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huh.. I imagine if it is just a joke between best friends, but then they turn out not married by that age, and both of them remember that silly pact, then as we grow older, some of us could be very realistic and silly and decide "hey, we are best friends for so many years, why not get married?"
I probably could live with that
if not, I'm still not getting any cat
I probably could live with that
if not, I'm still not getting any cat
Although I can sympathize with the feelings behind forming such a pact, I think it's a bad idea (or, at least it would be a bad idea in my case).
I don't think I could handle an apathetic marriage, neither would I want to be anyone's consolation prize after they lost the metaphorical gameshow.....I'd rather stay single.
Kinda makes me think of the "be thou either hot or cold" verse.....Apparently God doesn't like lukewarm love, either.
I don't think I could handle an apathetic marriage, neither would I want to be anyone's consolation prize after they lost the metaphorical gameshow.....I'd rather stay single.
Kinda makes me think of the "be thou either hot or cold" verse.....Apparently God doesn't like lukewarm love, either.
I most definitely agree. You M'lady are a God-send.
You brought up a point that I couldn't quite remember, or at least I had thought of. Felt but had no words for.
I guess the reason I feel so irreverent about online dating, is because I feel like it was never anyone's first choice. Its as if they have given on up whoever or whatever relationships they have known, (or they are broken hearted) and now, they are simply placing themselves in the Online Meet Market, for whims and wishes of whoever the highest bidder is.
I can't fight for a consolation prize. And frankly, this is why I don't like the Volvo/Settling threads either.
You brought up a point that I couldn't quite remember, or at least I had thought of. Felt but had no words for.
I guess the reason I feel so irreverent about online dating, is because I feel like it was never anyone's first choice. Its as if they have given on up whoever or whatever relationships they have known, (or they are broken hearted) and now, they are simply placing themselves in the Online Meet Market, for whims and wishes of whoever the highest bidder is.
I can't fight for a consolation prize. And frankly, this is why I don't like the Volvo/Settling threads either.
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that is warped thinking... sorry brother gotta tell ya. While you are not required to use the internet dating... your attitude is defeatist and disordered.
1) you are a MAN... it is man's job to woo/pursue/win woman and that requires some effort from the man... real effort. That also means there SHOULD BE a degree of competition in the beginning of pursuit to initially obtain the consent of exclusivity from the woman... moving toward marriage. The MAN is supposed to LEAD the relationship from the get go and initiate the EXCLUSIVITY phase. When a woman says YES to becoming exclusive at your request... you have just become her first choice. I don't quite get where you are gathering your "inadequacy" for not being #1 Choice that is your thinking problem... and has no basis in reality... change your defeatist thinking... adjust program... get new results...simple.
2) I Truly believe if you adjust your thinking (see above) that you will realize fighting for an available woman is NOT fighting for a consolation prize. NO woman wants to be considered the consolation prize... and the woman you desire isn't going to SWING WIDE the doors to her heart and soul until you demonstrate you are serious, intentional and sincere... basically PROVE yourself.
I totally agree that there are MANY PEOPLE out there who are habitual window shoppers and totally content to trade an internet social live for something as reverent, meaningful and fullfilling as marriage. I can sum those people up for you... SELFISH, IMMATURE, COWARDLY and NARCISSISTIC... pick one or any combination of. You will have to weed thru those people regardless of the social venue you use.
1) you are a MAN... it is man's job to woo/pursue/win woman and that requires some effort from the man... real effort. That also means there SHOULD BE a degree of competition in the beginning of pursuit to initially obtain the consent of exclusivity from the woman... moving toward marriage. The MAN is supposed to LEAD the relationship from the get go and initiate the EXCLUSIVITY phase. When a woman says YES to becoming exclusive at your request... you have just become her first choice. I don't quite get where you are gathering your "inadequacy" for not being #1 Choice that is your thinking problem... and has no basis in reality... change your defeatist thinking... adjust program... get new results...simple.
2) I Truly believe if you adjust your thinking (see above) that you will realize fighting for an available woman is NOT fighting for a consolation prize. NO woman wants to be considered the consolation prize... and the woman you desire isn't going to SWING WIDE the doors to her heart and soul until you demonstrate you are serious, intentional and sincere... basically PROVE yourself.
