One, I do not claim to be a teacher.
These are my beliefs and I could be wrong. I'm not saying to break a command I am just saying people who do are not under condemnation.
My friend, you may not claim to be a teacher but things like, "...people who do are not under condemnation" is teaching just what you said.
And people do make mistakes and Christ is understanding; we are human and we mess up. And even if the person committed adultery because they remarried; there's forgiveness.
Sure, we can mess up, that is why he gave us repentance. But repentance means to stop whatever sins that is needing of the repentance.
If you read Acts chapter 8, you will find that Simon the Sorceror beleived Philip's preaching, and was baptzied. Immediatly after upon seeing that the Apostles had the ability to lay their hands on people and give them the Holy Spirit, he sinned by asking them to sell him that power.
He was was not told it was okay, because Christ is understanding, but "that you heart is not right with God", And he "was in a gall of bitterness and bond of iniquity". He was told he "had neither lot nor part in this matter (salvation).
When he was told this he became afriad and asked the Apostels to pray for him, and he was told "repent fo thy wickedness and pray for God to fogive you". This is the same for us all. If we are living in physical adultery we must repent, if we are having adulterous thoughts, we must repent and ask for God's forgiveness. Never are we told it is okay, nor that we have no condemnation.
I am not trying to argue with you, You seem sincere, I am just telling you what the scripture says to us. Read Acts 8, also II Pet 3:, II Cor 7 - this chapter tells us repentance is unto salvation, remember it was written to Christians.
Also notice:
Rev 2:
1 Unto the angel of the church of Ephesus write;
2 I know thy works, and thy labour, and thy patience, and how thou canst not bear them which are evil: and thou hast tried them which say they are apostles, and are not, and hast found them liars:
3 And hast borne, and hast patience, and for my name's sake hast laboured, and hast not fainted.
4 Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. 5 Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent
And:
Heb 10:
24 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.
28 He that despised Moses 'law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:
29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace
Anytime these kind of passages are brought up, it is labeled legalism(not saying you are doing that), yet who wrote them? God. So if that is legalism then God is a legalistic, because he demands repentance. Grace will not cover unrepenant sins, one who beleives that as we can see above and lives in sin "is doing despite to the Spririt of Grace, and has received it in vain:
I Cor 6:1 We then, as workers together with him, beseech you also that ye receive not the grace of God in vain
All these passages I have shown was written to the churches, the church is made up of the saved. These are warnigs, and a blessing that shows us God's will for us, if we are willing to accept it. Thank you for your comment.