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gardenbunny
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It's already been said, but one thing leads to another and another and another and so on. I learned that one and regret it! Besides if she respects you and God this wouldn't even be an issue.
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah
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This post made me kinda make a face like so ------>
You would never "do it" before marriage, and it makes you feel sick to think of doing that.
but you want to know if you can share a bed with someone???
maybe you should say that outloud next time.
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wyler
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Don't be too hard on yourself Jonno, there is nothing selfish about being excited at the prospect of romance and intimacy, it's natural to feel that way.
Wherever you land on this always remember that forces do not rise together, when one goes up the other goes down.
If you are in bed with a girl you love your intellect will not temper your lust.
You will become aroused and no longer hear the voice clearly saying that it's a mistake, it'll be a whisper and then it will be gone, but afterwards you'll hear it screaming at you, and that isn't any fun.
In short, hug on the couch fully dressed, then go to separate beds, and don't ever underestimate how wonderful that level of intimacy can feel.
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GreenNnice
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Cancelling her ticket?
All I can say is for making this choice God will bless you for it, jonboy. Thank God. Let Him no in appreciative praise and prayer that He is sooo in your life. And, hey, IF you can will yourself to not do a VERY common temptation of ALL , like sleeping in same place as girl you really like, well, be ready for the Enemy (that's Satan, BTW) to attacK you ALL the more now. But be encouraged , as well as courageous (see that major motion picture too) , for God is greater than Satan. So much greater, and, God is for you, the Enemy wants to do things against you, horrible , vile acts against you in your REAL world, all acts disguised, like a wolf in sheep's clothing, acts of vileness coded in slippery sweet coating, every bit as enticing as all your best ever had sleeping dreams . God bless you, jonboy, for fighting back against all this bad.
Yes ! Flee evil, like Joseph did Potiphar's wife, like Jesus headstrongly turned his human cheek to the temptations of Satan, great temptations, like given control over all of Israel. 'Course, God is in control and Satan was giving Jesus the control of a city he did not own. The city belongs to our King, just like....
everything. Satan gives away what is not his, Satan has NOTHING. God owns it all.
This post made me kinda make a face like so ------>
You would never "do it" before marriage, and it makes you feel sick to think of doing that.
but you want to know if you can share a bed with someone???
maybe you should say that outloud next time.
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Nods, it sounds weird to say it outloud UNLESS you already got the girl that likes you, who is ready to FLY (girl that likes jonboy) to you.
Then it is very hard to turn off that flow , that desire, that temptation.
Jonboy has !
Praise God
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah
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JRtoujours
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From what i know... when the flesh takes over... it is hardly possible to control it. so my advise would be this one; you had better keep a sweetable distance between your 2 bodies
personaly i can't figure out a situation of a girl and boyfriend sleeping in the same Bed without anything happening...play with fire, you ll get burned
blessing
personaly i can't figure out a situation of a girl and boyfriend sleeping in the same Bed without anything happening...play with fire, you ll get burned
blessing
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jonnoboy
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Thanks Green..... In all honesty, people on here dont know me, and although I put the thread up, I knew the sorta reactions I would get, For all those people that think the human race cant control their "love" feelings then shame on them...SHAME ON THEM! I can! I knew that if i shared a bed then thats all it would be! I have standards!
But thanks Green for your understanding and nice comments, appreciate it, and thanks for the people who commented at the start of the post aswell.... those in the middle, you seem to think very low of the human race, I personally have control over my feelings, I jut wanted to know if it was a sin, to share a bed!
But thanks Green for your understanding and nice comments, appreciate it, and thanks for the people who commented at the start of the post aswell.... those in the middle, you seem to think very low of the human race, I personally have control over my feelings, I jut wanted to know if it was a sin, to share a bed!
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adekruif
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I would be careful thinking you have control over these "feelings". As Proverbs 7:26 says:
For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men.
From what you posted it sounds like you made the right decision though.
