I say: Some of the most gorgeous women out there don't really know what they've got in front of their eyes. Then I tell them I'm joking.
Why Aren't You Married?
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GRA
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How this statement "comes across" to a man (a single man, especially) is often something like:
"You had better keep me happy, or I am going to make your life miserable."
This is not love. This is not happiness. This is a threat. And, based on a man's perspective:
"Just trying to keep her happy is sometimes enough - in of itself - to keep him miserable. It is no wonder why men run from it, screaming..."
This 'equation' is most certainly not in line with the "proverbs 31 woman" approach to married life.
A more correct 'equation' would be something like:
Right-With-God-Husband-Who-Accepts-God-Given-Responsibility-And-Is-Doing-What-God-Wants-Him-To-Do + Right-With-God-Wife-Who-Accepts-God-Given-Responsibility-And-Is-Doing-What-God-Wants-Her-To-Do = Happy-Couple-Who-Share-God-Given-Blessing-And-Contentment-Together
Self-happiness comes from a proper relationship with God. Marital-happiness comes from what is shared in a relationship between husband and wife.
Self-happiness must come from a proper relationship with God. Marital-happiness must come from what is shared in a relationship between husband and wife.
You cannot mix the two. Each has its own proper place...
Each spouse has a 'private' relationship with God - as a person.
The husband and wife are also "as one" before God - as a couple.
The husband and wife have a relationship with each other - as a couple.
'HAPPY WIFE = HAPPY LIFE' is of the Devil. It is one-sided. It is self-serving. It defeats the God-given role directives for both husband and wife. It is one of the best tools Satan has for destroying a marriage.
True happiness can never come from the other spouse. A part of it comes from self and a part of it comes from what is shared between husband and wife.
Not the husband. Not the wife. It takes both.
The happiness is in "the sharing of two hearts together" - it does not come "from the other" - it comes from "sharing with the other"...
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How this statement "comes across" to a man (a single man, especially) is often something like:
"You had better keep me happy, or I am going to make your life miserable."
This is not love. This is not happiness. This is a threat. And, based on a man's perspective:
"Just trying to keep her happy is sometimes enough - in of itself - to keep him miserable. It is no wonder why men run from it, screaming..."
This 'equation' is most certainly not in line with the "proverbs 31 woman" approach to married life.
A more correct 'equation' would be something like:
Right-With-God-Husband-Who-Accepts-God-Given-Responsibility-And-Is-Doing-What-God-Wants-Him-To-Do + Right-With-God-Wife-Who-Accepts-God-Given-Responsibility-And-Is-Doing-What-God-Wants-Her-To-Do = Happy-Couple-Who-Share-God-Given-Blessing-And-Contentment-Together
Self-happiness comes from a proper relationship with God. Marital-happiness comes from what is shared in a relationship between husband and wife.
Self-happiness must come from a proper relationship with God. Marital-happiness must come from what is shared in a relationship between husband and wife.
You cannot mix the two. Each has its own proper place...
Each spouse has a 'private' relationship with God - as a person.
The husband and wife are also "as one" before God - as a couple.
The husband and wife have a relationship with each other - as a couple.
'HAPPY WIFE = HAPPY LIFE' is of the Devil. It is one-sided. It is self-serving. It defeats the God-given role directives for both husband and wife. It is one of the best tools Satan has for destroying a marriage.
True happiness can never come from the other spouse. A part of it comes from self and a part of it comes from what is shared between husband and wife.
Not the husband. Not the wife. It takes both.
The happiness is in "the sharing of two hearts together" - it does not come "from the other" - it comes from "sharing with the other"...
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I want to like this post, like, 17 times.
Crimson_Lark, I would NEVER, NEVER, EVER, give you the slightest inclination that you are normal........ Besides, who would believe me?
How this statement "comes across" to a man (a single man, especially) is often something like:
"You had better keep me happy, or I am going to make your life miserable."
This is not love. This is not happiness. This is a threat. And, based on a man's perspective:
"Just trying to keep her happy is sometimes enough - in of itself - to keep him miserable. It is no wonder why men run from it, screaming..."
This 'equation' is most certainly not in line with the "proverbs 31 woman" approach to married life.
