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SarahUmbreon

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So this is what happened, this happened I wanna say 2, possibly 3 months ago. In my effort to make friendships, I joined a chat website that is just focused on friendships. I had someone contact me and we talked about Christian stuff, it was going well until he was pushing for the idea for me and him to create a website that would preach about the gospel and whatnot.

I don’t know how to make websites and to be honest, I wasn’t interested, because I joined that chat website to talk to people, not to get or do stuff (Had another person try to get me into bit coin mining, lol), so I just deleted the message he sent me because I kept trying to explain how I don’t feel up for doing what he wanted us to do, and he was relating my hesitation to people in the Bible. So I just felt like my opinions and stance on not wanting to do it just was not getting across to him.

I thought about it and talked to my mom, asking if it was okay to not be doing something that could have served the lord, my mom told me if I did not feel like doing it, then that is okay and the lord was not calling to me to do that stuff.

I know I’m not the only one that has had to go through something like this, share a similar experience and how you decide if the lord wants you to do something for him, should be fun hearing interesting stories ^_^
 

SarahUmbreon

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I would recommend a study named: driven by eternity, freely available on youtube :)
Thanks, I’ll try to look it up when I can ^_^

Yeah, he was a nice person, but I don’t think he understood my disability, since I have mild Asperger’s syndrome, even though I can function, it’s hard for me to be social in real life, and I just don’t see myself leading in church groups or anything like that. I have honestly just enjoyed sharing my personal life story on here and wanting to show people how a different culture, without a Christ centered view, can very much need help. I don’t know if I can do it now, but making some like a “Help group for nerdy Christians/reaching out to nerds to show them God” doesn’t sound bad, like I’m not sure I would run it, but maybe something to show people who are so engrossed into their hobbies and whatnot, how God loves everyone and you can be reborn into a new person, yes past sins will still have an effect on a person, I did accidentally dip back into homosexual anime, but that was because my faith foundation was not strong enough, this pandemic has helped me to realize this. Plus, while I can give help, I believe when it comes to really hard questions, that it is best to reach out to a pastor and talk to them, because they are more well versed in the Bible than I am right now.

Plus, he was saying just because I’m Christian, shouldn’t stop my dreams. What it was I was trying to explain how I don’t want to be part of the videogame industry because they are leaning very heavily on pandering to homosexual and loot box issues. I explained how this videogame I love, A hat in Time, has the Transgender flag as a hidden Easter egg, which just honestly pisses me off cause the game has nothing to with sex, it’s just a fun platforming game, similar to Super Mario Sunshine. So I was saying how I would honestly want my name taken out of the credits. But he said I don’t have to make the Easter Egg. That wasn’t what I was trying to point out, just being part of a team that would allow that kind of Easter egg into the game, I would want my name removed, I already know I wouldn’t make it. Easter eggs are just supposed to be fun references to cultural stuff, not the pride flags, especially since the Easter egg, it’s in the DLC, which means the original game did not have that Easter egg, they decided to put into the game’s DLC...*sigh* it’s all very frustrating.

So I’m just taking baby steps and trying to help people in what I feel most comfortable doing right now. Maybe I’ll grow, but I think there is nothing wrong with Baby steps, sharing my personal story on here was basically a HUGE baby step for me, lol.
 

Lanolin

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well Because God knows you better than anyone else does and what you can and cant do, He finds things that meet you where you are. If you need training He will equip you. He doesnt throw you in the deep end.

example. a lot of people expect as soon as you come out of the river from being baptised that you are just going to be able to preach the gospel and fly to another country and hit the ground running and build a new church from scratch. which is totally unrealistic but...some people in church are kinda pushy that way! Never mind that you have zero finances, cant speak the language and maybe havent even read all of the Bible yet!
 

GaryA

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My advice:

Steer clear of guys who try to 'guilt' you into doing things that you know are wrong or would be uncomfortable with.

(I am quite certain that God did/would not guide you there.)
 
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Live reading your testimony and I think it's great that you were able to be strong enough not to be cohersed into doing something that you just didn't wanna do.Many times jesus said no to certain things even though on the surface it seemed legitimate..so yes God will guide us if we follow our gut feelings and seek godly counsel.
That's why it's never always wise to make big decisions or certain decisions due to pressures from others.
 
