are todays Christian women/men really any diffent??

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JGPS

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There is no valid reason to assume he did anything well nor is there any reason to assume he did poorly. If they cheated on him they did a clear and clean cut wrong which there is no excuse for. Whatever happened, he was wronged. If he wasn't a guy there's be an outcry of support for him. Because he is a guy people find it socially acceptable to blame him even without any evidence of wrongdoing.

You know next to nothing about his process in choosing someone. What you do know is that he looked for what should be generally good characteristics of churchgoing and bible study. You also know next to nothing about his behaviour in these marriages. A decently reasonable individual would assume nothing, neither that he did wrong nor that he did right. That's called good sense. You're common sense defaults to being accusatory and quite malicious. Your sense is not, however, realism. Decent realism takes pains to avoid snap judgment.
 
Nautilus

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uh no common sense says after three strikes perhaps you start looking at yourself and not questioning if its something wrong with christian women in general...
 
JGPS

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Stick with your common sense, it will get you as far as it gets other common people... Good sense would say that when someone claims to ascribe to a certain system of values and brashly violates it while continuing to claim that system the problem is on their end. If he runs into multiple people with that same problem its pretty legitimate to ask weather people actually care to live by what they say they believe.
 
Nautilus

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Or perhaps ask why he didn't learn his lesson the first time? I mean sitting in a church makes you just as christian as sitting in my garage makes me a car. So perhaps these women did fool him, still three times?
 
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You're still running blame the victim on him...
 
Nautilus

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im saying he is saying it was all them...and i dont believe it. i think he had his fair share in the reasons his wives all cheated and left
 
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I made them cheat? so what your saying is they Cam go to the lord and point at me and say..."he made me do it"...or if he hadn't of did this or that I wouldn't have cheated!"......lol....ok bro!
 
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My first wife left in a week and said...she made a mistake, she wasn't ready....that's my fault?....

My second wife was getting drink at work at her familiar restaurant and while closing the store invited men in and had sex in the restroom....that's my fault?...my third wife said she doesn't believe in headship after saying she did and stated..."I'm going to cheat to get out of this marriage and god will forgive me because I don't want to be married!.....that's my fault?...no bro....no...was it my fault she spit in my face because she was angry about me saying I think we should split up? Was it my fault she punched me because I told her very disrespectful friend to leave my house?...yea...I MADE her do it...I'm at fault! Lol...
 
Nautilus

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Maybe you werent fully providing for them...i dont know, but I dont believe you're innocent of blame
 
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Poor kid...you'll learn..lol
 
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Personally, I think everyone should have to audit 5 days of divorce court before being given a marriage license. And while it's true the OP was the common denominator, there are a lot of women who, once you slip that ring on, get some kind of gold poisoning or something and change markedly. No offense intended ladies, but I've watched it happen over and over again with my friends. That's why my girl and I knew each other for 12 years and thru other relationships before we talked about marriage. It's nothing to be jumped into!

As for sinning Christians, there is a large mindset that having "bought fire insurance", what they do has no real consequence. They will find with their first breath on the other side that they are sadly mistaken.
 
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Satan accuses of sin to bring guilt and death. The Holy Spirit convicts of sin to bring repentance and life. We do not need to go looking for sin; it will find the sinner out. As we relate to people in love, the Holy Spirit will bring up sin at the RIGHT TIME - for the purpose of repentance and healing. Satan will want to bring sin up at any time, real and imagined

That said, how can we infer the existence of sins that are not clearly stated in the post? Sin in the church comes out by the work of the Holy Spirit as we relate to people in love. No speculative witch hunts are necessary. Sin will find the sinner out.

We ought not declare Rillolion (or anyone else) innocent for the same reason we do not declare anyone guilty - we have no authority to make EITHER pronouncement - that is not our role. Though there are many beloved brothers in torment who will not be healed until their sin is exposed and repented of, we still may not go speculating about what we do not know.

Remember Job's counselors? Their descriptions of God were scripturally accurate (their descriptions of God ARE scripture) yet their counsel was counted as sin because they were unaware of the spiritual reality revealed in chapters one and two. The Holy Spirit does not need our help in the area of revealing sin. Satan, however, is always looking for extra help.
 
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Nautilus said:
Maybe you werent fully providing for them...i dont know, but I dont believe you're innocent of blame
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This only amounts to you being a fairly nasty individual when push comes to shove Naut.


Though actual Tdrew made the point I'm trying to make much better than I could have.

Well said Tdrew.
 
Nautilus

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I just dont like people skewing the facts to get themselves a pity party
 
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No facts are skewed....now what@ nautilus...
 
Nautilus

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says one of the two parties in the dissolved marriages. If you were a third outside source then maybe. But until one of your ex's shows up and is like 'nope just cheated to cheat' I reserve my right to question the presented information.
 
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rillolion

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"thou shall not commit adultery unless thou hadst a good reason"

Nautilus 3:25


Lol
 
Nautilus

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im not saying her adultery was right, but i doubt if it was a good marriage she would have done it
 
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rillolion

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So your saying if a person has a good marriage they won't cheat?.....lol this coming from someone having never been married! Lol...people don't sin on the basis of the external environment....sin comes from the heart...did Adam and eve violate because the weather was bad in paradise ??? Lol are you a Christian bro?
 
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