Anger

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cassiemorris

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Jun 24, 2012
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Hi all

I just want some help at the moment.

Well the thing is I going on holiday tomorrow with my Dad and Brother I should be excited and happy but no i'm not.
Every holiday for the last three or four years my dad has been putting me down and having a dig at me on holidays in front of everybody. He even shouted at my Brother in the middle of the supermarket only because he was suggesting to him he could by something. My brother is 36 and I am 33. but because I am so sensitive I cry and it's upsetting and then if he see me cry he says you wouldn't think that your a grown women.
But this isn't just on holiday it's at home or any where, I learning to drive when I first said that to him he said I don't think you can do that. if it was anybody else their farther would say good luck hope it goes well for you.
He puts me down so I am really low. I wish I could have the guts to say something to him.
But when he has a go at me or puts me down I think God is my Farther my almighty farther and maybe one day he will shout at you and make you cry.
But the thing I need help with really is that it is making me angry which you are allowed to be but it getting to the point that I just want lash out at anybody i can feel it inside i want it to go away i am no way looking to this holiday. anad i don't want my dad putting me down all the time because i feel like i am useless that what my dad said to me once as well.
And i'm finding it hard to respect my Dad and i know i should but the way he is sometimes it easier for me not to.

So if you could please give me a few suggestions i would really really appreciate it so much, thanks for taking the time to read my problem.
 
Simona25

Simona25

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Cassie,

Why do you go with your father on holiday if you hate it to?
 
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cassiemorris

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Jun 24, 2012
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Because he like that even at home but worse on holiday.
I thought he would of be more relaxed on holiday and we just all go together. But this time I think me my brother will do our own thing.
 
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Ericb0223

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Sometimes people express concern with anger, perhaps he is worried about your future? From what I have read it sounds like you and your brother live at home, which I think is okay, but are you two doing your part in the house hold? I don't mean to question you I just am trying to get a better understanding of the full picture. If you two both work and are self sufficient maybe it would be best to go out and get your own place.
 
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jb

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Feb 27, 2010
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cassiemorris said:
Hi all

I just want some help at the moment.

Well the thing is I going on holiday tomorrow with my Dad and Brother I should be excited and happy but no i'm not.
Every holiday for the last three or four years my dad has been putting me down and having a dig at me on holidays in front of everybody. He even shouted at my Brother in the middle of the supermarket only because he was suggesting to him he could by something. My brother is 36 and I am 33. but because I am so sensitive I cry and it's upsetting and then if he see me cry he says you wouldn't think that your a grown women.
But this isn't just on holiday it's at home or any where, I learning to drive when I first said that to him he said I don't think you can do that. if it was anybody else their farther would say good luck hope it goes well for you.
He puts me down so I am really low. I wish I could have the guts to say something to him.
But when he has a go at me or puts me down I think God is my Farther my almighty farther and maybe one day he will shout at you and make you cry.
But the thing I need help with really is that it is making me angry which you are allowed to be but it getting to the point that I just want lash out at anybody i can feel it inside i want it to go away i am no way looking to this holiday. anad i don't want my dad putting me down all the time because i feel like i am useless that what my dad said to me once as well.
And i'm finding it hard to respect my Dad and i know i should but the way he is sometimes it easier for me not to.

So if you could please give me a few suggestions i would really really appreciate it so much, thanks for taking the time to read my problem.
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Move out from home and into your own place...

Don't go on holiday with your dad!

QED
 
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cassiemorris

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Jun 24, 2012
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I live at home my brother got his own place. I do my bit in the house hold
 
p_rehbein

p_rehbein

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So, wait until you and him are out in a crowd, then yell REALLY LOUD!!!! WHAT DID YOU SAY? (even though he may not have said anything at all)

Then snatch him up by the nape of his neck, give him a good shake, slap him several times across the kisser and shout......

NEVER SAY SUCH A THING TO ME AGAIN!

(if nothing else, you might feel better)

[you probably don't want to do any of this, but I enjoyed typing it............. :) ]
 
Simona25

Simona25

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p_rehbein said:
So, wait until you and him are out in a crowd, then yell REALLY LOUD!!!! WHAT DID YOU SAY? (even though he may not have said anything at all)

Then snatch him up by the nape of his neck, give him a good shake, slap him several times across the kisser and shout......

NEVER SAY SUCH A THING TO ME AGAIN!

(if nothing else, you might feel better)

[you probably don't want to do any of this, but I enjoyed typing it............. :) ]
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This was very fun reading :)))
 
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waterlily

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p_rehbein said:
So, wait until you and him are out in a crowd, then yell REALLY LOUD!!!! WHAT DID YOU SAY? (even though he may not have said anything at all)

Then snatch him up by the nape of his neck, give him a good shake, slap him several times across the kisser and shout......

NEVER SAY SUCH A THING TO ME AGAIN!

(if nothing else, you might feel better)

[you probably don't want to do any of this, but I enjoyed typing it............. :) ]
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ummm... Does this work with frustrating relatives too??? Other than fathers???
 
Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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cassiemorris said:
Hi all

I just want some help at the moment.

Well the thing is I going on holiday tomorrow with my Dad and Brother I should be excited and happy but no i'm not.
Every holiday for the last three or four years my dad has been putting me down and having a dig at me on holidays in front of everybody. He even shouted at my Brother in the middle of the supermarket only because he was suggesting to him he could by something. My brother is 36 and I am 33. but because I am so sensitive I cry and it's upsetting and then if he see me cry he says you wouldn't think that your a grown women.
But this isn't just on holiday it's at home or any where, I learning to drive when I first said that to him he said I don't think you can do that. if it was anybody else their farther would say good luck hope it goes well for you.
He puts me down so I am really low. I wish I could have the guts to say something to him.
But when he has a go at me or puts me down I think God is my Farther my almighty farther and maybe one day he will shout at you and make you cry.
But the thing I need help with really is that it is making me angry which you are allowed to be but it getting to the point that I just want lash out at anybody i can feel it inside i want it to go away i am no way looking to this holiday. anad i don't want my dad putting me down all the time because i feel like i am useless that what my dad said to me once as well.
And i'm finding it hard to respect my Dad and i know i should but the way he is sometimes it easier for me not to.

So if you could please give me a few suggestions i would really really appreciate it so much, thanks for taking the time to read my problem.
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Protect yourself against difficult people at all times. Walk out now. Dont wait until your patience run out or you could end up killing your father with your bare hands. Forgive him but that doesnt mean you continue living with him. Set yourself free, you dont deserve to be abused. Anger is medicine if within the expiration date, beyond that it becomes poison/toxic. God bless...
 
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SarahMoore

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I understand this is your father and you want to make him happy. But sometimes we need to take a step back from a situation and take care of our own well being first. If he is truly upsetting you this badly I day dont attend these holiday get togethers. I am not speaking from a very religious aspect more a common sense aspect. There is no point in hurting yourself to make someone else happy. They say a person who tries to please everyone pleases no one. Its true. Maybe its juvenile but if you need to write a letter to your father and tell him how you feel. Tactfully of course. Just be open and honest with him. It will give you a chance to tell him what you want him to know without him interrupting you or brushing you off. It may also give him time to reflect on what you had to say. Just a suggestion. I wish you all possible luck. :)

God bless.
 
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cassiemorris

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Jun 24, 2012
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Thanks all for your help holiday was ok and Dad was ok had a few moments but I have said I not going on holiday again because I can't afford it which came at a good time really so thanks again

God Bless You
 
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