sure he had some kind of plan in place (life insurance, etc.) in case God called him early and left my Mom with a small family to raise alone.

I think it's wonderful when some are able to be Trad Wives but as you're illustrating in your posts, there's an aspect of the realism to it that I think many are missing (that you're likely going to have to run side hustles to earn extra money, etc.)

I've talked to other stay-at-home moms and it seems they each had an idea of what it would be like, and what they looked forward to, but found the reality of it much more jarring, and sometimes depressing, than what they found.

(For example, one woman I talked to said that she looked forward to teaching her children -- but never realized how much work meals and running a household would be -- not to mention, how isolating, especially if one is an extrovert.)

My Dad had to work so much I often wonder if my Mom felt like a single parent -- but she never complained. I think a lot of young women don't realize that if they expect a man to be provider in today's world, they also have to expect that they're not going to see much of him, because he'll likely always be working.

I do think women who want to be Trad Wives need to hear about what it's really like, and you're helping to do that.

Thank you for speaking up!

It's interesting that trad wives are the minority. Who takes care of the kids when both parents are working full time? They can't take care of themselves when they are toddlers or small children. Yes I know about day care and I also know it's very expensive and it's not really who you want raising your kids in their formative years. I also know about retired grandparents raising their grandkids. That's great but not everyone has that option and not everyone's grandparents are healthy enough to carry babies around, etc.. So what am I tying to say? I don't know. If I had a point, I forgot it.

 

[Churchgoer]

I read proverb 31 again, it is a nice wish, but too much to ask a regular woman.
IMO, too much pressure for everyday Jane.

 

[Cameron143]

I read proverb 31 again, it is a nice wish, but too much to ask a regular woman.
IMO, too much pressure for everyday Jane.

That's the point. Living that way is impossible apart from Christ. It's easy for Him.

 

[Churchgoer]

That's the point. Living that way is impossible apart from Christ. It's easy for Him.

Even with Christ, prov. 31 woman is way high up there, super capable business master, real estate mogul, fashion industry super star....

My understanding of reading this section is a good wish, but not a mandate.

But as 10 commandments, that's mandate.

 

[Cameron143]

Even with Christ, prov. 31 woman is way high up there, super capable business master, real estate mogul, fashion industry super star....

My understanding of reading this section is a good wish, but not a mandate.

But as 10 commandments, that's mandate.

I wasn't implying that her actions were mandated. I was merely pointing out that we are called as Christians to live a life beyond our abilities. It's interesting that you bring up the 10 commandments. These are mandated, but still beyond human capability. The law itself is a schoolmaster to lead us to Christ. As we recognize our own inability, we find ourselves more and more dependent upon God.

 

[Tall_Timbers]

Not too long ago I went on a nearly 6000 mile road trip. While driving in Louisiana I got pulled over for doing 98 in a 75. Ack! I purposefully don't speed and use cruise control to ensure I don't drift so I don't have to worry about getting pulled over. 75 is fast enough for me. While talking with the officer I told him it wasn't me several times. He took my license and went back to his patrol vehicle and apparently he was able to look up the moment of the clocking on video. Thank God he was able to see it wasn't me after all because I wouldn't have been able to do anything about the speeding ticket if he'd given me one. After I was declared innocent and he apologized a couple of times we chatted for a bit and I was on my way again.

When I got home from this trip I saw that my lawn was about half gone. Upon investigation there was a lot of evidence that rabbits were feasting on my lawn. I captured one that was living under my shed in the back yard and just recently rabbit proofed the area under the shed so none will be able to live there again, but I think other rabbits might still be munching grass in the front yard. Too make a long story short, Shhh, I'm hunting wabbit...

 

[seoulsearch]

It's interesting that trad wives are the minority. Who takes care of the kids when both parents are working full time? They can't take care of themselves when they are toddlers or small children. Yes I know about day care and I also know it's very expensive and it's not really who you want raising your kids in their formative years. I also know about retired grandparents raising their grandkids. That's great but not everyone has that option and not everyone's grandparents are healthy enough to carry babies around, etc.. So what am I tying to say? I don't know. If I had a point, I forgot it.

I do think families have an abundance of challenges.

