CONTROL

[Jullianna]

When I'm in chat, I love to just sit quietly, observing and listening. This poll is based upon some of those observances.

It is anonymous.

It's a long poll, so it make take a few minutes. Please be patient. Thanks!

 

[Nautilus]

Interesting quiz, cant wait to see other answers

 

[Jullianna]

Since it's split by gender, the percentages will be thrown off (because the program considers the total number of voters apparently), but the responses will tell the tale. Can't wait. Surprised by some things already.

 

[PopClick]

A year ago, I might have voted on a (very interesting) poll like this. But I'm rapidly discovering that I don't know myself nearly as well as I thought I did.

 

[djness]

I don't see an option for sitting in my room in my pajamas at 6:45pm wondering what I did with my life.

 

[Liamson]

The whole concept of settling for being choices is strange and a bit foreign to me. I know literally hundreds of women. If I'm in a relationship with one, I'm going to be loyal. I'm not just going to drop her because something more interesting came along or an old friend has started connecting with me.

Good Relationships have a natural, mutual progression. If I'm hanging out with a girl who is also hanging out with a bunch of other guys, my time is clearly worth the same to her as theirs, and therefore not relationship material. But If I go out of my way to hang out with someone and she goes out of her way to hang out with me, that will typically lead to something more. I'm naturally a one friend at a time kind of person, and a one relationship at a time kind of person.

I don't have a list numbered 1-10 of women I would like to date. If I am dating someone I don't think about other women I could be dating. I'm just not wired that way. I date who I connect with and see potential to end in marriage. If it no longer has that potential, I usually fast pray and break up.

I think if two guys both like a girl, it is up to her to choose or ignore them both. I also don't think aggressive women are a turn off. I was friends with a guy who was seeing this Latin girl in San Diego. She was aggressive about making it known that she wanted him (and he was aggressive about pursuing her too) and there was no one else going to stand between her and her man. She publicly praised him in front of guys and girls. There was never any doubt about her intentions but she wasn't controlling or possessive.

Also if I think that a bunch of guys are in love with a a girl and pursuing her, I will not get involved, especially if all parties involved are my friends. If she has a swarm of guys trying to win her over and she likes me, she needs to say something because.... I will not ever jockey for position with a bunch of guys over a girl who doesn't know what she wants, especially if I'm not exactly in love with her. I'm not going to stand between a man and the woman that he wants to be with just because I can.

Also I will be considerate of a woman that I like, especially if she is in a terminal relationship. If its in its death spiral, I will wait for her. Sometimes there are no words needed to express that something is dead, only a look that says, "Hey, wait up. I'll catch up with you soon."

 

[AsifinPassing]

Anonymity breaker!!!

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE MY LADY KIDDING AROUND WITH OTHER GUYS
While she is more than welcome to have male friends, I voted for this...because no, I don't want her 'kidding around' with other guys in a way that is flirtatious or anything. I feel that to be in violation of the relationship.

GUYS ONLY – I TRUST MY LADY COMPLETELY
Yes (more or less). I don't know that any adult "FULLY' or 'COMPLETELY' trusts anyone (except maybe God, but even then...most don't live like that...), but as much as is possible.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK IT’S CUTE WHEN A WOMAN TRIES TO CONTROL ME
No. I scored a zero in the 'control' quadrant of the 'Flag Page' test.

GUYS ONLY – I’M SMART ENOUGH NOT TO FALL FOR FEMININE WILES
Yes, but just because you see through someone, doesn't mean you sometimes don't play along. INFJs like myself (if other INFJs are like me), especially like to see how things play out, even when they can see the future, or see through someones lies, ext...

GUYS ONLY – I’M FLATTERED IF WOMEN FIGHT OVER ME
NO! I used to say yes, until it happened...and it was a dramatic nightmare! I'm good, thanks.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T RESPECT WOMEN WHO FIGHT OVER MEN
While I wouldn't say I don't respect them, as I try to respect everyone, I would not encourage this.

GUYS ONLY – I’M THE JEALOUS TYPE
...I mean, to an extent, naturally, but no...I'm not freaking out if her attention is not on me.