I totally agree that there are MANY PEOPLE out there who are habitual window shoppers and totally content to trade an internet social live for something as reverent, meaningful and fullfilling as marriage. I can sum those people up for you... SELFISH, IMMATURE, COWARDLY and NARCISSISTIC... pick one or any combination of. You will have to weed thru those people regardless of the social venue you use.
Online Dating? Not his first choice.
I guess, I'll sign up for ChristianMingle.
Mighty bodies of water cannot extinguish love, rivers cannot put it out. If a man were to give all the wealth of his house for love, he would surely be viewed with contempt. Song of Solomon 8:7
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 (Call me Ahab)
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Philippians 4:8 (why settle for a life without this?)
I will not settle and be like a Don Quixote, to look like a fool for pouring his heart into a relationship with a woman who does not have the capacity or understanding to grasp the value of what Love really means. I have made that mistake once and once is enough. It cannot be artificially created by proximity or choice. It simply is or it is not. It can't be forced or coerced. There is no deception that can lead to love. There is no trick or easy route or website that can promise love.
I know what love is. I've been there before. There is no replacement for being there, its not infatuation or passion or emotion, its belonging. Its like being home.
I guess, I'll sign up for ChristianMingle.
Mighty bodies of water cannot extinguish love, rivers cannot put it out. If a man were to give all the wealth of his house for love, he would surely be viewed with contempt. Song of Solomon 8:7
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Proverbs 31:10 (Call me Ahab)
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. Philippians 4:8 (why settle for a life without this?)
I will not settle and be like a Don Quixote, to look like a fool for pouring his heart into a relationship with a woman who does not have the capacity or understanding to grasp the value of what Love really means. I have made that mistake once and once is enough. It cannot be artificially created by proximity or choice. It simply is or it is not. It can't be forced or coerced. There is no deception that can lead to love. There is no trick or easy route or website that can promise love.
I know what love is. I've been there before. There is no replacement for being there, its not infatuation or passion or emotion, its belonging. Its like being home.
*Takes a bow*
Ha, no, seriously, I see what you're saying......but I also know that people are very different and have very different approaches to life and love. I don't mind Volvo/Settling threads, because I know that one man's "settling" is another man's ideal relationship.
Personally, I'm not much for the online Meet Market, either....I've never joined a dating site and never intend to do so. I'm really not much for dating in real life, either, though......I'm just trying to live my life the way God wants me to live it, and be where He wants me to be. I do hope that His plan for me includes marriage, but not to the extent that I'm willing to be with someone who feels that ending up with me would be "settling"......and I don't think it would be fair for me to do that to another person, either.
I'm no unicorn hunter. I know that nobody's perfect. I'm not holding out for perfection, I'm holding out for God's best. Anything less would be a disservice to God, me, AND the person I "settled" for, because apathetic love holds no appeal to me. However, perhaps some people are more comfortable with a degree of apathy in their relationships, and that isn't necessarily wrong. The world can only handle but so many hopeless romantics.
Ha, no, seriously, I see what you're saying......but I also know that people are very different and have very different approaches to life and love. I don't mind Volvo/Settling threads, because I know that one man's "settling" is another man's ideal relationship.
Personally, I'm not much for the online Meet Market, either....I've never joined a dating site and never intend to do so. I'm really not much for dating in real life, either, though......I'm just trying to live my life the way God wants me to live it, and be where He wants me to be. I do hope that His plan for me includes marriage, but not to the extent that I'm willing to be with someone who feels that ending up with me would be "settling"......and I don't think it would be fair for me to do that to another person, either.
I'm no unicorn hunter. I know that nobody's perfect. I'm not holding out for perfection, I'm holding out for God's best. Anything less would be a disservice to God, me, AND the person I "settled" for, because apathetic love holds no appeal to me. However, perhaps some people are more comfortable with a degree of apathy in their relationships, and that isn't necessarily wrong. The world can only handle but so many hopeless romantics
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