I've thought this over multiple times. And i'm curious of other opinions on here.
I think masturbation is a sin if you're lusting after somebody else while doing it. If you could actually do that, without lusting after someone else, then I dont believe it would be sin. But I also think it's nearly impossible to masturbate without lusting after someone in some kind of way.
But i'd love to hear other opinions.
There was a time in my life when I stayed high and was promiscuous, but the spirit of God overcame my evil desires. Self-control is a fruit of the spirit. That's the only reliable way to overcome any fleshly desire. Desire itself is not sin just like sex itself is not sin, but either done in a way that is contrary to God's will is sin. Enjoying sexual pleasure is a gift from God for married folks. Getting yourself off really isn't going to help you in the long run any more than just going for it and hooking up with a partner. Both are just about satisfying your fleshly desire instead of being in the spirit. I've been sober and celibate for years but only by the power of God, not my own will power. Lots of folks get love and lust, or desire, confused. True spiritual love doesn't cause you to suffer with desire for someone else or simply for another rush. Sexual orgasm causes your brain to secrete chemicals similar to a drug rush. That's why it's counterproductive spiritually to depend on it for peace of mind. The more you get, the more you'll want. The only way to overcome obsessive desire for anything is the spirit of God. That includes food, smokes, booze, dope, sex, money, whatever. You can fool yourself into thinking you're not having sex when you don't hook up with somebody else, but you're still stimulating your sex organ, right? And for what purpose? It is to give yourself fleshly pleasure to satisfy your soul. Scripture says, "For the word of God is living and operative, and keen above any two-edged sword, and penetrating up to the parting of soul and spirit, both of the articulations and marrow, and is a judge of the sentiments and thoughts of the heart." (Hebrews 4:12) The soul is the conscious sensation resulting from the combination of spirit with an organic body. The soul is about experiencing the senses. When you're primary goal is to feel a sexual sensation to satisfy your soul at the expense of your spirit, you will ultimately be disappointed because the spirit, the imperceptible power of action, life, and intelligence is the only source of peace and true love. I recommend studying the word of God the next time you want to get yourself off. I speak from experience at overcoming my own demons. That's why it's called the sword of the spirit. God bless you, sister.
"13 Therefore take up the panoply of God that you may be enabled to withstand in the wicked day, and having effected all, to stand.
14 Stand, then, girded about your loins with truth, with the cuirass of righteousness put on,
15 and your feet sandaled with the readiness of the evangel of peace;
16 with all taking up the large shield of faith, by which you will be able to extinguish all the fiery arrows of the wicked one.
17 And receive the helmet of salvation and the sword of the spirit, which is a declaration of God." (Ephesians 6:13-17)
The Greek transliteration "epithumia" means desire, coveting, lust, yearning.
"16 Now I am saying, Walk in spirit, and you should under no circumstances be consummating the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh is lusting against the spirit, yet the spirit against the flesh. Now these are opposing one another, lest you should be doing whatever you may want.
18 Now, if you are led by spirit, you are not still under law.
19 Now apparent are the works of the flesh, which are adultery, prostitution, uncleanness, wantonness,
20 idolatry, enchantment, enmities, strife, jealousies, furies, factions, dissensions, sects,
21 envies, murders, drunkennesses, revelries, and the like of these, which, I am predicting to you, according as I predicted also, that those committing such things shall not be enjoying the allotment of the kingdom of God.
22 Now the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 meekness, self-control: against such things there is no law.
24 Now those of Christ Jesus crucify the flesh together with its passions, and lusts." (Galatians 5:16-24)
"5 Deaden, then, your members that are on the earth: prostitution, uncleanness, passion, evil desire and greed, which is idolatry,
6 because of which the indignation of God is coming on the sons of stubborness --
7 among whom you also once walked, when you lived in these things." (Colossians 3:5-7)
"17 This, then, I am saying and attesting in the Lord: By no means are you still to be walking according as those of the nations also are walking, in the vanity of their mind,
18 their comprehension being darkened, being estranged from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the callousness of their hearts,
19 who, being past feeling, in greed give themselves up with wantonness to all uncleanness as a vocation.
20 Now you did not thus learn Christ,
21 since, surely, Him you hear, and by Him were taught (according as the truth is in Jesus),
22 to put off from you, as regards your former behavior, the old humanity which is corrupted in accord with its seductive desires,
23 yet to be rejuvenated in the spirit of your mind,
24 and to put on the new humanity which, in accord with God, is being created in righteousness and benignity of the truth." (Ephesians 4:17-22)