Okay correct me if I'm wrong about this... But I started to notice something odd in our society. Me and my single friends have conversations about this a lot. I mean I could be way off base, what do I know really.
but here it goes....
It just seems as if a lot of our modern day societal statutes concerning marriage are so screwed up. Basically in the last century getting divorced has become incentivized. If a divorce happens it's usually the guy who ends up holding the short end of the stick. Usually he ends up losing the kids, paying allamony and also child support. And maybe if he's lucky he gets to see the kids every other weekend.
This happened to a friend of mine. They were married for about 11 yrs, then out of the blue, she kicks him to the curb like an old shoe and replaces him with a newer, younger, sexier model. Meanwhile he's left to have to pay for all this stuff. They live in a small town in the boonies so after his contract ran out he had to find work elsewhere in his profession so he isn't able to get back there every other weekend to see the kids. So he sees them maybe a few times a year.
And I'm ranting a bit her but now I find myself in this predicament too...
I won't blab on about this as I don't want to bore you. But I dated a girl for 12 yrs. (I'm in my late 30's now) We were engaged and gonna get married possibly later this year after I figured out a few business items. And I guess I can't say for sure what happened. My guess is that I think she met someone else but wasn't saying anything. Then just out of the blue, completely out of left field she's like, no were done. I don't want to ever talk to you again. Like after 12 yrs??? Talk about insanity. Like who does that!
But I just get this feeling like older guys have it rough. Like a lot of situations changed in both my friends life in the earlier example. And also in my life too. Like I'm sure we both gained a few pounds over the years. Likely both got a bit complacent with the relationship as well. But it seems like the slightest change and the partner could just up an leave. I guess that's the chance you take in any relationship so you have to be willing to accept that. But I honestly feel as if older guys have it rough. Once we're no longer useful we're just kicked to curb like an old shoe, and expected to pay for the privaliage. Seems like total insanity. I know some friends that just remain single by choice to avoid these issues altogether. That's pretty sad too.
We live in such a throw away society. Even people get tossed to the curb like garbage. And I know it happens equally as often with women too, but usually they don't have to pay for the privaliage of getting tossed out. It's just so sad. ;-p
but here it goes....
It just seems as if a lot of our modern day societal statutes concerning marriage are so screwed up. Basically in the last century getting divorced has become incentivized. If a divorce happens it's usually the guy who ends up holding the short end of the stick. Usually he ends up losing the kids, paying allamony and also child support. And maybe if he's lucky he gets to see the kids every other weekend.
This happened to a friend of mine. They were married for about 11 yrs, then out of the blue, she kicks him to the curb like an old shoe and replaces him with a newer, younger, sexier model. Meanwhile he's left to have to pay for all this stuff. They live in a small town in the boonies so after his contract ran out he had to find work elsewhere in his profession so he isn't able to get back there every other weekend to see the kids. So he sees them maybe a few times a year.
And I'm ranting a bit her but now I find myself in this predicament too...
I won't blab on about this as I don't want to bore you. But I dated a girl for 12 yrs. (I'm in my late 30's now) We were engaged and gonna get married possibly later this year after I figured out a few business items. And I guess I can't say for sure what happened. My guess is that I think she met someone else but wasn't saying anything. Then just out of the blue, completely out of left field she's like, no were done. I don't want to ever talk to you again. Like after 12 yrs??? Talk about insanity. Like who does that!
But I just get this feeling like older guys have it rough. Like a lot of situations changed in both my friends life in the earlier example. And also in my life too. Like I'm sure we both gained a few pounds over the years. Likely both got a bit complacent with the relationship as well. But it seems like the slightest change and the partner could just up an leave. I guess that's the chance you take in any relationship so you have to be willing to accept that. But I honestly feel as if older guys have it rough. Once we're no longer useful we're just kicked to curb like an old shoe, and expected to pay for the privaliage. Seems like total insanity. I know some friends that just remain single by choice to avoid these issues altogether. That's pretty sad too.
We live in such a throw away society. Even people get tossed to the curb like garbage. And I know it happens equally as often with women too, but usually they don't have to pay for the privaliage of getting tossed out. It's just so sad. ;-p
The whole part about being equally yoked might be playing a part in it too.