What does a Gal have to do to get a guy out of the friendzone?

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Jullianna

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djness said:
This is exactly a perfect example of how confusing women are....because you just said this ^^^^^^^^^
when you just said this


Possiblity that it is my perception or I am lacking in understanding but this seems contradictory, I'm open tot he fact I may not be following.

If this isn't a contradiction then I will accept other view points. I am an INFJ as well, and like I said this wouldn't communicate the message properly to any guy i know of, especially after the original poster said the guy has been a friend of this girls for so long, it still seems really like the kind of thing that would fry a guys emotional reasoning wires.
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Nope, not a contradiction. Are you fishing for one? :)

I would not say a word about my feelings at that point.
 
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djness

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Jullianna said:
Nope, not a contradiction. Are you fishing for one? :)

I would not say a word about my feelings at that point.
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I just exploded Julllianna and it is your fault.
All of the kings horses....ALL OF THEM..All of the men!!
 
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fighterace0

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There's never a better substitute than words, especially for a guy. I don't think the getting more physical is a bad idea but it could depend on his personality. Any type of kiss is definitely too far. For some reason tickling has a flirty side.
 
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GreenNnice

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God puts a lot of emphasis on the truth in Scripture, not to mention, He is the truth. Parents deserve the truth, and, any lies whatsoever involved will bring the father of lies who is 'Satan' into that person's life.

Satan loves 'the lie,' he will make it sound like truth, too, and, if you tell lies often, and, then, go with the truth, finally, yoy may already be in the process of being devoured by the 'wolf' as you're crying out but nobody is listening to you. :(
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Hey, smudgeless, what in the world are guys of the world thinking! Never had a guy friend so not in a friendzone expertise role, the Lord leads, follow Him, milady, but, yuh got stephen spielberg videoing qualities, so, don't yuh let no nothing git ya down, patience is virtuous, and, so, be pstient, keep playing with your puppy (from.your video you put up a link a bit ago) , and, waiting on the Lord, He is, simply growing you up, bigger and, bigger in Him, as you do your c.c. studies, and, live quietly in His presence. You take care now, young lady, ya hear :)
 
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Hellooo

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fighterace0 said:
There's never a better substitute than words, especially for a guy. I don't think the getting more physical is a bad idea but it could depend on his personality. Any type of kiss is definitely too far. For some reason tickling has a flirty side.
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Temporarily derailing the thread here..
I know you're talking about guys here but man, anyone who tickles me is begging to be semi-involuntarily punched in the face. I think its a TERRIBLE flirt mechanism, I hate being tickled so much, I don't do it to others.

 
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Hellooo

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My image didn't post, boo..

 
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See_KING_Truth

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If somebody tickles me, I may accidentally hurt somebody. I tend to get very squirmy in such a situation. Tickle at your own risk!
 
zeroturbulence

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Smudge said:
While I'm here, I have a really good friend of mine who may have found the one.

She put him in the friend zone due to many different reasons, some very serious, but one that I can tell you is that she plans to move out of state after she graduates.

But- she is now sure that she wants to go steady with him, but the problem is, she has friend zoned him and while he is still sweet on her, has taken the friend zone hint.

They do lots and lots of things, like bowling or watching movies, together and alone. Everyone knows they like each other, except for him. My friend wants to be a respectable lady and wait for the respectable gentleman to ask her to be his. But he's not getting her hints that she likes him now.

My Dad thinks that she needs to be blunt and honest, just tell the guy that she likes him. I was suggesting that she (not inappropriately) starting hinting in a physical way. Like holding his hand or poking his shoulder.

Buuut, I never have been in a relationship- I have no idea how to get a guy out of the friend zone. I always thought it was a place girls put guys permanently- but maybe it's a self fulfilling prophecy? Girls put them there, perhaps forever but not always, but the guy thinks it's forever and gives up on ever trying to make advances so the girl gives eventually up- thinking he doesn't like her(in that way) anymore?

I wish our culture promoted verbal honesty. So you could just tell people how you feel about them, for better or for worse, and not have to worry about hurting anyone's feelings. This is probably why I'm still single, I've always hated mind games.
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Ok, seriously now..

If she doesn't come right out and tell him that she's interested in being more than friends he will probably never figure it out.

When she tries to tell it to him non-verbally he will think she's just being sweet and/or just enjoying the moment.

 
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GreenNnice

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Like zere said, in so many words, 9 out of 10 guys surveyedcof this wouod be clueless and need a clue from a girl who THINKS he has been friend-zoned; holding out a hand is a good idea as julieannie or someone said, but do it AFTER you see a SPARK of something from whst I like to call 'just talking.' The Lord leads :)

Moving on...Or, backpeddaling, if you will...

I did a thread sone time ago on guy needing to make first move in a chance encounter, and, that 'move' is telling girl he is a Jesus perso, subtly, or, flat-out but he needs to MOVE in that way!! :)

Now, in this 'friendy' situation, it is PAST that initial attraction and encounter, so, the being friends is a real different deal. Best to pray about it, of course, because God has all our answers, and, being friend-zoned and PRAYING for it to change, , my opinion, is best kind of situation for something else, love and.....carriage ;)
0f course, marriage before carriage :)
 
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Jullianna

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We went from holding someone's hand to tackling, tickling and physical contact. :eek: This explains a lot. :)
 
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Catlynn

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haha

I'm very pro-open honesty. But maybe that's just me....

I vote: Tell him. Plain and simple. Maybe also include the things you noticed and admired which made you change your mind as well. ;)
 
seekingg

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your friend should SURPRISES kiss him. No matter what he will never forget it. Somebody is gonna kiss him , you snooze you lose.
 
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