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It may not be His "job", even though He did bring Eve to Adam (Gen 2:22), but He brought me to Anna and Anna to me. So He does do it sometimes.
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kenisyes
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I appreciate your point, but it is NOT God's will for everyone to marry. Jesus says so in Matt. 19:12. Your point is well taken, that it is just plain stupid to wait for God to bring someone to you. Unless God tells you not to, you should go out and look, and meet people. This is also important so you can decide what kind of Christian partner you want and would be comfortable with your call, and you with theirs. If you are one of the people Jesus speaks about, God will show you quickly enough.
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Nuns_n_roses
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Nuns...I think many people in general (not just christians) deal with how you feel. Unfortunately those are never good reasons to start a relationship,or go down the road to marriage. (which you obviously know) Sometimes you can end up feeling alone even worse when your with someone if it's not ordained by God...heck,I've even known strong christian couples that have had times in their marriage where they've felt terribly alone. As always,everything comes down to just daily giving our hearts & minds over to God more & more. Easier said than done,I know. Thank God,we are all works in progress. I worry,the day I wake up & feel as though I've "arrived" & think I've got all the answers...lol surely my ruin will be just around the corner that day.
You're right, companionship is not really a good reason to marry. It's definately something I'm working on... becoming more reliant on God. Being human I fear being alone even though I'm really not alone. I definately do think many Christians struggle with this though so I'm glad you started this thread!
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iTOREtheSKY
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Well since you are a senior member let's just close the thread as it obviously is causing you to stumble & Lord knows I don't want to be held accountable for a brother or sister in Christ falling off the wagon because of the letter of the word & not the spirit behind it. I obviously touched on some nerve with you & I am sorry. My intentions were never to have people flounder..I would hope all would study the bible on their own & have a personal relationship which Jesus exclusively unto themselves in how he reveals his will unto them. Let's not turn this into a 15-thousand response thread as you said. This will be my last post here. If you want to delete the entire thread,it's fine by me,or I will do it. Let me know. I was not trying to go OVERBOARD...lol.
I do not honestly know. I think I am a very self-driven individual in which I have things I know I must do and currently, there is no room for a relationship, so I do not seek or want one at the moment. But that said, I am still very young, after I do what I must, I cannot imagine living the rest of my life alone.
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iTOREtheSKY
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I wasn't trying to distort the point,but I am glad you realized I WAS indeed mocking you.lol I'm glad you got that..I hate to have to explain the punchline. Peace out!
Well, I would say that men are told to FIND a wife.
So, to me it's not so much 'sending' for men.
As for women, God provides. (In other words, if they need a man, God will provide)
The Apostle Paul said it was better to stay single, because you can serve the Lord instead of your mate. -
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God's grace provides either way. If you want a mate, if you want to smell someone else's socks - - go ahead.
Find Him/Her......they are out there.
But the reality is that Jesus is the Husband of the church.
So if you part of that spiritual assembly you already have a soul mate.
Waiting/searching for Mr./Ms. right? - Who isn't?
But in the final analysis, Jesus IS your soul mate.
So, to me it's not so much 'sending' for men.
As for women, God provides. (In other words, if they need a man, God will provide)
The Apostle Paul said it was better to stay single, because you can serve the Lord instead of your mate. -
- ("Oh Johnny,....blah,blah,blah")
God's grace provides either way. If you want a mate, if you want to smell someone else's socks - - go ahead.
Find Him/Her......they are out there.
But the reality is that Jesus is the Husband of the church.
So if you part of that spiritual assembly you already have a soul mate.
Waiting/searching for Mr./Ms. right? - Who isn't?
But in the final analysis, Jesus IS your soul mate.
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GreenNnice
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Amen, ammiman. And those who love Him will know Him, Scripture tells us.
He knows our every thoughts, He knows what way is not juzt best for us but best blesses us and that way unquestionably will bring glory to His name.
"Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.'
