Is attraction always deceptive?

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1still_waters

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I have come to despise the feeling of being attracted to someone.

There have been so many.
Oh so many.
That I've been attracted to.

To me attraction seems 100% unreliable.
So unreliable, I don't even want to act it on anymore.
No let me rephrase.

So unreliable, I don't want to feel it anymore.

My sense of attraction has occurred so often, and been wrong so many times, I just want it to go away.
I feel like attraction may be one of the ultimate deceptions for me.

But here's the thing.
What if there is that ONE time attraction will lead me in the right direction

Is attraction always deceptive?
Is it something one can come to trust?
 
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Stephanie

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Depends what you find attractive I guess.

I'm rarely attracted to someone.

There are people who I think are good looking people, but I'm not attracted to them.

The things that attract me to someone is their character, their walk with God, their sense of humor, and that certain unexplainable something. To me it has a lot to do with things like the way they talk and the way they carry themselves too.

Having said that, I have been unexplainably attracted to someone who was just totally wrong.

So is attraction deceptive? It can be. Is it always? No.
 
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nukreation

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I wouldn't ask a girl out if I wasn't attracted to her, but it won't last if there isn't more of a connection than just attraction. Perhaps this sounds superficial but would a girl want me to take her out if I didn't find her attractive?
 
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violakat

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If your looking at attraction through a Worldly set of eyes, then yes, it is deceptive. We think we know deep down in our hearts what we want, but then our hearts deceive us. However, when we turn things over to God and look at it through His eyes, then that is when attraction is not deceptive, because God cannot be deceived, no matter what we try to do or hide from Him.
 
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GRA

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1still_waters said:
I have come to despise the feeling of being attracted to someone.

There have been so many.
Oh so many.
That I've been attracted to.

To me attraction seems 100% unreliable.
So unreliable, I don't even want to act it on anymore.
No let me rephrase.

So unreliable, I don't want to feel it anymore.

My sense of attraction has occurred so often, and been wrong so many times, I just want it to go away.
I feel like attraction may be one of the ultimate deceptions for me.

But here's the thing.
What if there is that ONE time attraction will lead me in the right direction

Is attraction always deceptive?
Is it something one can come to trust?
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Attraction is never supposed to be the ''decision-maker'' - it should only serve as the "attention-getter"... ;)

:)

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Primortal

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Attraction is a gift from God, I mean who wants to marry a troll right? I know I dont wanna wake up and gnaw my arm off to escape the clutches of the hunchback of notre dame....just sayin ;)

I actually experimented with this mindset for myself...and I found myself looking only on the inward heart as a base of attraction...ie morals, ethics, integrity and all that....and I let the physical attraction just not enter the equation...This too is not a good thing as I found myself unable to be intimately attracted to such was the individual at the time.

Its all about balance...as the gentleman stated above....attraction is the attention getter....God's principles and common sense filter out the rest.
 
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zaoman32

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I agree with the guys above, just something to add too, there are many different attributes to attraction. There's physical attraction which I think is the initial attraction to a girl for most guys, but you can also be attracted to someone emotionally, mentally, blah blah blah. There more you find out something you like about someone, the more you'll be attracted to them, but we need to be careful to rest everything in God's hands too. Our bodies and minds create the attraction, but ultimately it's God who develops the bond.
 
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Stephen63

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1still_waters said:
I have come to despise the feeling of being attracted to someone.

There have been so many.
Oh so many.
That I've been attracted to.

To me attraction seems 100% unreliable.
So unreliable, I don't even want to act it on anymore.
No let me rephrase.

So unreliable, I don't want to feel it anymore.

My sense of attraction has occurred so often, and been wrong so many times, I just want it to go away.
I feel like attraction may be one of the ultimate deceptions for me.

But here's the thing.
What if there is that ONE time attraction will lead me in the right direction

Is attraction always deceptive?
Is it something one can come to trust?
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Before I was married, I was attracted to two girls. One went to church in another city, while the other one was right in my church. The weird thing was I learned after-the-fact that both were players. My best friend married the one I met in our church, only to find out she was demon possessed and became a homosexual. He was left with a rebellious son to raise and a great deal of emotional pain. I thought to myself, "this could have been me."
Both of these girls had the ability, if I hadn't been protected by the Lord, to totally destroy myself and the ministry I had. Both were promiscuous, and I didn't know it.
Sometimes I believe we run into situations like this as a trial to test us. Perhaps the Lord is showing you not to trust in your own eyes what you see. If you haven't fell into any of these traps of destruction, thank the Lord for being so good to you. Know that He is the one who kept you from falling.
If this is a trial, then you still have reason to rejoice. At the end of my 'trial', I met the woman that God wanted me to have. It does help one to appreciate what God gives them! :)
 
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1still_waters

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Stephen63 said:
Before I was married, I was attracted to two girls. One went to church in another city, while the other one was right in my church. The weird thing was I learned after-the-fact that both were players. My best friend married the one I met in our church, only to find out she was demon possessed and became a homosexual. He was left with a rebellious son to raise and a great deal of emotional pain. I thought to myself, "this could have been me."
Both of these girls had the ability, if I hadn't been protected by the Lord, to totally destroy myself and the ministry I had. Both were promiscuous, and I didn't know it.
Sometimes I believe we run into situations like this as a trial to test us. Perhaps the Lord is showing you not to trust in your own eyes what you see. If you haven't fell into any of these traps of destruction, thank the Lord for being so good to you. Know that He is the one who kept you from falling.
If this is a trial, then you still have reason to rejoice. At the end of my 'trial', I met the woman that God wanted me to have. It does help one to appreciate what God gives them! :)
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**sniff**
What is that I smell?:O

Why why..it's some great insight from Pastor Stephhhhawwwwn.
 
