I'm getting confused with thoughts about bisexuality. help ??

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dashadow

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As usual, there has been some good advice along with some nonsense. The fact is, we can't always control what pops into our minds. But as some have suggested, it's best to avoid looking at material that evokes unwanted thoughts.

Being careful of those we associate with is another important point. I believe it's important to love all people regardless of lifestyle. That doesn't mean I'm willing to find their lifestyle acceptable to my own beliefs. Nor does it mean I have to be friends with them. But I don't judge them or put them down either. The choices they make are between them and God.

I think the most important point is developing a closer walk with God. We often overestimate the power we have to overcome a challenge and underestimate the importance of putting it in God's hands, spiritually speaking or course.

I think Elizabeth619 made an excellent point. You're going through a tough patch in your development, the teenage years. So take what sound advice you receive and do the best you can and let God do the rest. Don't be too hard on yourself. Anxiety tends to breed more problems. When I feel particularly anxious I fast and pray. But that's just me. I'm not trying to advise you in that regard.

I pray all works out well for you.
 
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Well swag I wont tell you what to do. all I will say is pray talk to god dont trust mankind trust only god put your faith in him. talk to god about everything as if he where ur closest friend. from my point of view you'll be fine and should be glad that it was only gay porn and lesbain kissing you saw. I have walked a much darker path which has screwd me up pretty bad but I rejoice the fact you woke up in time to stop. The only advice i can give you is talk to god trust him he is your highest priority if u keep your thoughts only on him and his works you should be fine. good luck and congrats on ur 16th
 
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I would suggest that you can interpret the bible in many different ways, leviticus says many things, however I doubt anyone on this forum looks too carefully at what clothe they are wearing, and Im sure they still cut their hair, don't worry if you are having thoughts like that, whether you disagree is up to you, however I would ask you to think about what the bible says and if you want to take it at total base value, there are passages which talk about the logistics of buying and selling slaves, keep an open mind. - Voiceofreason :)
 
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When it comes to the Bible, the moral law from the Old Testament did not change in the NT and is still relevant even in our times. God does not create anyone ''gay'' or homosexual. It is a choice and is possibly psychological in nature. As for Sodom, yes, it was destroyed because of homosexuality that was the top thing besides all the other sins mentioned. As for loving others yes, we do need to do that, but when God says something is a sin, it is a sin. Love the sinner but hate the sin. As Christians we are called not to be of the world but in the world and to follow God's commandments including loving others. As for the ceremonial law which had to do with piercings, hair, and food that was for a time and if you do not want to follow that part it is fine. But, the moral law remains the same. Paul talks about homosexuality being sinful in Romans 1:24-28, Peter talks about it being sinful in 2 Peter 2:4-10, even Jesus talks about Sodom and Gomorrah in Matthew 10:15, etc. Scripture interprets scripture. A final verse I will mention is in Jude.

Jude 1:6-7
"And the angels who did not keep their positions of authority but abandoned their proper dwelling---these he has kept in darkness bound with everlasting chains for judgment on the great Day. In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire."

You may have these thoughts, but they are unnatural. I have had thoughts about men (twice or thrice), but just because someone has those thoughts does not mean that one is homosexual, bisexual, etc. When you have these thoughts, rebuke them in the name of Jesus, listen to some music that keep these thoughts from causing you to think strange, read your Bible and focus on it, ask believers to pray for you, and give these thoughts into God's hands. For resources on this I recommend Exodus International (www.exodusinternational.org) Living Hope Ministeries (www.livehope.org), and also a video that you can get at the Hope for Wholeness site (www.hopeforwholeness.com). Pray to God that he would help you with these thoughts. God bless and remember God is in control! P.S. As for having an open mind, it is dangerous. It is better to have it as closed as possible but not all the way closed.
 
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swagglestar214

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Thank you for your help :) Your answer makes me feel better
 
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swagglestar214

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Im just tired of living in a world where our generation thinks its completely normal and okay..They support it and think youre hateful and homophobic because you think the same gender doing unnatural acts of sex is morally wrong..its like theyre blinded and some use the saying, being gay is not a sin, God loves gays. Which is true, but he doesnt love their sinful, lustful acts. Ive heard of some kids as young as seven saying theyre gay and it makes me sick. No wonder i may have these bad thoughts at times, because Im bombarded with the society where homosexuality is okay and that they should have the right to marry because love is love. Heck, next things you know it man will marry his dog or father will marry his daughter because you know love is love..So many people are blinded and very few are against it. Some so called Christians are for it..
 
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hattiebod

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swagglestar214

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lol wow.. o_O that's just beyond ridiculous.
 
