While I again reiterate that my prior post, nor this current, are mutually exclusive nor collectively exhaustive, I would also like to submit Ephesians 5.
Ephesians 5 NIV - Follow God
Now, while I see the view point of consent, I believe the issue is not willingness. The issue at hand hold tonwhat is or is not sin in the context of marital relations. Now, establishing such, I believe the essence of sin is that which is counter to the Will and Nature of God.
Thus, on the topic of fetishes, which Ritter stared this post in response to, regardless of whether or not they are consensual, do they adhere to the Nature and Will of God?
If this answer is no, I would like to present that the issue in question is then sin, and sin separates us from God. So, let us do our best to make as the most of that which we know, no longer conforming to the ways of this world, but being transformed by the renewing of our minds.
Now, I will add, that not all sin is generally applicable. For me, watching TV, anime, and other such things, often separates (or distances) me from God. Thus, for me, such things are sin. Now, there are those who are not effected so, and thus, for them they are not sin. In this type of instance, sin is differentiable.
All that being said, we are called to do everything as unto the glory of God. So, while I do know, admit, and accept that we are often sinful and don't do as we ought, I do believe we should try not to be. I believe that Christ, through the power of His Holy Spirit, gives us the ability to surrender unto Him all things, that upon full identification with Christ, we may become perfect even in this life.
This is my belief personally, and one of the greater beliefs of the Methodist tradition to which I belong. I ask you, fellow CCers, Christians, and friends, in all our actions, choices, and even theories to submit first to love, then to truth, and finally (hopefully) to wisdom.