Stephen63

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Perhaps we haven't heard the whole story....... Were all these women you were attracted to using MacBooks?
If it was, we just found the problem! ;)
 
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1still_waters

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Stephen63 said:
Perhaps we haven't heard the whole story....... Were all these women you were attracted to using MacBooks?
If it was, we just found the problem! ;)
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:O

Tsk tsk tsk tsk.
 
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Jullianna

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I definitely can't top what GRA said, but I have found physical attraction to be far more deceptive than being attracted to the personality traits of a guy.
 
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djness

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at·trac·tion/əˈtrakSHən/
Noun:
The action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something: "the timeless attraction of a good tune".
A quality or feature of something or someone that evokes interest, liking, or desire.
 
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twofeet

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If Johnny Depp came to my door and asked me on a date the answer would be no....here I rest my case
 
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djness

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Stephen63 said:
Before I was married, I was attracted to two girls. One went to church in another city, while the other one was right in my church. The weird thing was I learned after-the-fact that both were players. My best friend married the one I met in our church, only to find out she was demon possessed and became a homosexual. He was left with a rebellious son to raise and a great deal of emotional pain. I thought to myself, "this could have been me."
Both of these girls had the ability, if I hadn't been protected by the Lord, to totally destroy myself and the ministry I had. Both were promiscuous, and I didn't know it.
Sometimes I believe we run into situations like this as a trial to test us. Perhaps the Lord is showing you not to trust in your own eyes what you see. If you haven't fell into any of these traps of destruction, thank the Lord for being so good to you. Know that He is the one who kept you from falling.
If this is a trial, then you still have reason to rejoice. At the end of my 'trial', I met the woman that God wanted me to have. It does help one to appreciate what God gives them! :)
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Given the many examples of demon possesed people in the bible , their ferocious behavior at any given time, how does a demon posessed person attend church regularly, get married and then is one day just ''found out''?
I have never met a person who is posseed nor will i ever hopefully, but it doesn't seem like they just carry on busniness as usual without anyone ever knowing.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Primortal said:
Attraction is a gift from God, I mean who wants to marry a troll right? I know I dont wanna wake up and gnaw my arm off to escape the clutches of the hunchback of notre dame....just sayin ;)
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That's the funny thing about attraction though. The guy who looks like a Ken doll might be a downright jerk, and suddenly... he starts to look pretty doggone ugly, even when you try to justify all his self-centered actions.

On the other hand, the guy with the crooked tooth, messy hair, and lanky walk might not look like an Abercrombie model but you might see that he has a way with kids or prays with people or helps those around him... and you may find yourself pretty smitten.

The Bible says the heart is deceitful above all things... and even Samuel thought he knew which of Jesse's sons would surely be king. Certainly not the runt of the litter who was so overlooked they hadn't even bothered calling him... to them, he was just a little boy out watching sheep.

I don't know if this will help anyone else, but I went through times when I was very attracted to several guys right in a row (and yes, came to dread the feeling as well) and now I'm rarely attracted--sometimes, of course, but not often.

When I asked God what was going on, He told me it was the attention that I was attracted to. The idea of someone paying attention to me... the idea of being a couple... the idea of having someone blow up my phone every five seconds. Ever since I've been praying for the right desires instead of just attention or escape from the boredom of reality, it's been easier.

Not without a lot of rough spots. But I feel "cleaner" in my heart (fewer life-draining attachments) and more at peace.
 
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Davidebee

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well in the first place, attractive means different things to men and women, so ladies, i know you know what attractive means, because you spend so much time in the bathroom getting ready, but i don't think you feel the same things men do, at least when it comes to being attracted to someone. that's a good thing btw.

to answer the question though. God made women attractive in that way to get our attention guys. like flowers are beautiful, and smell nice to attract bees. i think Adam looked at Eve for the first time and said "WOW!" being attracted to someone isn't necessarily a sign from heaven that you should try to get to know them better though. its just a thing, but it is fun when you find someone that is attractive, you are attracted to, and they are attracted to you as well. God made it that way, to be fun :) i think anyway. so no attraction isn't always deceptive.
 
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GreenNnice

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God works through our attracrion, through faith believing in Him. IF attraction is wrong, tge situation is not right, those living in Him will know this a test of some obedience' kind, or, like Job, an 'allowance.' ;)

The Lord léads , our temple is a place for Him, and, if we live with Him in it we aré going to know exactly what to do , what not to do , regarding seeking after an attraction He's placed, surprise!, right b4 our very 'I's.' ;).

Don't worry, stilledwaters, the winks are for no miladies, to no surprise, I's ONLY trying to attract them with my said thoughts :D But, but of course, my atttraction to them is only to get them Mars inhabitants :D to see there attraction is to be in His ways of describing attraction on their heart, in their life and a 'him,' not to coincidentally, will be attracted to them. And their antennaes. :D

Oh, just kidding, right, miladies , I heart you all, with the Love that is of Him :)
 
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GRA

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Jullianna said:
I definitely can't top what GRA said, but I have found physical attraction to be far more deceptive than being attracted to the personality traits of a guy.
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Yes - the personality traits of a person are more 'critical' in the "bigger picture" of relationships. And, that being said, I would also say that physical attraction can be deceptive if it "hides" something in the personality traits that is "undesirable"...

But - "as a rule" - I do not believe that attraction is always deceptive.

:)

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