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Sounds like manipulation of the Scripture to me. It's the devil that rushes and is hasty, not the mind of God. Here's a verse for you about people like that:

Matthew 11:16 But whereunto shall I liken this generation? It is like unto children sitting in the markets, and calling unto their fellows, 17 And saying, We have piped unto you, and ye have not danced; we have mourned unto you, and ye have not lamented.

Steer clear and do as drawn by the Spirit, friend.
 
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I think you are a pretty cool person Sarah. It is hard to resist someone else's requests. We feel awkward and it is uncomfortable. It is hard but I've learned to say that I'm not feeling the same way but I'll pray about it. If nothing changes, I go back to them and let them know that I'm not seeing the Lord's leading for me in that direction. I had a time at my church's women's group where I was asked to help co-lead a beginners bible study. I said that sounded good. Then I heard how the leader planned to do things and her ideas were not at all how I would approach it, or something I could agree to do. I had to tell her that her vision of this wouldn't work with my skill set (I'm trying not to get too wordy here and explain everything). She was not happy but I knew in my heart that this was not the place for me.
My gifts are in encouragement, walking alongside people, often people in the church who are discouraged or have fallen away. Here is the thing. We can know something is good but it doesn't mean that that "good" is God's best. We sometimes do things he didn't call us to do because we figured we ought to do them. Usually those efforts fall flat.
I believe that if we pray and are open to learning from God, we will know his direction for us. It might not make any sense to us at the time and we might not know why that was our mission but trust Him. He has this. He won't let you miss what he intends you to do.
You did the right thing. Bless you little sis.
 
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I think you are a pretty cool person Sarah. It is hard to resist someone else's requests. We feel awkward and it is uncomfortable. It is hard but I've learned to say that I'm not feeling the same way but I'll pray about it. If nothing changes, I go back to them and let them know that I'm not seeing the Lord's leading for me in that direction. I had a time at my church's women's group where I was asked to help co-lead a beginners bible study. I said that sounded good. Then I heard how the leader planned to do things and her ideas were not at all how I would approach it, or something I could agree to do. I had to tell her that her vision of this wouldn't work with my skill set (I'm trying not to get too wordy here and explain everything). She was not happy but I knew in my heart that this was not the place for me.
My gifts are in encouragement, walking alongside people, often people in the church who are discouraged or have fallen away. Here is the thing. We can know something is good but it doesn't mean that that "good" is God's best. We sometimes do things he didn't call us to do because we figured we ought to do them. Usually those efforts fall flat.
I believe that if we pray and are open to learning from God, we will know his direction for us. It might not make any sense to us at the time and we might not know why that was our mission but trust Him. He has this. He won't let you miss what he intends you to do.
You did the right thing. Bless you little sis.
Thanks, yeah I just knew my stance on not wanting to do make the website was not getting across to him, cause he started comparing my avoidance to how Moses didn't feel like he could lead people or to how Paul used to not be good, but went on to preach the gospel, pretty sure at that point I told him no twice, with saying I don't feel confident in it and that I feel like I couldn't help to answer serious questions, that I'm sure only a pastor can answer, not saying I'm doubting myself, but I feel fine right now not managing a website to preach the gospel, I can't even make a website and don't see myself learning how to, not being mean just honest, lol

I truly do believe God gives us certain skills, to express to others the love we have for him. I remember reading this story in one of my bible study plans, how this young girl was able to lie about her age and work in a planned parenthood building, to share what they actually do to show awful they are. I told my mom this story, saying I could just never see myself doing this, and she told me that's okay, we use what we can do best serve God, like even just doing prayer for others is enough to show love. If you can do more, that's cool, but it's not works that will get us to heaven, it's by keeping strong to believing that God is our salvation, and nothing else can save us.

At this point, if I knew about CC I would have definitely told him to get on CC, to share what he wants to do with others who would be interested, but it's been like 3 months since that last conversation, I think it's too late and since I've heard nothing back, it probably was okay that I never responded back, I was just on that website to make friends, but now I barely use that website, just being here on CC is enough for me right now :3