I am a single mom too. We are such bad people aren't we? To love and nurture our children. Who cares how they got here. A baby is a blessing...... What's funny is many single guys don't seem to realize is that us mothers are normally more mature due to us having to take care of another life....and when a guy complains about there not being any single women it just shows they aren't mature enough to handle a mature woman who has real responsibilities. Just my thoughts. Maybe they should stick to dating girls.
BTW, how many people told you that you look like Bella on Twilight?
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Amen to that, elizzy, what you just said.
I reallly don't want to say anymore, except why did you use the Matthew reference, julieannie ?
I am not judging , social artist and djness. I just feel they should apologize for what they said. And, if that is judging , sorry, but that is what I feel the two should do.
Ok, my story, and, then, as promised, I will jettison myself from this thread.
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My sister is with three kids, two with the wonderful husband she is with now, one kid with a man that never got his life in order.
When my sister was single, it was tough on her, and, me. No job, an infant, no support , I lived an hour away. I did see her much as I could but back then I had to work long hours because of own business beginning, so Sunday was it. But I never missed seeing her and we talked on phone during week, I was a protective (still am) big brother and spoke to her with God in every sentence about. My sister and I were very close, we went through things brothers, sisters go through, God healed and she had left the drug guy she had Christian with.
At this time, I worked with a friend I met working for a heating and refrigeration business. After working there a year, I left and he happened to want to do more than work for someone else so he became my hire.
One Sunday, I took this work friend to my sister's place and I did not realize what was happening. He was sweetly talking to her, and, I should let you know my sister's boy, my nephew, was 1 years old at this time. I just watched him talk to her in this way that was amazing. He said all the right words, but he was saying them for one reason, to get my sister in bed. And, I could see what he was doing as she was nursing Christian and, I , two years older than my sister, 32 years old at this time, called him out of my sister's bedroom.
" Hey, I took you here to meet her, not to have sex with her. You are not going to do this if you want to continue working with me (my business but we were, more or less, partners, I paid him very well)."
And, I remember his tonal quality (soft, soft voice) as he replied back to me.
"Ed, you can say what you want but this is going to happen.".
Well, as you can well imagine, at this point I was both upset and stupefied at what was transpiring.
I began speaking to my sister, telling her she really didn't want to do what she was about to do. And, at this time, my work friend was sitting on the bed in her room and she got done nursing and it was just weird. She didn't care that her brother was in the room, her breast used for nursing was exposed and my friend was right there sitting on the bed.
I was beside myself and told my sister, 'sis (that is what I always call her), please don't do this You have your own apartment, you have a 1-year-old. God is going to do things for you, just stay true to IN THE MIDDLE OF MY SENTENCE, MY WORK FRIEND STARTED TO TURN TOWARD ME, as I was not sitting on the bed, I was standing by the foot of the bed. I was not liking talking to my sister with her breast exposed. And, surely, YES! I was uneasy with all this going on so badly , suddenly, after the first half hour my friend arrived was cool.
Anyway, MY FRIEND TURNED toward me and literally began pushing me out of the bedroom and my sister was smiling as I was saying, 'Sis, don't do this,' whining it now.
'Sis, don't do this. Sis, don't do HE PUSHED ME OUT THE DOOR OF THE APARTMENT AND JUST LOOKED AT ME WITH MOST smirky SMILE, LADIES, (AND GENTLEMAN) YOU ever would see on a guy's face. Chilled me, right through my bones.
SLAM!
I was then locked outside and began doing what?
Praying, deeply, . Praying I am certain like I have NEVER EVER NEVER had before in my life.
Then, I began to POUND on the door.
'Sis, don't do this. Ryan (not real name) , please don't do this. My sister is getting her life back on track(she was heavily into exhibitionslism and drugs from age 16 to 22, attractive girl dancing at gentleman clubs) pleeeeease don't.....'
I would not stop crying at the door , probably there 5 minutes , bawling my head off like never before, and, never after, either.
Suddenly, the door opened and my friend was there. He had a disgusted look at me and I just said 'Thank you.'
I am not sure what happened next that Sunday but I Thank God soooo much. It was not me, It was His almighty power.
It was on this day, and, this relates to single women iin 20s thread here, I realized just how influenced my sister could be , with not having a man.
That is the point of this whole story and hopefully explains why I hurt so badly when someone talks of women with kids as 'crawling' and 'herd.' I KNOW,from my sister, that THEY (single women , 20s, with kids) are VERY esteem driven a lot of the time and breaking down their esteem with careless comments can really affect them
Enough said, except that God blessed my sister with a wonderful man two years later, who owns a restaurant and a lot of land, in USA and Mexico and California. And they have three kids now.
Single moms, I implore you, do not let things hurt you that will IF you let them and the Enemy will attack your hurting. You do NOT let those thongs hurt you by ONLY one way when you don't have a guy to solace you.
One way, and, ONE person. God
God bless you, all, for raising children that are from God. Follow Him wherever you go, He will never let you go.