GUYS ONLY – I’M NOT THE JEALOUS TYPE
Yes, to an extent, but I"m not completely okay with her doing whatever. I'm a moderate/centrist. Limits.

GUYS ONLY – I WANT TO LEAD A WOMAN, NOT CONTROL HER
Yes, as much as is possibly in a God-pleasing manner, yes. It is, however, a team effort though. You can't follow someone who won't lead, and you can't lead someone who won't follow.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK A MAN SHOULD KEEP HIS WOMAN UNDER CONTROL
No. Again, score of '0' in the control area.

GUYS ONLY – I WON’T COMPETE FOR A WOMAN
Though I want to say yes, I'm at a loss. I will fight for her if I feel she is who God wants me to be with, but if the scenario was (God speaking), "Well Reece, it's either you or so-and-so, but the choice is yours." Then probably not...As I scored a 'o' in the control aspect, I'm also not very competitive at all. If I love her, and she loves me, then other people coming along shouldn't matter.

GUYS ONLY – I WISH WOMEN WOULD BE MORE AGGRESSIVE
Depends on the woman, but not really. I'm not saying you should be to much of either extreme. Like I said...moderate/centrist. There's a balance.

GUYS ONLY – AGGRESSIVE WOMEN ARE A TURN OFF
They certainly can be. Now, some aggression is fine, and everyone likes confidence. The thing is, when it's a 'my way or the highway' or 'This is GOING to happen." ...my natural response is..."Um...yeah...no." I don't control. I won't be controlled. (Except in God's case...He can do as He wants with me.)

GUYS ONLY – I WILL GO AFTER WHAT I WANT
Within reason, yes. Self control, though, is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit, and I'd rather have what God wants for me than I what I want anyway. (For those of you who might not yet, it's a long, hard, painful lesson, but worth it!)

GUYS ONLY – I’M NOT VERY AGGRESSIVE
Pretty much, yes. I'm naturally large, and often find that I scare people without trying to, but I"m docile. I mean...I can protect you (or God-forbid kill someone) if the time came, but I'm really not a fan of real violence. Video games, oh yeah...the more horrific the better...but reality...NO NO...NO! Stop it! *points finger*

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T WANT TO SETTLE FOR BEING A WOMAN’S 2ND CHOICE
Though I can see where some might answer 'yes', I think most people don't want to be second choice. However, if you mean I must be the first relationship, then definitely no. I've already failed at a dozen. So if this is how people are...I'm in trouble.

GUYS ONLY – I WOULD SETTLE FOR BEING A WOMAN’S 2ND CHOICE
It again depends on the circumstance. If she had a love who died or wasn't realized ( I can relate...), and I'm the next love that comes along later, then of course. If you mean she really loves my friend, but will settle for me since she can't have him...no. Are you serious?! No.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST WOMEN AT ALL
...while I certainly can't answer 'yes' to this question, I can't answer 'no' either. *see Why do men/women... post*

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST OTHER MEN
More or less, I'm shrewd and cunning (not in a mean way), so while I"m inside your head and heart deciphering the depths of who you are anyway, I try to trust everyone.

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE IT IF I FEEL A WOMAN IS PUSHING ME INTO SOMETHING
Given my previous responses about control and the like...obviously not.

 

[Jullianna]

Reece is so thorough. I suppose I should respond to the lady questions.

LADIES ONLY - I DON’T LIKE MY BF KIDDING AROUND WITH OTHER WOMEN
Kidding with women I know to be his good or long time friends, okay. Flirting, not okay.

LADIES ONLY – I TRUST MY MAN COMPLETELY
If I couldn't trust someone, I wouldn't be in a relationship with them. I will trust them unless they give me reason not to. If they give me reason not to and I lose respect and trust for them, I'm out. Won't even try to work it out because trust and respect mean everything to me.

LADIES ONLY – I USE FEMININE WILES TO CONTROL MY MAN
It seriously gags me to watch someone get all giggly, flip their hair, do cutesy little baby voices, use silly pet names on guys and see guys fall for it. I've watched girls try this on my son. After they're gone, I'll just look at him like...REALLY???

LADIES ONLY – I DON’T WANT TO CONTROL MY MAN
I couldn't respect a guy who allowed this.