-Ade
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GreenNnice
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Oh.
* green takes out his green brains and puts them in a corner
Nods, sometimes part of me obviously needs a timeout.
So you saying that saying what outloud is what? Could I pretty have a re-explanation please .
Yes, we cannot be trusted to condolences our own whims and wiles, that MUST be powerful prayer to God.From what i know... when the flesh takes over... it is hardly possible to control it. so my advise would be this one; you had better keep a sweetable distance between your 2 bodies
personaly i can't figure out a situation of a girl and boyfriend sleeping in the same Bed without anything happening...play with fire, you ll get burned
blessing
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Yes, jonboy, I admire that decision but also keep in mind what aidKruif says , we cannot beat the temptation of our sinful nature, which ALL humans have, Christians are not exempted, as Satan can , and will attack Christians more than nons because of their roads being used to get others saved and on the Jesus train
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GreenNnice
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Good song, lightnin'.
Yes, it is a slow fade as we sin more and more and things crumble around us.
Moral of the story : build your house on the Rock !
Jesus is the answer for the world today. Above Him there's no other, Jesus is the way.
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jonnoboy
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KiwiCA
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My husband saw this post and said: "Its not a sin to shoot yourself in the foot, but does it then make it a good idea?"
I on the other hand will quote this:
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people..." Ephesians 5:3
"Flee from sexual immorality.." 1 Corinthians 6:18
"..treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers." 1 Peter 3:7
Heres a few questions.
- Are you protecting and honoring the reputation of your girlfriend by sleeping with her but not having intercourse?
- Are you being greedy by trying to get as close to the line and dancing on it without actually getting caught?
- Are you respecting your girlfriend and the precious gift that is her body?
- If you sleep with your girlfriend regardless of whether or not you have intercourse, how do you think your relationship with God will go? Would it grow or stagnate?
- Even if her father or brothers don't care, do you think God endorses you treating his daughter like that?
I think you truly know the answer to this question.
Don't harden your heart against the Holy Spirits leading and don't be fooled by Satan. You are NOT an exception to the rule
I on the other hand will quote this:
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people..." Ephesians 5:3
"Flee from sexual immorality.." 1 Corinthians 6:18
"..treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers." 1 Peter 3:7
Heres a few questions.
- Are you protecting and honoring the reputation of your girlfriend by sleeping with her but not having intercourse?
- Are you being greedy by trying to get as close to the line and dancing on it without actually getting caught?
- Are you respecting your girlfriend and the precious gift that is her body?
- If you sleep with your girlfriend regardless of whether or not you have intercourse, how do you think your relationship with God will go? Would it grow or stagnate?
- Even if her father or brothers don't care, do you think God endorses you treating his daughter like that?
I think you truly know the answer to this question.
Don't harden your heart against the Holy Spirits leading and don't be fooled by Satan. You are NOT an exception to the rule
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KiwiCA
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And stop thinking about what sin is and isnt. Point is, your a sinner so you're going to sin. Marriage is for men not boys, and dating should only be a precursor to marriage.
Read 1 & 2 Timothy over and over, and get your advice from there on what is expected of you.
Read 1 & 2 Timothy over and over, and get your advice from there on what is expected of you.
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KiwiCA
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Heres another great quote from my husband
Foreplay is like a popcorn machine. Once you heat it up it won't stop until its all popped.
Snuggling, spooning , inhaling each others hair and body smells, being only centimetres away from a potential sex position while wearing just your shorts and her skimpy pjs together in bed and having your hands that close to an area only reserved by her husband.. I would call that foreplay.
Foreplay is like a popcorn machine. Once you heat it up it won't stop until its all popped.
Snuggling, spooning , inhaling each others hair and body smells, being only centimetres away from a potential sex position while wearing just your shorts and her skimpy pjs together in bed and having your hands that close to an area only reserved by her husband.. I would call that foreplay.
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