No disrespect to Jordache or Soteria but I think we have in our culture managed to psychologize sin. Father fractures and parental wounds aside recognize that homosexuality is sin. Sure cultural circumstances play some roles in the sins we are more inclined to commit(a guy from the ghetto more likely to sell drugs or kill than a suburban guy). That,however, has no impact on the main issue sin. Sin is not dealt with through getting to the root of the psychological factors. Do you know why? Because you were forged in iniquity and born in sin. Whatever the sin you are more inclined to commit has it's root in your true nature which is sinful to the core. How do we overcome this? Repentance and faith in Christ. I've bee where you've been. I spend 12 years as a bisexual struggling with gender identity, but ultimately the saving grace of God overpowered me. I am not saying that the struggle with same sex attraction is not pervasive and is not a consistently fought battle but the grace of God is sufficient to overcome. that is my preface.
Heres a little lesson from Paul the apostle. Paul often writes his epistles like a lawyer. He lays out the indicatives and then the imperatives. The indicatives always come first. Why? Because the imperatives rely on the indicatives. Indicatives(if you don't know) focus on who we are. Imperatives focus on what we should do in light of who we re. So firstly we must be in Christ. I can give you some practical things to try to overcome in your battle with homosexuality but if you are not in Christ it doesn't matter. because you are in Christ you have dominion over sin. You have the capacity to mortify the deeds of the flesh. Deny yourself. Take up your cross. Crucify the flesh. To rest on the sufficiency of Christ's grace. you must take stock of who you are in Christ. surround yourself with loving believers who understand the battle that comes with Same Sex Attraction and will stand with you to strengthen you for the sake of Christ.[/QUOTE
I really empathise with people who have this struggle because I believe it can be a lonely and confusing experience.
All I can say is that if you have these feelings and thoughts :RESIST them in the power of the Holy Spirit!
I believe that homosexuality is a choice.After a few experiences with the same gender a habit is formed and it later becomes ingrained.It can be very difficult later on to break free from the lifestyle - which I have observed firsthand ,is damaging and destructive.
I also think that the enemy will tempt us in our areas of weakness - which make things even harder.
Brother, try to seek out a prayer partner who can hold you accountable and wrestle with God on this one.
There is too much at stake!
Below is a link to a sermon by a pastor I believe to be a faithful, thorough and accurate expositer of Gods word.I suggest you have a listen and be sure you are seeing this issue from Gods perspective.
Will be praying for you.Take courage!
Thinking Biblically About Homosexuality