This might seem like a dumb question, but...

[NurseGirl26]

At 26, I am still very much inexperienced in dating and relationships and everything related. Therefore, even the "simple" things are sort of a mystery to me. That being said, my question is this: if a guy compliments a girl, what could that mean?

In case more detail is needed, here is the situation that caused me to create this post. The other night at work, I was talking to a male co-worker that I hadn't seen in a while. We were making small talk along with a couple of our other co-workers, when the guy looks at me, smiles, and says, "I really like your new hair. It looks good on you." I cut my hair fairly short a while back, but we've worked together a few times since then and he knew it was short. The only thing new about it is the color is slightly different. Do guys pay that much attention to small details or is it more likely he forgot I cut it short? And is it common for guys to compliment girls on things like that or should I take that to mean something? Like I said, it's probably a dumb question, but I'm just really unsure and don't know how he might have meant it. I apologize if it's a dumb thing to ask. Thanks in advance for any advice/comments anyone might share.

 

[MissCris]

A compliment from a guy doesn't always have to "mean" something; maybe he had noticed before, and just took a while to get around to telling you he thinks it looks nice. Maybe he just noticed, and thought he'd tell you.

Or maybe I should shush and let a guy answer this...

*Backs slowly out of thread*

 

[AAAPlus]

That on its own probably doesn't mean anything. He might have been in a good mood and didn't mean anything by it.

When he start complimenting you daily and you receive texts out of the blue...then you're onto something.

 

[Powemm]

I'm not sure what anything means anymore .. I'm pretty blind to it all.. I just think they're being nice and never think anything further of it... My mom is always like .. you need to pay attention to the "signs" .. I'm like " what signs ?" I dont know what
The "signs" are!!! I do know what the " lookout falling rock signs are now"
But as far as the rest of it .. It has to be made real clear and in writing... Otherwise I'm so not aware...I just presume it as friendship .. unless the obvious is stated the other direction .. then I want to run!

 

[dashadow]

Different guys have different motives. And of course, those motives may change depending on the circumstances. Ask him what's on his mind.

 

[MissCris]

I'm not sure what anything means anymore .. I'm pretty blind to it all.. I just think they're being nice and never think anything further of it... My mom is always like .. you need to pay attention to the "signs" .. I'm like " what signs ?" I dont know what
The "signs" are!!! I do know what the " lookout falling rock signs are now"
But as far as the rest of it .. It has to be made real clear and in writing... Otherwise I'm so not aware...I just presume it as friendship .. unless the obvious is stated the other direction .. then I want to run!

I hate those signs. They always make me think, "Oh...so, just ONE rock, then?"

And then a whole avalanche of them falls out of nowhere, and I'm like, "That sign...is a liar."

Uhh..oh! So, compliments. Yeah, I don't usually realize when someone gives me a compliment, or if I do, I just act all stupid like I'm five and someone just said a naughty word.

I dunno what I'm even doing in this thread again, someone must've left the door open.

 

[Powemm]

I hate those signs. They always make me think, "Oh...so, just ONE rock, then?"

And then a whole avalanche of them falls out of nowhere, and I'm like, "That sign...is a liar."

Uhh..oh! So, compliments. Yeah, I don't usually realize when someone gives me a compliment, or if I do, I just act all stupid
like I'm five and someone just said a naughty word.

I dunno what I'm even doing in this thread again, someone must've left the door open.

HAHAHA!!! Well apparently i wander into them
Too.. Yes the avalanches I'm perfectly clear on .. I think the first one I just stood there and went. "oh ! What's that?"
And is it really going to hit me? Say it isn't so!!
well after a broken sternum im happy to report .. The avalanches are all the same ! They do hit you and it "does hurt!" lol

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I haven't really put my 2 cents into this thread because I know I don't think like most men do. I have been known to compliment highly married & single women,saved,or secular..just for no reason other than to state the obvious like,she looked nice today..or her hair looks cool,or I love yer' Skinny Puppy T-shirt...or I overheard how you handled that customer..awesome job...I'd have lost my marbles. Just because a guy gives a compliment or shows interest in a woman doesn't always mean he "likes" them romantically or sexually. Then again,every guy is different in expressing his interest I suppose. Same goes for men not always knowing if a woman is interested in him outside of being a friend,sometimes it's hard to tell. lol best thing is just ask. Say.."dude,are you hittin' on me?" ok..maybe that's not the way to go. *quickly runs out of thread,leaves it to the more spiritually evolved bunch*

 

[Powemm]

Dude are you hitting on me ????? Geez that sounds so .. I
Dunno .. Vain?
ok I tried it .. I don't like how it feels .. I don't know
If I don't like it or I just really have no idea what to do if he said yes... Geez I'm so not good at this stuff ..
no wonder I'm single!!!

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

lol..well,see..I give bad advice...tis why I don't give it much.LOL

 

[Powemm]

I was just trying it out ..no I think it's good advice .. It just feels weird because I've never done it ..

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I ♥ U...and yer' little cob home too. LOL

 

[Powemm]

Wuv you too
Pookey.. Lol!!
I will have a cob on the range some day .. It's coming I tell you! it's coming!!

 

[Markum1972]

I hate those signs. They always make me think, "Oh...so, just ONE rock, then?"

And then a whole avalanche of them falls out of nowhere, and I'm like, "That sign...is a liar."

