Seeking repentance and cannot find it

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Skydoogie

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Is it possible that I'm doomed? Seriously, I want to break free from this oppression and embrace Christ, but doubt and fear always get in the way. I have a feeling that I am beyond grace and mercy and that I cannot be saved. In that case, why try? (I just hate myself so much for what I did. So much. It's to the point where I don't even know HOW to be a Christian anymore)
 
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Jordache

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You are not lost. You are found. You are certainly not beyond redemption. At a conference this weekend the speaker gave a brilliant picture of repentance. Most people know that repentance is turning from your sin. But repentance is turning from your sin and sittin on the fathers lap do you can see yourself and that sin from His perspective. He sees you victorious. He sees you pure. But if we see ourselves through our own eyes we will only see failure and we will fail.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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None of us are worthy, none of us are what we should be. That is why we are saved by grace. If we were not, no one would be saved.

If God has made you a child of His, you ARE his unless you deliberately say you do not want to be anymore. You cannot be separated from Gods love. By anything.
 
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naomig098

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God's mercy and grace is beyond what we can understand and comprehend. Nothing that you have done can be beyond God's love for you skydoogie. I mean nothing. David in the old testament- killed a guy, committed adultery. But he was called a man after God's heart. I mean the guy was a cold blood murderer and he committed adultery. Those sins are like huge for us, you know. But David repented and admitted, and God forgave him. I love to read Psalm 51 when I feel terrible and unworthy. I know i can't go anywhere from God atleast i don't want to. God always recieves us with open arms. you can email me if you want to talk more
 
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SweetCaroline

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No matter what you do, God is there for you always. Don't be afraid of what you've done, and don't let it get in the way of your relationship with The Lord. He died for our sins, and he will wash away any doubts and sadness you had before. Trust me. Trust God. He will take care of you if you accept him into your life.
Good Luck and God bless. :)
 
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gardin

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You are not lost. You are found. You are certainly not beyond redemption. At a conference this weekend the speaker gave a brilliant picture of repentance. Most people know that repentance is turning from your sin. But repentance is turning from your sin and sittin on the fathers lap do you can see yourself and that sin from His perspective. He sees you victorious. He sees you pure. But if we see ourselves through our own eyes we will only see failure and we will fail.
uhmm...Jordache are you serious? you can't tell people whether they are lost or not :S


But Skydoogie if you really want God, then pray! and I mean really pray, get on your knees and seek him with all your heart.
It can be really hard at first when you feel like he is not even listening or you feel like you are just sitting there talking to yourself. But don't give up he is listening and when he sees your faithfulness he will answer you.

I think it's one of the biggest sign that you're saved if God has made you sensitive to sin. If we feel bad about sins that didn't even bother us before and sometime we feel so guilty it's almost unbearable, that's a good thing! because then we know that God is working in us. You should rather be scared if you are going around doing what you want and not feeling a thing.
 
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guymanuel

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I agree with Gardin that if you feel bad for sin, then that shows that you have the Spirit of God, and He is dealing with you as a son. If you were not HIS, then it would not bother you. So I can say that you are a very righteous person, and THE LORD sees you as such also. Because it is about the heart. Also, it is not about you, it is about the Work of Jesus on the Cross He did for you. Ask God for forgiveness, then believe what Jesus did washed it away as far as the east is from the west. If you cannot believe that then you belittle the work of Jesus. See, it really not about your work but all about His Work. Rest in HIS WORK. Once you can understand that HE MADE YOU A SON and not you yourself, then it becomes easy. Don't do to be but be to do. In other words, Jesus made you a SON, and you believed. So just be a SON and the doing will come your nature to do right. I hope this makes understanding. ONCE you repent from any sin, never question if GOD recognizes such repentance. But believe with all assurance that it has been washed away because of JESUS and HE alone without you putting NO CONFIDENCE IN YOUR OWN FLESH. Our confidence is in the WORK OF CHRIST ALONE.
 

Lucy68

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The evil one is definitely influencing you....this is EXACTLY what he wants you to believe! Refuse to listen to him!

Whoever seeks God with a sincere heart will always find Him. Read His Word, pray, fellowship with other Christians. This will go a VERY long way in helping you to find this path :) .

He forgives whatever you are sorry for....believe that and live it . Look forward to the finish line...as long as you're looking forward you cannot be hindered by what is behind you :)
 
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Jordache

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Gardin, no one who has chosen God is lost. Even is we cannot find God that doesnt make us lost. The poster is looking for repentance and is stuck in shame and hopelessness. I stand by my first statement. He/she is not
lost. The Lord knows exactly where he/she is.
 
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Skydoogie

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I feel like such a baby. Lol. I guess learning how to be a Christian is just like learning how to walk and climb and all that jazz. It's hard. Sometimes I don't have much help...
 

tribesman

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Is it possible that I'm doomed? Seriously, I want to break free from this oppression and embrace Christ, but doubt and fear always get in the way. I have a feeling that I am beyond grace and mercy and that I cannot be saved. In that case, why try? ...
If you feel this way, then that's a sign you're NOT into what you think you might be.
 