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Gamergurl

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I know how you feel. Your not alone. :/
 
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JamesRon

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I am a Christian and a 15 year old girl who's turning 16 on Valentine's day which is like a week away. Anyways lately and the past year I've been getting very occasional thoughts about kissing a pretty girl and getting inappropriate thoughts about the same gender which I know is a sin. These thoughts are intrusive and unwanted but they just randomly pop up in my head at times if I see a pretty girl who's dressed indecently or whatever. I don't want to be bisexual. I do want to have a husband and kids one day and I don't like getting these thoughts. I don't claim myself as one but I'm starting to get confused into thinking I could be maybe one because I have occasional thoughts about it. However, there is a sweet guy friend who's a Christian that I do really like and I've liked him for 2 years and counting. So I do have attraction to the opposite gender but why am I getting these unwanted thoughts? I don't want gay porn or do any of that gross stuff and I can't really imagine myself in a relationship with a girl or kissing one. Juts sounds weird and sinful to me. I just don't understand why I'm getting these thoughts. Like one girl who went to my school I really admired her beauty and her personality and I thought about stuff like kissing her then I was just like ughh, why am I thinking that?? She left my school and I don't think about her at all unless her names pops up in a conversation or something. Is this normal? I'm scared that I'll get these same gender thoughts when I'm older which I do NOT want to happen at all. This is causing me to be very confused and worried. I just hope It's a phase. Is the devil attacking my mind or something. I was raised in a stable home with a Christian mom but my dad was atheist but has good moral values. I had never been raped or assaulted or any of that. When I was younger though like when I was 9 or younger I wished I was a boy idk why. Then when I was 10 I was curious and look up videos of lesbians kissing and stuff and to this day I regret doing that so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. I know in today's society we're bombarded with the gay lifestyle and everybody seems to support it. Also, my brother is currently gay. He's 23 now but used to be a Christian. When he was younger he struggled with those thoughts and started to experiment with it and thought he was bisexual. He had a girlfriend for 3 years then broke up with her because she cheated on him then he decided to be gay then keeps saying he was gay all that long which I harldy believe being he had a intimate relationship with his girlfriend. Now he admits in watching gay porn and having sexual relationships with other men and one time I accidently saw gay men porn on his laptop when I was 13 . So I don't know if that has anything to do with my bad thoughts like that now. I admit my relationship with God hasn't been close lately. I asked this type of question on yahoo answers and I basically just got secular answers to be proud of who I am and to experiment which is NOT what I want to do. Have you struggled with these thoughts? Do these thoughts mean I'm bisexual or something?? Advice please from a Christian perspective
Hey! I saw this post and noticed that u needed some help. God is great and all but he's not totally going to help u until u understand what exactly is going on here. What you are suffering from is a part of generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder. It's something called HOCD and you are not a lesbian/gay. If u are, there's nothing wrong with it, but you are not since you do not enjoy these thoughts. If you were, you would definitely enjoy and encourage these thoughts. And your fears wouldn't consist of you becoming gay, but would consist of what people thought about you after you've TOLD them you are. Just look it up! There are tons suffering from the same thing. Medication isn't the answer, but I definitely recommend using "the linden method". If you do the linden method self therapy you will rid yourself of these thoughts, I promise. The key is to not let them bother I, as hard as that seems, and eventually u will reprogram your brain to not taking the thoughts as dangerous because they don't matter and are untrue and eventually they will go away. God is in your side, but u also need knowledge as well. You'll be just fine!!! :)
 
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swagglestar214

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@jamesron , wait..why is everything considered a disorder? so now i may have ocd and anxiety? etc..I don't really get anxiety. I'm a pretty calm person. But the thought of maybe having disorders doesn't appeal to me even though I think certain disorders don't really exist.
 

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I don't desire these thoughts..these are thoughts that just randomly pop up in my head and then I start thinking.."What in the world is wrong with me?" Am I a creep or something?" I don't imagine myself in a relationship with a girl or kissing one. I don't even really like much kissing girls on the cheek as a greeting that people in Latin cultures do. If it was a cute guy, then I don't mint that. You think it;s the devil sending thoughts of confusion in my mind to attack me and make me miserable? That's what I feel like that it could be the devil. I bet most girls that are straight never had these type of thoughts..I wish I was one of those girls..Idk why I had to get these thoughts..I think my problem is that I've admired some female celebrities or girls in the past that are pretty and I just really admire them and I mistaken it thinking I have a crush on them and I could be bi..Then I start getting worried then I over think to the point of tears.
It's probably because you're sexual nature is relatively new and your mind is learning how to deal with it. If you're not attracted to the opposite sex, then you're not gay or bisexual. Sometimes our minds can have awkward thoughts. You just need time to get it under control. Don't be confused.
 
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Careen

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you have to beware !
don't be deceived by devil
Devil want you fight with God !
But God saves us! Died on the cross because our greater sin!
HIS GRACE IS GREATER THAN OUR SIN
BISEXUAL IS A
SPIRIT FROM DEVIL, YOU NEED FIND YOUR PASTOR IN CHURCH TO HELP YOU
NEED MORE PRAY, READ THE SCRIPTURE EVERYDAY
ONLY CHRIST CAN HELP YOU , IF YOU ARE BELIEVE IN HIM
HE WILL NOT FORSAKE YOU !
 
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Joh 8:42 Jesus said unto them, If God were your Father, ye would love me: for I proceeded forth and came from God; neither came I of myself, but he sent me.
Joh 8:43 Why do ye not understand my speech? even because ye cannot hear my word.
Joh 8:44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Joh 8:45 And because I tell you the truth, ye believe me not.
Joh 8:46 Which of you convinceth me of sin? And if I say the truth, why do ye not believe me?
Joh 8:47 He that is of God heareth God's words: ye therefore hear them not, because ye are not of God.