LADIES ONLY – I CONFRONT WOMEN WHO FLIRT WITH MY MAN
No way. I expect him to be mature enough to know how to make it clear that he is in a relationship and shut it down tactfully and politely without anyone making a dramatic scene.

LADIES ONLY – I DON’T DO CATFIGHTS. IT’S TACKY
No way. Have some respect for yourself.

LADIES ONLY – I WILL NOT COMPETE FOR A MAN
No way. If he wants to be with me, he'll be with me. If he's that undecided or doesn't know what he wants any better than that, wow...just..wow. Very immature.

LADIES ONLY – I’M FLATTERED WHEN GUYS FIGHT OVER ME
No. Just No. Respect yourself.

LADIES ONLY – I’M EMBARRASSED IF GUYS FIGHT OVER ME
Absolutely.

LADIES ONLY – I’M THE JEALOUS TYPE
Definitely not. If you want to be with someone else, just say so and don't waste my time. Life is too short to waste on stupid.

LADIES ONLY – I’M NOT THE JEALOUS TYPE
Being jealous means there's a breach of trust somewhere. I either trust you or I don't. If I don't, I'm not wiith you anyway.

LADIES ONLY – I LIKE FOR A MAN TO LEAD, BUT THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LEADING AND CONTROLING YES

LADIES ONLY – I THINK IT’S OKAY FOR WOMEN TO BE AGGRESSIVE
I will be open with you if you express an interest in me. I will be honest with you. If I want to be more than friends with you, I will tell you. If we are both committed to one another, I will stand with you til the last dog dies, but I will not chase you. I will follow you if I know that's what you want, but I will not chase you.

LADIES ONLY – I DON’T WANT TO BE AN AGGRESSIVE WOMAN
I can be aggressive when fighting for a noble cause, but not for foolish things like dating games. I don't want to be the leader in a relationship. I want to be a partner.

LADIES ONLY – I LIKE AGGRESSIVE MEN
I like men who are bold enough and confident enough to tell me what they want and what they honest think about a thing, whether I agree or not. I don't like controling guys, pushy guys or bullies.

LADIES ONLY – I WOULD SETTLE FOR BEING A GUY’S 2ND CHOICE
No way. Marriage is for good. If you're a 2nd choice, there will probably be a 3rd, 4th or 5th at some point.

LADIES ONLY – I DON’T TRUST MEN AT ALL
Like some of the other INFJs, I can size people up rather quickly. Some are trustworthy. Some are not.

LADIES ONLY – I DON’T TRUST OTHER WOMEN
Same answer. Some yes. Some no.

LADIES ONLY - I DON'T LIKE FEELING THAT A GUYS IS PUSHING ME INTO THINGS
I will bolt. Relationships are not rushed.

 

[LightningClap0002]

Alright,

I won't go quite as far as sum.....but:

GUYS ONLY – I TRUST MY LADY COMPLETELY
If there is another way, I don't know what it would be.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK IT’S CUTE WHEN A WOMAN TRIES TO CONTROL ME
Yeah...you aren't that hard to understand, sorry girl.

GUYS ONLY – I’M SMART ENOUGH NOT TO FALL FOR FEMININE WILES
Smart enough not to fall for them, but not always willing to follow my smarts.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T RESPECT WOMEN WHO FIGHT OVER MEN
It just becomes a mess. Been there, done that... got the t-shirt.

GUYS ONLY – I WANT TO LEAD A WOMAN, NOT CONTROL HER
This is one that has been kind of evolving with me. Being a reluctant leader, I never really went out of my way to lead. In relationships, at least, it seems like God is encouraging me to step up.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST OTHER MEN
I don't know of any traumatic events or relationships that have specifically led me to this, but I have never really trusted guys, even in elementary school.

 

[GuyforChrist85]

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE MY LADY KIDDING AROUND WITH OTHER GUYS

I don't mind it. This goes with "I trust my lady completely" actually.

GUYS ONLY – I TRUST MY LADY COMPLETELY

Absolutely. This is a must have for ANY sort of relationship.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK IT’S CUTE WHEN A WOMAN TRIES TO CONTROL ME

Hehe, it is kinda cute. But at the same time, would this mean she does not trust me? I let this happen when I was younger one time, and never again.