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guymanuel

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I feel like such a baby. Lol. I guess learning how to be a Christian is just like learning how to walk and climb and all that jazz. It's hard. Sometimes I don't have much help...

Being childlike when it comes to faith is good. It is when one tries to understand when human intellectualism that one strays from the simple message of the Gospel of Christ. I included a video for you, it is a short maybe 15 minutes. I think it will bless you.

The Sinful Nature? -Dan Mohler - YouTube


 
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guymanuel

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HERE IS VIDEO

[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YacUejbtQ6I[/video]
 
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Skydoogie

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My marching band instructor said something very important: the moment when you think you know, you mess up. You DON'T KNOW. (it's basically a giant stab at our pride.) So it isn't about us. It's about Jesus Christ. This walk is HARD. Harder than any physical pain I had to bear. Thank God for Jesus, though. (that's starting to mean more to me each day)
 

eugenius

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My marching band instructor said something very important: the moment when you think you know, you mess up. You DON'T KNOW. (it's basically a giant stab at our pride.) So it isn't about us. It's about Jesus Christ. This walk is HARD. Harder than any physical pain I had to bear. Thank God for Jesus, though. (that's starting to mean more to me each day)

Please read this poem.


He came to my desk with a quivering lip,
the lesson was done.
“Have you a new sheet for me, dear teacher?
I’ve spoiled this one.”
I took his sheet, all soiled and blotted
and gave him a new one all unspotted.
And into his tired heart I cried,
“Do better now, my child.”

I went came to the throne with a trembling heart;
the day was done.
“Have you a new day for me, dear Master?
I’ve spoiled this one.”
He took my day, all soiled and blotted
and gave me a new one all unspotted.
And into my tired heart he cried,
“Do better now, my child.”

 
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Skydoogie

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Please read this poem.
He came to my desk with a quivering lip,
the lesson was done.
“Have you a new sheet for me, dear teacher?
I’ve spoiled this one.”
I took his sheet, all soiled and blotted
and gave him a new one all unspotted.
And into his tired heart I cried,
“Do better now, my child.”
I went came to the throne with a trembling heart;
the day was done.
“Have you a new day for me, dear Master?
I’ve spoiled this one.”
He took my day, all soiled and blotted
and gave me a new one all unspotted.
And into my tired heart he cried,
“Do better now, my child.”
Whoa. The child messes up every day, but yet the Master understands and gives the child a new sheet. WHOA, THAT'S CRAZY! I just remembered a verse. I had to look it up though. “Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22, 23 NKJV)
 
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TheAristocat

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Is it possible that I'm doomed? Seriously, I want to break free from this oppression and embrace Christ, but doubt and fear always get in the way. I have a feeling that I am beyond grace and mercy and that I cannot be saved. In that case, why try? (I just hate myself so much for what I did. So much. It's to the point where I don't even know HOW to be a Christian anymore)
What is the Gospel message?

1 Corinthians 15:1-4 Now I make known unto you brethren, the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye received, wherein also ye stand,by which also ye are saved, if ye hold fast the word which I preached unto you, except ye believed in vain.For I delivered unto you first of all that which also I received: that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;and that he was buried; and that he hath been raised on the third day according to the scriptures;

Romans 5: 8-10 But God commendeth his own love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, shall we be saved from the wrath of God through him. For if, while we were enemies, we were reconciled to God through the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, shall we be saved by his life;

John 3:16-18 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on him should not perish, but have eternal life.For God sent not the Son into the world to judge the world; but that the world should be saved through him. He that believeth on him is not judged: he that believeth not hath been judged already, because he hath not believed on the name of the only begotten Son of God.
 
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Shilo

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Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. 2 Corinthians 3:17. So stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery Galatians 5:1. Do not believe the lies of the evilone. You have been bought and paid for by Christ, so you belong to him. 1 Cor 7:23. He has swept away your offenses like a cloud, your sins like the morning mist. Return to him, for he has redeemed you." Isaiah 44:22. If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. John 8:36 but you must grab on to the promise.For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why it is through him that we utter our Amen to God for his glory2 Corinthians 1:20 Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ Romans 5:1 So walk in that peace.
 
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libertygirl

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I'm sure Apostle Paul was a worse sinner than you. Cheer up, God loves you, and what Jesus did on the cross covers all sins.

Go to God and tell him to restore your relationship with Him. Find a loving male mentor to walk you through this season of doubt, because once you know more about God and His character, you'll feel a lot better. He sees you and is not going to let you go.
 

Lucy68

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I feel like such a baby. Lol. I guess learning how to be a Christian is just like learning how to walk and climb and all that jazz. It's hard. Sometimes I don't have much help...

That's a good analogy :)

Notice that when a child is learning to walk, the parent backs up. I think God does that with us too....so we grow spiritually.


Going to church is very helpful in our spiritual walk. Do you attend one?