I listened to one story of a Trad Wife who was talking about how she saw how burned out her husband was (working to provide,) and that she wanted to help relieve his burden (worrying about his mental health,) but she felt trapped.

She was staying at home with their 3 small children, and couldn't find a job that would work around her watching the kids. And even if she did get a job, she'd been a Trad Wife all her adult life, and didn't have any skills to land something that paid well even when/if she can work.

I've been doing a lot of research into men's mental health for some time, and the statistics are brutal, with so many men suffering from loneliness, depression, and frequent thoughts of (self-deletion.)

I think a lot of women aren't being taught how important it is that even if men are fully able to provide, women have to learn how to be a strong support system to the mental framework they need in order to do so. (Not that women don't suffer from these things and need the same support from men, because of course they do, but I think men are less likely to find social support than women are.)

I've been wanting to write threads about these topics for a long time, but always hold back because I don't want to turn Singles into a battle of the sexes or arena for MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) vs. Feminists.

 

[seoulsearch]

Not too long ago I went on a nearly 6000 mile road trip. While driving in Louisiana I got pulled over for doing 98 in a 75. Ack! I purposefully don't speed and use cruise control to ensure I don't drift so I don't have to worry about getting pulled over. 75 is fast enough for me. While talking with the officer I told him it wasn't me several times. He took my license and went back to his patrol vehicle and apparently he was able to look up the moment of the clocking on video. Thank God he was able to see it wasn't me after all because I wouldn't have been able to do anything about the speeding ticket if he'd given me one. After I was declared innocent and he apologized a couple of times we chatted for a bit and I was on my way again.

When I got home from this trip I saw that my lawn was about half gone. Upon investigation there was a lot of evidence that rabbits were feasting on my lawn. I captured one that was living under my shed in the back yard and just recently rabbit proofed the area under the shed so none will be able to live there again, but I think other rabbits might still be munching grass in the front yard. Too make a long story short, Shhh, I'm hunting wabbit...

I'm glad you the officer was able willing to take a second look at the footage...

Although, why wouldn't it surprise us if Tall Timbers didn't occasionally turn into Speedy Timbers at times?

As for the wabbits...





I'm wondering if @CarriePie can assist with this.

@CarriePie, do you have a go-to recipe for wabbit?! (Perhaps with a whipped potato meringue on top?)

 

[Churchgoer]

I do think families have an abundance of challenges.

I listened to one story of a Trad Wife who was talking about how she saw how burned out her husband was (working to provide,) and that she wanted to help relieve his burden (worrying about his mental health,) but she felt trapped.

She was staying at home with their 3 small children, and couldn't find a job that would work around her watching the kids. And even if she did get a job, she'd been a Trad Wife all her adult life, and didn't have any skills to land something that paid well even when/if she can work.

I've been doing a lot of research into men's mental health for some time, and the statistics are brutal, with so many men suffering from loneliness, depression, and frequent thoughts of (self-deletion.)

I think a lot of women aren't being taught how important it is that even if men are fully able to provide, women have to learn how to be a strong support system to the mental framework they need in order to do so. (Not that women don't suffer from these things and need the same support from men, because of course they do, but I think men are less likely to find social support than women are.)

I've been wanting to write threads about these topics for a long time, but always hold back because I don't want to turn Singles into a battle of the sexes or arena for MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) vs. Feminists.

I look back 20s, 30s, 40s, I wish I had the wisdom I have today.
But God gives us according to our capability too.
Trusting God, need everyday practice.

Live a modest life helps a bit in financial burden, don't compare to peers.

 

[CarriePie]

I'm glad you the officer was able willing to take a second look at the footage...

Although, why wouldn't it surprise us if Tall Timbers didn't occasionally turn into Speedy Timbers at times?

As for the wabbits...

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I'm wondering if @CarriePie can assist with this.

@CarriePie, do you have a go-to recipe for wabbit?! (Perhaps with a whipped potato meringue on top?)

In my neck of the woods, we raise rabbits and cook 'em in the cast iron skillet like fried chicken. Use the pan drippings to make gravy, serve it over mashed potatoes and with a side of veggies from the garden.
If that's not your thing, I'll have a chilled rabbit-free meringue waitin' for ya'