A more correct 'equation' would be something like:
Right-With-God-Husband-Who-Accepts-God-Given-Responsibility-And-Is-Doing-What-God-Wants-Him-To-Do + Right-With-God-Wife-Who-Accepts-God-Given-Responsibility-And-Is-Doing-What-God-Wants-Her-To-Do = Happy-Couple-Who-Share-God-Given-Blessing-And-Contentment-Together
Self-happiness comes from a proper relationship with God. Marital-happiness comes from what is shared in a relationship between husband and wife.
Self-happiness must come from a proper relationship with God. Marital-happiness must come from what is shared in a relationship between husband and wife.
You cannot mix the two. Each has its own proper place...
Each spouse has a 'private' relationship with God - as a person.
The husband and wife are also "as one" before God - as a couple.
The husband and wife have a relationship with each other - as a couple.
'HAPPY WIFE = HAPPY LIFE' is of the Devil. It is one-sided. It is self-serving. It defeats the God-given role directives for both husband and wife. It is one of the best tools Satan has for destroying a marriage.
True happiness can never come from the other spouse. A part of it comes from self and a part of it comes from what is shared between husband and wife.
Not the husband. Not the wife. It takes both.
The happiness is in "the sharing of two hearts together" - it does not come "from the other" - it comes from "sharing with the other"...
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Im sorry you took my post as me actually believing that. It was actually a sarcastic joke. I thought you have interacted with me enough on here to realize I don't believe this way
Truth is without God in the relationship you won't have much happiness.
Yet some men don't know how to look past the physical and really get to know a lady.
Soem men may not want to persue a woman because she is not considered attractive according to society, and in turn get with a woman who is attractive in the physical sense without getting to know the real beauty they have. They're only with them for looks.
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Donkeyfish07
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I don't disagree with that but would you really want to be with a man that didn't think you were attractive?
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GRA
Guest
Beauty is different in everyone's eyes. While someone may find me attractive there is some out there that may think I am a dog. Everyone has positive and negative features.
To be honest, now that I am older my preferences have changed. If a man cannot look past my physical appearance to get to know the real me then they're not worth my time. Ive always thought that a good hearted person is what makes someone really attractive. A kind smile, gentle touch, compassionate...That is beauty to me.
As Phil Robertson from Duck Dynasty said "Makeup can cover up alot of evil."
Of course, now that I have typed all this I was just reminded of something my boyfriend told me last week. He informed me I have beautiful eyes, and he never noticed that before. We have been together since November, and NOW he notices I have eyes. lol
I quote many things in reference to whatever subject I am discussing. Doesn't mean I believe or support it.
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GRA
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I just tell them I'm waiting on the right one, and I tell people that the one is worth the wait. I've told the Lord many times I don't have to date a lot of men, Lord, I just want the one you have for me.
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GRA
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My first question would not be:
"Why Aren't You Married?"
Instead, it would probably be:
"Have you ever been married?"
(i.e., single or divorced)
My answers to the title question:
"I have not found her yet."
"We have not found each other yet."
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Tintin
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Another thing is that I've often been told, "Christian, you're a great guy but you're not boyfriend material." I don't know what that means because I'm not a walking mat.
A friend of mine reminded me of something. Love is a choice. Yes, attraction is a factor, but even then you're choosing your attraction. You choose to love, like, treat well, or treat horribly someone (including yourself).
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BarlyGurl
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>>>>"you're a great guy but you're not boyfriend material."<<<<<
I shouldn't think any Man would want to be boyfriend material.... be HUSBAND material.
I shouldn't think any Man would want to be boyfriend material.... be HUSBAND material.
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Tintin
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GRA
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It is actually easy to do this while keeping the "bubble" -- just remove the latter part(s) of the tag:
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[QUOTE=BarlyGurl]BarlyGurl said:
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Ugly
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I'm 37 and rarely get asked this. Best way i've found to avoid being asked is to simply stay home, have no friends. That way, no one knows me well enough to ask me stupid questions. 
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BarlyGurl
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You have to be a boyfriend before you can become a husband. Don't try to over think it.
No You don't.... silly. If a man wants a wife... why would you even concern yourself with a female who doesn't even think you are boyfriend material
.. unless that is the new code phrase for "I don't think you are husband material so no thanks" and I don't know ???? Gee... just because a woman thinks you would be a great husband... doesn't mean she means "FOR HER" or that you are suddenly obligated to to be HERS. Sheesh... relax 