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We have had discussions in this forum as to how scripture teaches men and women to deal with one another in relationships that will lead to lasting marriages. A few weeks ago we discussed how important it is to a man to feel respected by his lady. We've also shared scriptural instruction for a man to cherish the woman entrusted to him by the Lord, but I don't know that we have ever discussed why this is so important.
A godly woman can endure tremendous difficulties and hardships, but her purpose in doing so is most always love. No matter how resilient she may appear to be, her heart is extremely fragile. Wise is the man who sees this as the Lord does, and handles her heart with care. If she knows she can trust him with her heart, she will allow him to keep it. If not, she will take it back.
Men are driven. They are competitive. They want to win. They are logical. They are problem solvers. While a woman may share these things in measure, her heart is the core of her being. This is why men are so frustrated when they argue with a woman. Men are trying to make points that will "win" the argument. A woman is usually not really interested in "winning" an argument with her man. She wants to get to the part where she can see the love he has for her. If you want to "win" an argument with the woman you love, state your case, stick to your guns, but, most of all, help her understand how your position is showing love toward her. Let it be less about "winning" and more about growing closer to one another. THAT is how you both win.
"Man's love is of man's life a thing apart, 'tis woman's whole existence." - Lord Byron
A godly woman can endure tremendous difficulties and hardships, but her purpose in doing so is most always love. No matter how resilient she may appear to be, her heart is extremely fragile. Wise is the man who sees this as the Lord does, and handles her heart with care. If she knows she can trust him with her heart, she will allow him to keep it. If not, she will take it back.
Men are driven. They are competitive. They want to win. They are logical. They are problem solvers. While a woman may share these things in measure, her heart is the core of her being. This is why men are so frustrated when they argue with a woman. Men are trying to make points that will "win" the argument. A woman is usually not really interested in "winning" an argument with her man. She wants to get to the part where she can see the love he has for her. If you want to "win" an argument with the woman you love, state your case, stick to your guns, but, most of all, help her understand how your position is showing love toward her. Let it be less about "winning" and more about growing closer to one another. THAT is how you both win.
"Man's love is of man's life a thing apart, 'tis woman's whole existence." - Lord Byron