This thread has stuck in my mind for a day or so now. Right this moment, I would have to answer "No!" to the question of would I be cool with God not bringing me a partner. I go through times where it's all I think about, and then I cycle back into normal thought processes. But I had a thought yesterday about this idea... and perhaps I NEED to be ok with the idea of being single for the rest of my life. I started journaling a week ago.. (I hope I can stick with it) I am doing my normal quiet-time/bible study, but now I am reflecting in writing about what qualities/characteristics of God I am reading about, and trying to delight in those, and hopefully learn more about God, and myself in the process. So far it's made me think more deeply about the chapters/passages I am reading, so that is a bonus!
So yeah. Maybe I need to be ok with being single. Contentment with God alone. It's a journey!
But I had a thought yesterday about this idea... and perhaps I NEED to be ok with the idea of being single for the rest of my life. I started journaling a week ago.. (I hope I can stick with it) I am doing my normal quiet-time/bible study, but now I am reflecting in writing about what qualities/characteristics of God I am reading about, and trying to delight in those, and hopefully learn more about God, and myself in the process. So far it's made me think more deeply about the chapters/passages I am reading, so that is a bonus!So yeah. Maybe I need to be ok with being single. Contentment with God alone. It's a journey!
Even if the healing doesn't come. And life falls apart. And dreams are still undone. You are God. You are Good. Forever faithful One. Even if the healing- Even if the healing doesn't come.
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shey
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im not cool being single for life.
i've had sad experiences about falling in love and i am hoping that God will see that and give me the "man" He created for me.
as in, i hope its now or next day or pretty soon!
i really wanna start a relationship with a Believer soon and hopefully get married and raise a family.
that is all i ever needed at this time. haha
i've had sad experiences about falling in love and i am hoping that God will see that and give me the "man" He created for me.
as in, i hope its now or next day or pretty soon!
i really wanna start a relationship with a Believer soon and hopefully get married and raise a family.
that is all i ever needed at this time. haha
That's one of the hardest songs for me to sing and mean the words, but I know it is truth. Thank you for sharing that.
If God does bring me a partner I will be very surprised and may just die of shock right then and there.
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agirlandherguitar
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I'd love to meet a great man, marry him and have children and raise them to know the Lord. That is MY will. God's will may be the same or it may be different. You don't need to get married and have kids in order to raise others up to know the Lord.
If I'm never to marry or have kids then I guess that's a walk I'll have to undertake and take it as it coms. Many married people struggle as well because marriage is HARD work, probably harder than being single at times because your responsibilities are increased by one, two, three or more people as your family grows. Being forever single is difficult because you face the pressures of sex outside a marriage, turning to porn and masturbation, envy, loneliness and depression... although that happens within some marriages too!
I grew up in a strong family where it's the normal thing in my family to marry your first boyfriend or girlfriend and have many babies. While I have a strong desire to do the same as my family I must realize that as time passes by it may not be what God has in store for me, which hurts. I don't want to miss out on those great moments and experiencing that kind of romantic love that is so talked about. I've always been different from my family (not in a black sheep way but the closest to fit the role out of my siblings) so... who knows?
When I get down about it I have to recite Matthew 6:31-34 to myself:
So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
If I'm never to marry or have kids then I guess that's a walk I'll have to undertake and take it as it coms. Many married people struggle as well because marriage is HARD work, probably harder than being single at times because your responsibilities are increased by one, two, three or more people as your family grows. Being forever single is difficult because you face the pressures of sex outside a marriage, turning to porn and masturbation, envy, loneliness and depression... although that happens within some marriages too!
I grew up in a strong family where it's the normal thing in my family to marry your first boyfriend or girlfriend and have many babies. While I have a strong desire to do the same as my family I must realize that as time passes by it may not be what God has in store for me, which hurts. I don't want to miss out on those great moments and experiencing that kind of romantic love that is so talked about. I've always been different from my family (not in a black sheep way but the closest to fit the role out of my siblings) so... who knows?
When I get down about it I have to recite Matthew 6:31-34 to myself:
So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.