Just want to make it clear that it takes 2 to tango, as in the single mother needed a man to produce a child. The man is just as "guilty", if you want to use that term, it is just that most of them don't have to walk around with a living, breathing, crying label since most mothers end up with their child. They are the bearers after all and usually the guy isn't ready for the pregnancy they caused, walks out, or the relationship didn't last - but that's besides the point.
I guarantee just as many men in church are guilty of the act of sex, whether or not it caused pregnancy doesn't make a spiritual difference in the eyes of the Lord if it was out of marriage. I am sure tons of the women the OP is talking about could be divorced too so he might not be casting judgement because when they did make their baby it was ok by God. I am just saying men are lucky in that they aren't labelled as much. Maybe more single mothers come to Christianity than single fathers.
But yeah I understand the OP is saying he has a preference. Many Christian virgins or childless people may to want to marry another virgin or childless person. And it is difficult when you get to your late 20'a and 30's to find people in general that don't have a lot of sexual experience or children that are Christian that you want to pursue.
I guarantee just as many men in church are guilty of the act of sex, whether or not it caused pregnancy doesn't make a spiritual difference in the eyes of the Lord if it was out of marriage. I am sure tons of the women the OP is talking about could be divorced too so he might not be casting judgement because when they did make their baby it was ok by God. I am just saying men are lucky in that they aren't labelled as much. Maybe more single mothers come to Christianity than single fathers.
But yeah I understand the OP is saying he has a preference. Many Christian virgins or childless people may to want to marry another virgin or childless person. And it is difficult when you get to your late 20'a and 30's to find people in general that don't have a lot of sexual experience or children that are Christian that you want to pursue.