Too Much or Too Little?

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GRA said:
"MY BAD! Sorry..." :o

With a thread title of 'Too Much or Too Little?'...

I thought that, by using the word 'future' (to represent a certain amount of "unknowing" in a single person's "looking forward" [in time] to becoming a spouse) - and, with the 'seriously' part in double-quotes (to emphasize the particularly 'focused' viewpoint of the one who is concerned) -- it would be understood...

Let me try again...

By "take it too seriously" - I meant - "perform above and beyond the definitions, requirements, and limits that God set in - and intended for - the husband's 'role' -- as viewed by the woman..."

By "not take it seriously enough" - I meant - "perform below and beneath the definitions, requirements, and limits that God set in - and intended for - the wife's 'role' -- as viewed by the man..."

And, just in case this helps:

The woman is afraid that the husband will "over-do" what she believes is "the proper performance of the role"...

The man is afraid that the wife will "under-do" what he believes is "the proper performance of the role"...

Better?

:)
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"I guess 'perform' was not the best word to use..." :( "How about 'act'...?" :confused:

These descriptions were meant in the 'negative' sense of "going overboard" (woman's concern - i.e., "man being a dictator") or "not measuring up" (man's concern - "not a Proverbs 31 woman")...

:)
 
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rachelsedge said:
I think both goes for both.

For a husband to "take it too seriously" (though really the correct phrase would be "misinterpret the Scriptures") would mean demanding, a dictator, won't let his wife do anything without his permission, etc. On the other hand, if he doesn't take it seriously enough, he'll let everything slide, he won't stand up for himself or for his wife.

For a wife to not do as Scripture says, she would undermine her husband, be argumentative, prideful, and disrespectful. On the other end of the spectrum would be a wife who was a doormat, who never offered her husband sound advice, who did not uphold him and support him.

I'd hope that I would know a man enough, know his heart enough, know his love of God enough, that I would know who exactly I was marrying and would not, hopefully, have to deal with either extreme. Obviously, there are going to be times when my husband will fail, and I will fail. We're humans. But if it's a characteristic in the relationship rather than a slip-up, that's where the concern would be.
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Rachel pretty much said everything I could say. :) I will add that yes, I've also noticed these are men and women's usual concerns. Personally, it has been my concern too, but I'm not worried right now.
 
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