Raped

[PaigeyStorm]

Hi, I'm only 15 and I have a story that I've hardly shared with anyone but I think it could encourage someone and I feel comfortable sharing it with people like you guys, so, here it goes.
December last year (I was only14) I got into drinking and stuff and ended up spending the night at a guys house whom I hardly knew.. When we got to his house, he gave me a drink and had obviously put something in the drink and I couldn't remember the rest of the night, all I know is I woke up the next morning at a youth leaders house from my church.
After this I became fully committed to serving god, I absolutely fell I love with God all over again and let go. Of the past, but something happened, the guy who's house I slept at that December night got hold of me and decided to tell me what really happened that night, we had sex.. He had put something In my drink and I was unconscious when he raped me. He was apologizing so much and I couldn't say anything, I just stood there shocked with. The phone in my hand not knowing what to do.
Purity was something I always held onto so tightly, and I had just found out that it was stolen from me by someone I hardly knew.
I didn't press charges against him, I chose to forgive him, and I turned to god, whereas a year ago I would've turned to drugs, alcohol and hurting myself. I know that God can make me pure again, and that he forgives me and does not condemn me for any of this, his grace is HUGE, bigger than what I went through.
Now I'm a youth leader at my church and fully involved in missionary I strive to show people how Jesus flipped my life around. There's so much more to my story, but I felt that what I said above was enough for now.
Jesus? Yup, he saves.

 

[tiredmary]

Jesus is really GREAT... God Bless Your Life Dear Sister

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

"I got into drinking and stuff and ended up spending the night at a guys house whom I hardly knew."

^ Houston, I think we've located the problem.

 

[PaigeyStorm]

"I got into drinking and stuff and ended up spending the night at a guys house whom I hardly knew."

^ Houston, I think we've located the problem.

As I said in my story, I have stopped that sort of stuff so lucky it isn't a problem anymore

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

I can tell that it is not any longer from your posts. You realize that you are a new creature created by God for good works now and that all things from your past have passed away right?

It's as if they never existed in the sense of guilt or being held against you. Micah wrote that God casts all of our sins and past wrong doings into a sea of forgetfulness where they are swallowed up forever.

While it's common for people who experience what you did to struggle emotionally with it over time, you are washed, clean, and forgiven. It's the human experience that's the hard part in this life. But God forgives. And when He forgives, it's 100% like it never happened. It's for real.

As I said in my story, I have stopped that sort of stuff so lucky it isn't a problem anymore

 

[Iron47]

You can thank God for that. one of my female colleague was raped twice in the last year(not here fault either). they never found the people responsible and it is driving her crazy. Its nice to hear your moving on with your life. I bet it felt awesome to tell someone your storie. Im glad to see im not the only South African on this site!!!

 

[intercessorginger]

There is no excuse for what happened to you and you are not at fault when you are violated by another person. Thank God there is cleansing in Jesus who took all our guilt and shame on the cross. You are clean, dear sister, because of the blood of the precious lamb of God!
he endured the cross, despising the shame’ (Hebrews 12:2).

 

[LouiseDritz]

I know what it's like. I was raped eleven times. But you've been able to forgive, I haven't.

 

[Stephen63]

Now I'm a youth leader at my church and fully involved in missionary.

You're a 15 yr old youth leader?

 

[_Ryan_]

Paigey,

I am sorry you had to experience something so traumatic. You show courage by not turning to other negative ways to handle your feelings, but instead turned to God, and I admire that,

The guy that did this to you will answer some day to God, and has to live each day of his life knowing what he did.

My prayers are with you as you continue to move forward.

 

[PaigeyStorm]

You're a 15 yr old youth leader?

Timothy 4:12, " don't let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity." Does it really matter how young I am?
Our youth is from the ages of 12 to 14/15. So yes, I am a 15 year old youth leader

 

[PaigeyStorm]

I know what it's like. I was raped eleven times. But you've been able to forgive, I haven't.

