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Why not?! I would consider a long distance relationship. I know friends who have done this and they are happily married. One said that it meant that their communication and negotiation skills with each other was enhanced because they spent so much time just talking. So I would not rule it out! Having said that, there is a flip side of it being really hard not being with one another too. I guess what it really comes down to is, if you click with that person, if they draw you closer to God through your friendship with them and if, in prayer, you think there could be a future - give it a go!
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Ok, first of all, I'm so glad that we're all talking about this. For internet savvy Christian singles such as ourselves. This is a huge issue. I'm not saying it's "huge" as in good or bad. I mean "huge" as in relavent.
I posted somewhere, I don't remember where, on Joshua Harris' website he got a wise pastor to write his opinion on internet dating. He's lists pros and cons and has advice for those who want to do it.
He wrote this, which I think is really wise:
"The biggest concern we have about online dating is that it seems to go under the radar. People aren't talking to their friends or their care groups or their pastors about the people they are meeting online. We realize that you might be wary of sharing this with others because of a perceived "stigma" that on-line dating has, but you need to be seeking wisdom from others to help you honor God more than you need to maintain a reputation. It is unwise to not invite your friends who care for you and know you well to help you evaluate the type of people you are meeting online. The reality is that no matter how often you re-read their profiles, talk to them through email or phone, you still do not really know this person. What we would suggest is that you invite family or a trusted friend into your correspondence with the people you are meeting. We know this sounds very personal, but consider letting them read the emails, profiles, etc. to get their perspective on these individuals. We are aware of some examples of humble people who have done just this as they sought to apply biblical principles to online dating. Finally, bring the people you are meeting into your community so your family and friends and pastors can begin to get to know them face-to-face. This will bring much needed grace, protection, and wisdom to you as you evaluate this relationship." [emphasis mine]
I posted somewhere, I don't remember where, on Joshua Harris' website he got a wise pastor to write his opinion on internet dating. He's lists pros and cons and has advice for those who want to do it.
He wrote this, which I think is really wise:
"The biggest concern we have about online dating is that it seems to go under the radar. People aren't talking to their friends or their care groups or their pastors about the people they are meeting online. We realize that you might be wary of sharing this with others because of a perceived "stigma" that on-line dating has, but you need to be seeking wisdom from others to help you honor God more than you need to maintain a reputation. It is unwise to not invite your friends who care for you and know you well to help you evaluate the type of people you are meeting online. The reality is that no matter how often you re-read their profiles, talk to them through email or phone, you still do not really know this person. What we would suggest is that you invite family or a trusted friend into your correspondence with the people you are meeting. We know this sounds very personal, but consider letting them read the emails, profiles, etc. to get their perspective on these individuals. We are aware of some examples of humble people who have done just this as they sought to apply biblical principles to online dating. Finally, bring the people you are meeting into your community so your family and friends and pastors can begin to get to know them face-to-face. This will bring much needed grace, protection, and wisdom to you as you evaluate this relationship." [emphasis mine]
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I'd never get serious with a guy until I've seen the way he acts around his friends, family (especially his mother) and church community. A friend of mine who met her husband on-line (she's one of the wisest Christians I know). They were always "long-distance" (he moved twice. First they were an hour and a half away, then 3 and a half hours away) but she brought him to our church sevral times and would discuss the kinds of things they were talking about with her Bible study. He even added me and her other friends to his Facebook friends. Her parents aren't Christians, but my parents are, and they were very happy about her involvement with this guy. Oh yes, and before you get too involved with a guy, it's important to see how a guy behaves when he meets a beautiful woman.
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I would. If you're in a realtionship with someone and you're not see them on a regular basis because they're too far away. That's what I call long distance. That's what happened to me when I was 17. I had a great boyfriend and then he moved two time zones away, but he was still my boyfriend even though I had to take an airplane to see him.