Uhh..oh! So, compliments. Yeah, I don't usually realize when someone gives me a compliment, or if I do, I just act all stupid like I'm five and someone just said a naughty word.

I dunno what I'm even doing in this thread again, someone must've left the door open.

I know this is leading off topic, but I always laugh at the signs that say "Watch for ice on bridge" in the middle of summertime. Stop dumping out your cups of ice on the bridge people! It's obviously not safe! <yes... I know my humor is strange sometimes... lol>

 

[agirlandherguitar]

I'm like you Nursey-Nurse. I have no real experience when it comes to the lads (maybe they run away because I call them "lads"? Hmmm...)

But I like to think that men aren't... "subtle" creatures (no offense LADS) like how women are with each other. We can practically communicate telepathically with one another. I'm sure some men play it smooth and when they like somebody act like they don't... or whatever immature game suits their mood, but most of the time men are pretty obvious. To quote and over quoted quote: He's just not that into you. Meaning... if a guy likes you he'll put in the effort and show you. Unless he deals with anxiety and the fear of rejection (don't we all at some point?) then a guy will straight up say what he's thinking.

I admire that quality in a lot of men... even if sometimes it comes off as rude or insensitive. A lot of women are too caught up in games and body language and all of that silly magazine psychology. The worst was one article I read titled "What does his body language say to you?" and one of the observations was if his pupils dialate when he sees you that means that he's "enjoying the view"... thanks Cosmobabble. Now I'll lean in reeeaaalll close to see if my crush's pupils are the size of dinner plates. Sigh!

 

[leelee]

It seems likely to me that he saw you outside a work setting and noticed you more. then he realised he liked your haor and said so. I don't think it means moee than that at this stage.

 

[zeroturbulence]

At 26, I am still very much inexperienced in dating and relationships and everything related. Therefore, even the "simple" things are sort of a mystery to me. That being said, my question is this: if a guy compliments a girl, what could that mean?

In case more detail is needed, here is the situation that caused me to create this post. The other night at work, I was talking to a male co-worker that I hadn't seen in a while. We were making small talk along with a couple of our other co-workers, when the guy looks at me, smiles, and says, "I really like your new hair. It looks good on you." I cut my hair fairly short a while back, but we've worked together a few times since then and he knew it was short. The only thing new about it is the color is slightly different. Do guys pay that much attention to small details or is it more likely he forgot I cut it short? And is it common for guys to compliment girls on things like that or should I take that to mean something? Like I said, it's probably a dumb question, but I'm just really unsure and don't know how he might have meant it. I apologize if it's a dumb thing to ask. Thanks in advance for any advice/comments anyone might share.

It depends on how shy he is. If he is shy like I used to be then it's probably his way of telling you that he likes you. If he's not shy then its probably nothing but a compliment. I used to be so shy that if I said something like that it meant that I really liked you but was too afraid to say anything that might jeopardize the friendship.

 

[rachelsedge]

NurseGirl26, I feel you. There's a guy I like at my Bible study group, and he liked three of my statuses on Facebook (you heard me right, folks, a whopping THREE!!) recently and my eyes just got wide. And he seems friendlier to me at Bible study too, but he's a friendly guy to begin with.

I have a problem of either reading into everything or being completely oblivious. *Sigh*

Anyway, try not to read too much into it, and just wait and see if anything else happens. Girls think guys are hard to read and guys think girls are hard to read. It's frustrating but kind of hilarious.

 

[relientkchick_4]

NurseGirl26, I feel you. There's a guy I like at my Bible study group, and he liked three of my statuses on Facebook (you heard me right, folks, a whopping THREE!!) recently and my eyes just got wide. And he seems friendlier to me at Bible study too, but he's a friendly guy to begin with.

I have a problem of either reading into everything or being completely oblivious. *Sigh*

Anyway, try not to read too much into it, and just wait and see if anything else happens. Girls think guys are hard to read and guys think girls are hard to read. It's frustrating but kind of hilarious.

i tend to read into everything as well.... its difficult sometimes! Pray about it!

 

[Buff_Old_Guy]

Unfortunately.... I'm the guy and reason why women make these threads. I remember in a young adult group I used to talk to a certain girl. I honestly was very fond of her as a friend. I really liked her, as a friend. I really enjoyed her company and I actually was starting to like her, as more than friends. I used to compliment her and say nice things about her because that's how I honestly felt about her. I can be very nice and generous with compliments. Once I said in-front of both her and my friend, "Isn't she like the coolest girl in church?" and followed with..."Yeah she's like the coolest girl in church" and me with a big smile... she hugged me and I held her extra tight... and she then went in for another hug... I hugged her extra tight again.

See.... that was my mistake. Later on, she made my friend ask me if I liked her. My friend said that I was giving her a lot of signs. But, I replied and told my friend that I didn't give her not even one sign. Then the next few weeks, she just gave me the cold shoulder. (We're okay now though as friends)

And that's why some women have these dilemmas. Ladies, ladies, ladies, sometimes guys can be too nice to you and that's all it is. Just a guy being nice. While yes I admit I was starting to like her... none of those nice gestures and compliments were thrown at her as signs by me. The way I'd give a sign is... by bluntly telling a girl I like her. I don't beat around the bush.

So, the moral of the story is..... guys give signs differently. Ladies, don't assume all guys give out signs the same way. Get to know these guys, very well. That way you know if he's giving you a sign or not. Be careful ok, don't let your imagination run wild. You'll hurt yourself that way. Hope that helps.