I think I only ended up forgiving Him because I remembered that everything I did that was seen as wrong, God forgave me for so it was in my best interest to forgive him. Don't you remember the first time you heard the words, "Jesus died on the cross for your sins, so you are forgiven" or something along the lines of that? Didn't that feel relieving? Well it's just as relieving to forgive people. By not forgiving someone, you are not leaving them in bondage, they are fine, you're putting yourself in bondage.

 

[BarlyGurl]

Hi, I'm only 15 and I have a story that I've hardly shared with anyone but I think it could encourage someone and I feel comfortable sharing it with people like you guys, so, here it goes.
December last year (I was only14) I got into drinking and stuff and ended up spending the night at a guys house whom I hardly knew.. When we got to his house, he gave me a drink and had obviously put something in the drink and I couldn't remember the rest of the night, all I know is I woke up the next morning at a youth leaders house from my church.
After this I became fully committed to serving god, I absolutely fell I love with God all over again and let go. Of the past, but something happened, the guy who's house I slept at that December night got hold of me and decided to tell me what really happened that night, we had sex.. He had put something In my drink and I was unconscious when he raped me. He was apologizing so much and I couldn't say anything, I just stood there shocked with. The phone in my hand not knowing what to do.
Purity was something I always held onto so tightly, and I had just found out that it was stolen from me by someone I hardly knew.
I didn't press charges against him, I chose to forgive him, and I turned to god, whereas a year ago I would've turned to drugs, alcohol and hurting myself. I know that God can make me pure again, and that he forgives me and does not condemn me for any of this, his grace is HUGE, bigger than what I went through.
Now I'm a youth leader at my church and fully involved in missionary I strive to show people how Jesus flipped my life around. There's so much more to my story, but I felt that what I said above was enough for now.
Jesus? Yup, he saves.

Paige... I appreciate your story. I Do have some questions, and because this is an open forum I do not want you to answer the questions in the forum OKAY? I am asking the questions o the open forum because I think you and others readers could potentially benefit. So again... please DO NOT answer any questions with private information or details to the forum
The story says you were 14 when this happened, that is very young but regardless of being drugged and not aware of what was happening... you SHOULD have been able to notice something different about your lady parts the next day. Did you ?
The story says the boy TOLD you what happened, otherwise you would not have known. IF the boy is telling you the truth... you can be examined to determine if his story is true. Did you get examined?
If purity is precious to you... you should not believe you had this experience just because someone told it to you...you should have some proof or evidence, so you aren't believing an untruth about yourself. Have you any evidence?
Telling us that you chose to forgive is good for you spiritually. But overlooking the crime of rape... is good for NO ONE, not you, not society and not that boy. Th scriptures are clear about the importance of appropriate and just punishment for criminal offense. Have you ever spoken to an adult in leadership at your church who is informed about abuse and crimes against women? If not I think you should.
Continue to study the scriptures... and grow in Christ.

 

[PaigeyStorm]

Paige... I appreciate your story. I Do have some questions, and because this is an open forum I do not want you to answer the questions in the forum OKAY? I am asking the questions o the open forum because I think you and others readers could potentially benefit. So again... please DO NOT answer any questions with private information or details to the forum
The story says you were 14 when this happened, that is very young but regardless of being drugged and not aware of what was happening... you SHOULD have been able to notice something different about your lady parts the next day. Did you ?
The story says the boy TOLD you what happened, otherwise you would not have known. IF the boy is telling you the truth... you can be examined to determine if his story is true. Did you get examined?
If purity is precious to you... you should not believe you had this experience just because someone told it to you...you should have some proof or evidence, so you aren't believing an untruth about yourself. Have you any evidence?
Telling us that you chose to forgive is good for you spiritually. But overlooking the crime of rape... is good for NO ONE, not you, not society and not that boy. Th scriptures are clear about the importance of appropriate and just punishment for criminal offense. Have you ever spoken to an adult in leadership at your church who is informed about abuse and crimes against women? If not I think you should.
Continue to study the scriptures... and grow in Christ.