GUYS ONLY – I’M SMART ENOUGH NOT TO FALL FOR FEMININE WILES

I will admit, there are some things that work on me. Just gotta throw back some Masculine wiles

GUYS ONLY – I’M FLATTERED IF WOMEN FIGHT OVER ME

Depends on the definition of fight. If there is degrading of the other person involved, absolutely no. Huge turnoff.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T RESPECT WOMEN WHO FIGHT OVER MEN

See above.

GUYS ONLY – I’M THE JEALOUS TYPE

A woman is going to do what she wants. If I trust her, no I'm not jealous. If I don't trust her, I would not be with her anyways!


GUYS ONLY – I WANT TO LEAD A WOMAN, NOT CONTROL HER

Yes. It's just the way God designed it. I'm a person that naturally feels called to lead in many areas of my life including this one.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK A MAN SHOULD KEEP HIS WOMAN UNDER CONTROL

No.

GUYS ONLY – I WON’T COMPETE FOR A WOMAN

I'm just myself, if that's not good enough for her then whatever. I do not persue women, I'll let her know who I am, what I want, and my intentions. I leave it at that. If she wants the guy that's calling her everyday and complimenting her every 2 seconds she can have him. Generally the woman will go for the guy that's not competing anyways..

GUYS ONLY – I WISH WOMEN WOULD BE MORE AGGRESSIVE

Kind of. It does take some of the guesswork out of it for a guy.

GUYS ONLY – AGGRESSIVE WOMEN ARE A TURN OFF

Not at all.

GUYS ONLY – I WILL GO AFTER WHAT I WANT

Absolutely. This is how we get things in life.

GUYS ONLY – I’M NOT VERY AGGRESSIVE

Nope. I'm pretty aggressive.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T WANT TO SETTLE FOR BEING A WOMAN’S 2ND CHOICE

No. That would be a crappy relationship..

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST WOMEN AT ALL

Not a gender specific thing. Trust is earned. I take everything with a grain of salt until they have built that trust with me.

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE IT IF I FEEL A WOMAN IS PUSHING ME INTO SOMETHING

I won't do it.

 

[Moe]

The whole concept of settling for being choices is strange and a bit foreign to me. I know literally hundreds of women. If I'm in a relationship with one, I'm going to be loyal. I'm not just going to drop her because something more interesting came along or an old friend has started connecting with me.

Good Relationships have a natural, mutual progression. If I'm hanging out with a girl who is also hanging out with a bunch of other guys, my time is clearly worth the same to her as theirs, and therefore not relationship material. But If I go out of my way to hang out with someone and she goes out of her way to hang out with me, that will typically lead to something more. I'm naturally a one friend at a time kind of person, and a one relationship at a time kind of person.

I don't have a list numbered 1-10 of women I would like to date. If I am dating someone I don't think about other women I could be dating. I'm just not wired that way. I date who I connect with and see potential to end in marriage. If it no longer has that potential, I usually fast pray and break up.

I think if two guys both like a girl, it is up to her to choose or ignore them both. I also don't think aggressive women are a turn off. I was friends with a guy who was seeing this Latin girl in San Diego. She was aggressive about making it known that she wanted him (and he was aggressive about pursuing her too) and there was no one else going to stand between her and her man. She publicly praised him in front of guys and girls. There was never any doubt about her intentions but she wasn't controlling or possessive.

Also if I think that a bunch of guys are in love with a a girl and pursuing her, I will not get involved, especially if all parties involved are my friends. If she has a swarm of guys trying to win her over and she likes me, she needs to say something because.... I will not ever jockey for position with a bunch of guys over a girl who doesn't know what she wants, especially if I'm not exactly in love with her. I'm not going to stand between a man and the woman that he wants to be with just because I can.

Also I will be considerate of a woman that I like, especially if she is in a terminal relationship. If its in its death spiral, I will wait for her. Sometimes there are no words needed to express that something is dead, only a look that says, "Hey, wait up. I'll catch up with you soon."

27 years old and hundreds of woman, wow! I have read some of your posts and I really think that you have a little problem. It doesn't sound like your being honest with yourself when talking about relationships. It sounds like you can not keep a working relationship with any one. Please, I am not trying to be rude, but as a minister I'm a little concerned in what I am reading...A little council goes a long way..Cheers

 

[Liamson]

27 years old and hundreds of woman, wow! I have read some of your posts and I really think that you have a little problem. It doesn't sound like your being honest with yourself when talking about relationships. It sounds like you can not keep a working relationship with any one. Please, I am not trying to be rude, but as a minister I'm a little concerned in what I am reading...A little council goes a long way..Cheers

I honestly don't understand the problem. I've noticed that you seem to find my posts most appealing to comment on, more so than many other's.

By "keep a working relationship" I assume you mean a marriage. If a relationship does not have the intended pursuant result of marriage, then there is no worthy lesser aim or reason to be dating someone.

Death aside, I am still good friends with every women I have ever dated except one. Not one of my relationships has had very much in common with each other.

I'm not going to be someone that I am not for the sake of preserving a relationship that does not have the potential to be as healthy as it needs to be to survive. I do not put dating relationships on life support or through counseling until there is a promised commitment to succeed.

 

[djness]

You broke anonymity, there is nobody who can fix these things.

 

[Jullianna]

I thought guys could fix anything with one of these two things!

 

[iraasuup]

Very interesting thread Jullianna.

I'm just gonna sit back and observe for a bit longer. I'm a bit jaded about men and relationships, so although some of the answers given by the guys here sound great, I struggle with actually believing them. Please note, this is based on personal experience. I realise I don't know any of you well enough to have an opinion on your sincerity, I'm just generalising here... I suppose you could say I'm grouping the entire male gender into one box, and while I've never been one to make sweeping statements or categorise all groups of people as the same, at the moment it's too painful for me to do anything other than put all guys into the same box in my heart!

I've been too hurt, to know if I'll ever be able to trust again and its gonna take a very special guy to come along and prove he's 'not like all the others' in order for me to be able to fully trust again. I'm sorry, but that's just how it is.

Reading through the poll options, I was thinking 'Wow, yeah I want a guy who will do that/won't do that'.. but I've yet to actually encounter one! So, I guess time will tell on these things. Are these wonderful men actually out there? Can I believe what I'm reading? We shall see...

Don't get me wrong. I'm sure there are wonderful, Godly men out there who know who to value women and treat them as God intended. However, I've not experienced this. I am working on overcoming the pain in my life, and making positive steps to move forward. I know my post sounds a lil negative, but I'm trying to take my experience aand learn from it, to shape me for my future. I know God has a grand plan for my life, and He's teaching me to trust in Him more. If that involves learning to give my trust to another man in the future.. well it won't be easy... but I'll sure try. I believe pain has a purpose in our lives... but right now, I'm trying to piece it all together. I have certainly learnt what to look for in a guy, and what sort of behaviour not to tolerate. So, if anything, in my next relationship, I'll be able to take a stand ... something I never did very well in the past.

I'll sit back for now, and observe a lil longer, before giving my own answers to the poll...this is all very interesting.

 

[Liamson]

[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OkmfNBZmQvA[/video]

 

[LightningClap0002]

Very interesting thread Jullianna.

I'm just gonna sit back and observe for a bit longer. I'm a bit jaded about men and relationships, so although some of the answers given by the guys here sound great, I struggle with actually believing them. Please note, this is based on personal experience. I realise I don't know any of you well enough to have an opinion on your sincerity, I'm just generalising here... I suppose you could say I'm grouping the entire male gender into one box, and while I've never been one to make sweeping statements or categorise all groups of people as the same, at the moment it's too painful for me to do anything other than put all guys into the same box in my heart!

I've been too hurt, to know if I'll ever be able to trust again and its gonna take a very special guy to come along and prove he's 'not like all the others' in order for me to be able to fully trust again. I'm sorry, but that's just how it is.

Reading through the poll options, I was thinking 'Wow, yeah I want a guy who will do that/won't do that'.. but I've yet to actually encounter one! So, I guess time will tell on these things. Are these wonderful men actually out there? Can I believe what I'm reading? We shall see...