I won't answer your questions now, just as I wouldn't have put the answers in my testimony. There definitely is proof I was raped but I don't think I should've mentioned it in detail, neither do i agree with how you were questioning me, but hey, no judgement?
Thanks for you concern

 

[hellopeople]

wowzer that was powerful, especially to see your dedication afterwards, truly God worked a work in you, i pray you continue strong sis, God Bless.

 

[willfollowsGod]

Great and traumatic story. I disagree with BarlyGurl's response to it though. Instead of questioning the story, she has two witnesses, God the Father

and Jesus Christ so they can tell if her testimony or what the man said was true. As for the 14-year old youth leader, Timothy was young to and so

where many others in the Bible and they can be used by God. There is a Youtube that talks about the song Forgiveness by Matthew West.

I recommend that you and everyone here who has not watched it, will watch it because that person had a hard time forgiving the person who killed

their daughter through drunk driving but the Holy Spirit was convicting her and contrary to popular belief, she was not special in what she did. She did,

just as Jesus did for us on the cross. God bless.

 

[BarlyGurl]

Will... you are free to disagree... however, the questions were intended for the purpose of 1) help OP be certain the incident occured and not have her thinking she was raped if she hadn't been. 2) For future readers' benefit... as I clearly stated I my post. Since you mention my post in your response... seems now is as good a time as any to point out that you are yet another respondent who ignored/glossed over/ is unconcerned that the story is a report of a FELONY CRIME (in the US). I am shocked by the OUTLANDISHLY unbiblcal depiction of "forgiveness" in this scenario. Paige should forgive... we are told to forgive for our sakes... anyone who agrees that forgiveness in this scenario extends to keeping the crime a secret and pardoning the offender has very poor and warped understanding of the scriptures. I do somewhat expect young people to has less accurate understanding, because of your youth... but that does not excuse you if you choose to ignore mature counsel.

 

[Jordache]

Paige, you are to be commended for surviving. It's probably too late, but my advice would have been similar. Pressing charges is not an unforgiving or unChristian thing to do. What happened to you was a violation of your body and soul. It violated man's law and God's law. While it commendable also he confessed and was seemingly repentant, there are consequences for sin. What he did was despicable. You didn't deserve one bit of that treatment. And though he may have been sincerely sorry for his actions, he deserved and needed to pay the penalty for them.
Trauma can make us do funny things even to the point of excusing and forgiving away sin simply because the perpetrator shows remorse. I pray The Lord has done a miraculous work in you, but I also pray that you are not naive. Chances are this is not overwith. Rape is not something you forgive and that's that. There are many broken pieces to deal with. I pray that you place blame correctly and have righteous anger toward that sin if you have not already. I pray that you have the freedom to feel violated and as if a judgement should ensue. I pray for righteous anger and objection if it has been glossed over in fear and naivete.

 

[dreda]

I am also a victim of same experience but mine was almost rape it's just that I managed to escape...However It brought me traumas in my life it took me like 5 years to recover, I guess the process of healing is also necessary...I really appreciate you coz you can forgive easily...You are such one strong woman of God

 

[BrittanyJones]

"Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector."

Not sure where people are getting the bible says to have someone charged and arrested? If you say something is in the bible please, please post it. I could be wrong, but this is all I see.

Also we have NO idea in what way she privately dealt with this as she made it clear that she was not interested in dealing with that subject on this forum and she is not at all obligated before God to tell us.

Thank you for your courage and wisdom to share this story with us to encourage others. I was sexually abused most of my childhood by a family member so I can definitely relate and also comforted by your shared story of following God. Telling people definitely offers freedom in dealing with the issue as friends and family can help you deal and take appropriate measures. Bless you!! <3