Don't get me wrong. I'm sure there are wonderful, Godly men out there who know who to value women and treat them as God intended. However, I've not experienced this. I am working on overcoming the pain in my life, and making positive steps to move forward. I know my post sounds a lil negative, but I'm trying to take my experience aand learn from it, to shape me for my future. I know God has a grand plan for my life, and He's teaching me to trust in Him more. If that involves learning to give my trust to another man in the future.. well it won't be easy... but I'll sure try. I believe pain has a purpose in our lives... but right now, I'm trying to piece it all together. I have certainly learnt what to look for in a guy, and what sort of behaviour not to tolerate. So, if anything, in my next relationship, I'll be able to take a stand ... something I never did very well in the past.

I'll sit back for now, and observe a lil longer, before giving my own answers to the poll...this is all very interesting.

So are "your answers" going to include your thoughts on the GUY choices? I can't imagine that any guy could possibly fail at every single one of those things.

 

[iraasuup]

So are "your answers" going to include your thoughts on the GUY choices? I can't imagine that any guy could possibly fail at every single one of those things.

Hmm, I guess I could answer from both perspectives.

My experience however, had the guy in question failing at most all of those aforementioned categories.

 

[iraasuup]

Here we go Dan,

Just for you:

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE MY LADY KIDDING AROUND WITH OTHER GUYS
- Um, to be honest, once I married him, I never really had any friends of my own, his friends became my friends, so this was never really an issue.

GUYS ONLY – I TRUST MY LADY COMPLETELY - um evidently not. He didn't trust me to even do a simple task properly. If it wasn't done his way, it wasn't good enough. So, therefore I was hopeless, and useless and just a bother to him.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK IT’S CUTE WHEN A WOMAN TRIES TO CONTROL ME - No. I may have been guilty of trying to 'control' him, but that was never my intention, I just became so frustrated at times when he wouldnt lead or make a simple decision, that I had no choice but to take control and make the decision myself, then he'd get mad because I was 'forcing him'. If I didn't though, no important life decisions would have been made. It was a no-win situation.

GUYS ONLY – I’M SMART ENOUGH NOT TO FALL FOR FEMININE WILES - HAHAHAHAHA! I tried not to use them, but when I did, he fell for them... and for those of every other woman on the planet. Loyalty and monogamy were not high on his list of priorities. To him if I wasn't in good enough shape, or didn't dress in a provocative manner, then I should not be surprised when he went looking elsewhere. He told me this, in pretty much those words.. it was my own fault. I needed to do this that or the other in order to maintain his attention on ME!

GUYS ONLY – I’M FLATTERED IF WOMEN FIGHT OVER ME - Um, well, he never had scores of women fighting over him, so I can't really answer this, but based on his behaviour, I'm sure he would enjoy the attention.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T RESPECT WOMEN WHO FIGHT OVER MEN - see above.

GUYS ONLY – I’M THE JEALOUS TYPE -He had nothing to be jealous about with me - but he did get angry if I wasnt doing things he thought I should be doing, so I guess so.

GUYS ONLY – I’M NOT THE JEALOUS TYPE - See above

GUYS ONLY – I WANT TO LEAD A WOMAN, NOT CONTROL HER - Oh this is hilarious. He couldn't lead if his life depended on it. He told me 'he's not a leader type person'. I tried repeatedly to get him to understand the importance of this in a marriage, and comprehend what this actually means, and that I just needed him to step up to the plate and take responsibility a bit more.. but no! If I even dared mention this- then I was 'hassling him'. -His words.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK A MAN SHOULD KEEP HIS WOMAN UNDER CONTROL - He seemed to think that he needed to control what I wore, what I ate etc, so that I could be completely attractive to him. It was all about physical attraction. He used to come down on me like a tonne of bricks if I ate a chocolate bar in his presence.

GUYS ONLY – I WON’T COMPETE FOR A WOMAN - I can honestly say he didn't have much competition for me, so I guess this isnt really applicable.

GUYS ONLY – I WISH WOMEN WOULD BE MORE AGGRESSIVE - No, he wanted women to just do as he wanted and not ever have an opinion of their own.

GUYS ONLY – AGGRESSIVE WOMEN ARE A TURN OFF - see above.

GUYS ONLY – I WILL GO AFTER WHAT I WANT - clearly. What he 'wanted' was a barbie doll to play with when the mood struck him. I wasn't it- so he went elsewhere.

GUYS ONLY – I’M NOT VERY AGGRESSIVE - Oh yeah he was aggressive, but he hated anyone tell him as much. He used to say 'Im not aggressive- I'm confident, there's a difference'. Yes, yes there is...

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T WANT TO SETTLE FOR BEING A WOMAN’S 2ND CHOICE -I think he'd settle for anything as long as he was getting his satisfaction. Sorry it's blunt, but thats the truth of it.

GUYS ONLY – I WOULD SETTLE FOR BEING A WOMAN’S 2ND CHOICE - as above.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST WOMEN AT ALL - He doesn't trust anyone but himself. No one knows anything, or can do anything as well as he can.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST OTHER MEN - again- above.

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE IT IF I FEEL A WOMAN IS PUSHING ME INTO SOMETHING- No! He always felt I was 'pushing' him into doing something, when all I wanted was for him to at least have an opinion on something, or make a decision. Do what you think is best, do ANYTHING.. just do SOMETHING, not NOTHING. However, apparently, if I said that to him, again I was 'hassling him'... then it was all my fault again.


There you go Dan, I told you I'd answer.. and there you have it. So, does that explain why I'm just a wee, tad bit jaded about men?

 

[Nautilus]

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE MY LADY KIDDING AROUND WITH OTHER GUYS
Depends on the level of kidding, but No is a good starting point

GUYS ONLY – I TRUST MY LADY COMPLETELY
Nope, but then this will be more obvious farther down.

GUYS ONLY – I THINK IT’S CUTE WHEN A WOMAN TRIES TO CONTROL ME
It's funny to see the attempts. Im also terribly independent so it would never work.

GUYS ONLY – I’M SMART ENOUGH NOT TO FALL FOR FEMININE WILES
I like to pretend they work, I mean its certainly fun

GUYS ONLY – I’M FLATTERED IF WOMEN FIGHT OVER ME
It's kinda hot to be honest...two women both wanting your attention? I might not care who wins and ignore them for being childish but there is a thrill in it.

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T RESPECT WOMEN WHO FIGHT OVER MEN

See above.

GUYS ONLY – I’M THE JEALOUS TYPE
Not jealous persay, but I dont like sharing. So dont give me a reason to be.

GUYS ONLY – I WANT TO LEAD A WOMAN, NOT CONTROL HER
in the same way im extremely independent I want the same to a point. I dont want someone who constantly looks to me for decisions and such, I mean you;re a grown woman, if you want something say it

GUYS ONLY – I THINK A MAN SHOULD KEEP HIS WOMAN UNDER CONTROL
If a woman can't control herself she isn't worth having

GUYS ONLY – I WON’T COMPETE FOR A WOMAN
Life is a competition, play to win, but I wont be a jerk or go outside of who i am for a girl

GUYS ONLY – I WISH WOMEN WOULD BE MORE AGGRESSIVE
Aggressive is nice to a point, shows desire and passion

GUYS ONLY – AGGRESSIVE WOMEN ARE A TURN OFF
There is a level of too aggressive

GUYS ONLY – I WILL GO AFTER WHAT I WANT
Absolutely. This is how we get things in life.

GUYS ONLY – I’M NOT VERY AGGRESSIVE
False, I'm a winner, you have to be aggressive

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T WANT TO SETTLE FOR BEING A WOMAN’S 2ND CHOICE
Second place is the first loser, feel sorry for those guys that are ok with it

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST WOMEN AT ALL
I trust my mom, she is a woman...so not AT ALL

GUYS ONLY – I DON’T TRUST OTHER MEN
My best friend is a guy, otherwise...lol no

GUYS ONLY - I DON'T LIKE IT IF I FEEL A WOMAN IS PUSHING ME INTO SOMETHING
Depends on circumstances, normally not a good idea though